so terribly. I will like Insulting him and make him see my heart and feel same but its not possible because I end up knowing that he never have any feeling for me from the start.

I say this half in jest and half in truth... the answer is that I really don't feel much any more....kinda numbed dwon...which I guess is better than being "dumbed down"

though I am not sure about that. Sometimes I'd rather be more of a feeler and dumbed down watching reality TV if it meant a cuddly new baby kind of happiness...lol

wow! thanks so much. I feel better

lol. do u think reality TV will help?

Klc and sweetest

Zoe don't let yourself go down that path of vindictiveness. You sound just like me. When Ive been hurt I just want to make that person feel my pain. Beat on his chest until his heart feels just like mine. Its just pointless tho because like you said they never really cared or don't anymore. Its better to just move on and let someone else know and feel how much you can love.

ur welcome! I love the name Zoe!

well I was speaking somewhat tongue in cheek, actaully :)

thanks CB. I am not vindictive....I can't FEEL enough to be vindictive in all truth

Excellent post KLC

guys thanks a lot.

The best way to get back at him is just live your life and be happy. Don't say a word to him and show him that you are a better person than he is. Spend some time with friends and have a few laughs. You will be surprised how much better you will feel with some supportive friends.

Good advice...

Being vindictive gets you no where but more hurt... You can't hurt someone that does not care...

Moving on in life will make you feel better. Take time for yourself look at the relationship. Most of the time you will find so many flaws within it that you will finally see how toxic it really was.. Just be blessed you are out of it and learn to enjoy life on your own...

You don't need another person to make you happy...sure it is a plus at times but if your not happy with yourself you will never be happy.

Yes! Watch the Ducks!

Everyone gets hurt, at sometime, Zoe.
The potential is always there.
Handling it is another matter.
You learn as you go.

It is what makes love, so valuable.
The high cost of finding it.

The best revenge is to just live better.Besides with your electric smile I'm sure you will meet plenty of men willing to treat you nice. Best wishes.

I have been hurt twice - with only the two women that I have been with - one only short time, with the first lady I found that I was being "Used" while at the same time I loved her. Then with the next one the recent marriage break up has affected me heavily both mentally and physically as well as financially , I met my wife just out of a marriage break up, she had NOTHING, two daughters and some other items, we were having a beautiful relationship, I could not have asked for more, we had a lovely wedding too! then she got hooked on chat line almost 24 hours everyday and only spoke to me very late at night once she got into bed to wake me up! My health suffered, had depression issues that had affected me many years, so I did what was said as advice from people in the health field, called off the marriage to stand up for myself and look after number one. The wife this time comes out better off than she did in her previous marriage, bought herself a house etc. I bent over backwards many years to help her out when things got really bad, spent quality time with her till she came right, what did I get in return? NOTHING! This has not put me off women at all, I love women and know very well not all women are like that.

Soulfiehere: While I do agree with you, everyone is different, some feel more hurt than others to the stage where they never want to meet anyone again and are unavailable. I fully respect their feelings and leave them alone rather than pressure them - I'm not saying you are okay?
as what you have said in your comment is reasonable, just having my say.