After a certain age, it becomes harder and harder to find (age compatible) people who don't have kids, so that might be something you have to be willing to accept, or risk remaining alone.

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If that was meant for me Painte, then you're wrong! The lassie i'm with just now hasn't got any kids, but wants kids with the right guy. After bringing up my son on my own, i'd rather just raise my own kids!

If my comment had been meant for you, I would have quoted whatever you said (I didn't even read your post, so I have no idea what you said). My comment was directed at the OP, in an attempt to answer his question, since that's what I assumed this thread was about.

Also, if you re-read what I said to the OP, you will see that I said it becomes harder, not impossible, which is not the same thing. And I hold to that, the older you get, it will become harder to find age compatible people who don't have kids- if they want them.

Kids to me are a blessing. The only problem I've experienced was breaking up after being so attached. Don't think its not hard on the little ones either. I haven't gotten that far into a relationship with having my own kids yet. Its something I worry about. Its not just me anymore its me and my kids. I'm not rushing.

Most of the woman I have dated have already had kids. I have a teenager of my own too though so..... I have to say I agree with Painted on this.

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I guess the whole dating with kids concept comes right back to my definition of dating versus someone else's.

My definition of dating is, was, and always will be a fairly limited relationship. I meet people outside my "personal space" and most would not dream of coming to my door, much less into my home on the initial dates. I don't live in a public place and certainly not a resturant or hotel. And initially I only bring a date around when a for lack of a better word, chaparone, was around to make sure nothing that should not happen, did not happen, or appear to happen was not documented. To me it was always a thing of self respect and respect of my children.

My kids got educated that Mom had adult friends, co-workers, and dates from a very young age. Partially because they often traveled with me for work and because true friends knew how to come over and conduct themselves in my home but because I started dating when I divorced and they were right at kindergarten age. Not unlike one of the other posters it was no secret I had a profoundly disabled child and my own "differences" as an adult breadwinner/head of household. Granted I rarely dated anyone who was not a friend of a close friend or vouched for three ways to Sunday between my military and social work, and cop friends but even now you don't get through my door with out a serious look see. lol

So there was NO confusion who was what and what a date was and was not. My kids knew who Mom associated with and demonstrated social courtesy towards many adults then were excused to lives. Had anyone even tried to got "frisky" or parental around my kids they would have gotten kicked to the curb so hard and fast they probably would not have known what hit them. While we often entertained as a family some where's up to parties of 50 people there was no boozey bed and breakfast balogne going on in my home so there was no "confusion".

My late husband who was wonderful on all levels and provided plentifully for my kids almost immediately did not even attempt to care for or disciplened my kids until we were married. There was never a need to. I had well trained trusted family and paid licensed caregivers for that. And only limited then until their birth father legally vacated his rights a couple years after we married and he not only had them adopted but Baptised as his children so he had the entire family and community supporting his role as parent. Then he usually just advise me and or we came to a meeting of the minds how things would be handled. Since I did not make him a second class citizen in our mutual home on any level it wasn't out of weakness or disinterest but respect for me. Perhaps he would have been more authoratarian with them in their late teens and 20's but he passed away. Keep in mind I trusted him with our lives completely and he commanded power and respect from everyone for his exceptional leadership abilities but he just also respected boundries or he would have been gone in a New York minute. As were a couple of fools who mistakenly thought they did not have to earn the privelege to open their mouth about my kids. Part of it was because was VERY RARE my kids were ever out of control. Even profoundly physically impaired for several years nobody question how my kids were taken care of or who was in charge.

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I don't really see it as a problem but I'm not looking to rush into living with somebody. I don't dislike children but I have no particular interest in them. I became an uncle last year and people kept asking me how I felt about that but I don't really see what it's got to do with me.

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