Been with this guy for over 1year , I just can't get him to go out on dates or to spend more time with me , his excuse is he does not like going out he works 2 jobs and we only see each other maybe twice a month on the weekends.I tried many times braking it off but he always says he don't want too, I'm I dumb as I think ?

Are you sure he isn't married? Sounds like he might be.

Why waste your time with someone that doesn't like to do the same things you do? Exactly what klc said, "Is it ALL about what he wants?" H*ll, you deserve a break today, even if its McDonalds... lol Get someone that knows how to show their appreciation by letting you have it your way once in a while.

I know, I know.. Giving love advice on an emty stomach...

It's a question really , I think I'm scared of trying someone else , my husband past away 5 years ago we been together a long time and this guy is the first one after him so I guess I'm scared of being out there.....thanks for your advise.

Yes you right I already know ....thank you

Gee, maybe he works too hard.
Happens.

Everyone has priorities.
Be grateful you know his.

Yes you right I already know ....thank you

Sounds like you just need to move on .
His actions are very clear it seems on how impotant you are to him.
People will treat you the way you allow them too.
My dad always told me that if you settle for less than what you deserve you end up with less than what you settled for! I would kick him straight to the curb with no hesitation

Yes you right I already know ....thank you

Ah! What we have here reminds me of rebound.

dystar, are you afraid that you might not gain another boyfriend if you break up with this guy?

If you are, then it isn't love that's keeping you together.

No he is not married, guess he does not want to be attached.

LOL...nice one

what you want is more important than what he wants...tell him you aren't getting what you need in the situation and it's over

and be sure to be unavailable to him


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What you have there is what's known as a no-strings casual relationship. Here are a few questions for you:

Does he call you and do you chat on the phone, or does his work schedule preclude that?

Have you told him that he's a poor excuse for a boyfriend and that he's just using you for sex?

Have you asked him how it is that he manages to work two jobs and can go out and do that but he doesn't want to go out with you?

Is the sex so fantastic that you can't wait to see him again but that's just a figure of speach and you can just get on with your lifeduring the week and see him at weekends?

Would you be posting this thread if you really wanted advice, or was it just a rhetorical question and is that why you kept saying that you already know that he's stringing you along?

Do you think that the words "pushover" and "doormat" apply to you?

Have you tried dumping his sorry arse and do you keep taking him back?

Do you think that you are worth more than this and do you think that you should set the bar a bit higher?

Are you on a dating site and do you think that there are other men on here?

Does the fact that he's working two jobs and presumably making money make you think that that you will have a wonderful future together and that this guy isn't a loser with no prospects?

When you are together do you really enjoy his company and do you feel that he fills a void that has been missing from your life?

Do you feel lonely and do questions like these go through your head all the time?

After a year with this guy do you love him and is the answer to that question that you just don't really know?

Have you noticed any physical changes recently and are you having mood swings or intense emotions?

Do you actually want a serious relationship with this man?

Hey aren't you from Scotland? Wazzzup my scottish brotha!

Sounds like you are mad at your husband for dying and you are settling for being a booty call to spite his memory and your life.

This guy is a jerk for using you but it is clear that is what he is doing so not like he is being coy about it.

So what he has two jobs? That entitles him to "do" you for nothing because he has to have two jobs to pay his debts; or yours? A work-a-holic is still and form of failure. Life is about living not just putting money in his pocket.