How long is a piece of string? Different men will look for different things, depending on their priorities, their social upbringing, and their aspirations in life. If a man is looking for a marriage or permanent relationship, then he is going to look for someone compatible, ie shared interests, mutual respect for each other, easy to converse with, of a similar intellectual capacity. He would look for someone caring, a good homemaker, mothering potential for his children, and probably with some domestic skills. She would need to be physically attractive to him (whatever that might be) and most men do want an active sexual partner. Whilst most sincere men will want a 50:50 sharing of responsibility in a relationship, men's egos (driven by historical tradition) tend to like the man to have a 51% share of the authority. Unfortunately, there are plenty of lazy men out there who think that once they have done their day's work they can come home and be papmered by their wives, and they don't contribute to the running of a house or family. Beware of such guys, for these tend to be the relationships that break down first. Both partners have to constantly work together.
Secondly, there are the younger single guys who are only looking to add notches to their bedpost. These guys don't really look for anything much in a woman beyond her willingness to submit to his desires.
And thirdly, there are the slightly older married men, like me, who have a basically sound and happy marriage, but for whom a little bit of the spark has gone out, and they just require a temporary boost to keep them going. Men like me are looking for a woman in a similar situation, so that through a casual, mutually-beneficial and discrete fling they can get themselves reinvigorated. In such cases, we men understand better what the female partner is also looking for, and are generally happy to give and receive in equal measure.

How long is a piece of string? Different men will look for different things, depending on their priorities, their social upbringing, and their aspirations in life.

Different men are looking for different things. For myself I'm looking for a true love, full of mutual respect, kindness,romance and the feeling that I matter to someone in this world.

I think most people are looking for someone to make them feel good about themselves until they meet someone they fall in love with or until they get tired of the games.

We want them to help us find the TV remote control.

When one partner loses interest in sex ( for whatever reason, perhaps a medical condition as in my wife's case) it can be hard to sustain an otherwise good marriage. My wife knows i am unhappy in this respect but cannot do anything to help. Whilst advertising my availability on here, I am always careful to ensure people know I am not looking for anything serious, so I am upfront and honest about it..... Hence why I chose the clearly unambiguous username "clitkisser".. I do not want to look for a permanent mistress, as this could interfere with my feelings for my wife, and I don't want to take the risk of using paid female escorts. Men like myself have no wish to hurt anyone, but simply need a little occasional physical release, and preferably with a woman who is in the same situation.
Anyone who is in this situation will know what I mean, although I can understand some peolpe thinking we are just lovecheats or users...... That is their view only.

"using" each other is part of every relationship... when it's being abused, thats when the problems start...

but as far as women go, i like the ones that are smiling, not in a bad mood... nonbitchy, sweet, smart and sincere...

but they are always taken...

Rosie and Jill or otherwise known as right hand or left hand. You need a release, dust a few knuckle children out then, instead of looking elsewhere outside your marriage for sexual gratification. Just sick and tired of asswipes like this ruining it for those of us actually looking for a meaningful friendship/relationship. In my opinion!