Tell me how you would feel or what you would do, if you had a friend who done this to you.

I had a friend here who would talk with me and I her, about any and everything. We were very close, I thought.
She had an issue with another female member here, who I had met for coffee one night. NOT KNOWING THEY HAD ANY ISSUES....... Well My friend had told me that the lady I met for coffee was NUTS, and I had told her we were still talking by phone a little, and that "I" had to see or hear HER to be THAT-A-WAY my self? And My friend told me I was stupid and had NOTHING good to say to me at all, except that the lady was NUTS.
I had told her she had no right to call me stupid or to TRY and pick the PEOPLE that I am FRIENDS with, AND that THIS LADY could NEVER come between I and my friends FRIENDSHIP.
Then I told my friend about ME having a problem myself with another mutual FRIEND of BOTH of OURS, and TOLD her,,,,DID I CONDEM "YOU" for still being FRIENDS with HER, then said, NO I DIDN"T .
So what gives you the right to act THIS way TOWARDS ME??

She has NEVER ONCE said that SHE was WRONG for that night, and hardly TALKS to ME "NOW", let alone say "IM SORRY"...
It hurt me very much when THIS happened, and im still left with NOT UNDERSTANDING WHY, or HOW to NOW BE???

OH, Just for YOUR thoughts here,,,I and MY CLOSE friend here, "NEVER" talked of ANYTHING ROMANTIC, between her and I,,,JUST CLOSE FRIENDS. WHO I WILL NEVER REVEAL WHO SHE IS.

This is just a general question to HOPFULLY help me to UNDERSTAND and LIVE WITH.....???? ANY ADVICE??????

not a whole lot you can do if she won't talk to you about. i wouldn't feel to bad though, it's not like you did anything wrong.

(((((((((((((DRAMA!))))))))))))))

No thanks!!!
Ill just stay stoned!!!

people are silly

if all my friends allowed me to run their lives i might as well just visit with myself...did that make sense?
true friends allow you to be yourself, allow you to have your own opinions, like whoever you want, disagree with them....and still u

Hey big sexy...puff puff give....LOL

Terri...

You didn't do anything wrong. You are a big boy now...certainly entitiles to your OWN opinions on things. This friend (1) had no right to tell you that you couldn't be friends with (2). How could she tell you that she was NUTS as you say. I would think you were capable of making up your own mind. If friend (1) won't talk to you much anymore....I would take that as....it's her loss...and just move on to people that you could talk to. That's just my 2 cents worth....

Sounds familiar, Terry...

I recognise the situation...been in it myself...

I don't need a mother...I already had one.

I had to re-evaluate who I thought that person was, and then just allow them to be them...no apologies, no real anything...wasn't necessary..it was more a 'thankyou' for me.

Would YOU address her, or wait for her to address YOU?

Its been awhile and I don't think she will address me NOW.

Its as if it NEVER even happen ,,,but SHE is LIKE NOW,,,soooo DISTANT??? And I didn't want to relive it, but also NOT go on NOT knowing what she thinks of me or WHY, she could have CHANGED SO MUCH, on how she ALWAYS was with me??

Just a little lost on BEING........?

look her up if it is important to you and if she refuses to talk to you then she just answered you.

one thing I have learned about drama is to steer clear of it
if she won't talk to you, then move on let it go and keep the friends that you have that don't bring drama to your life
I know it's hard when someone doesn't agree with you but that's the way life goes

Don't let others rule your life!

Explanation: Don't let anyone choose people whom you will be friends with.

i would not bring it up, count your losses
but be open if she ever wants to address it

Hi Terry.I have only talked to you a few times and I dont think youre nuts..I think youre crazyyyyyyyyyyyyyy! lol
Wait...arent they one in the same?
Seriously,youre a grown man.You know what the right thing is to do.
I have come to find that now adys alot of ladies get jealous when a guy has a lady friend..And yes. vise versa but you have one life to live....live it to the fullest my friend.
As far as I can see,If someone cant except you as you are,no need to call you a friend.
Rest well .

(((terry))) I don't see you as the chase her type. Just let it go. Drama never solved anything. IF anything, it just makes things worse. Her loss. Just keep being who you are. So far as I've read, you haven't done anyhing wrong, but then I wouldn't go seeking anyones approval no matter how close I was/am to them.

Thank You All for trying to HELP ME......

Its water under the bridge, but the water is rising,lol.

Thans again....

Hi Terry,
You and I have never talked but I totally feel your pain as I am going through the same thing right now. Its hard when they go from being very close to very distant. Like you, I just wanted honest answers that I will never hear and it hurts like hell because you feel like you are left hanging without closure or how to fix it. I think it takes time. I think all you can do is talk to both and be honest with both and most importantly express what you do like and appreciate in them. I also think you have been given some great advice by everyone else too but you are the only one who can let go and move on and you will only do that when you are ready or have had enough! Keep smilin

I am sure it will work itself out my friend

Terry, you have a good heart, just follow your heart and you will do the right thing. Heck, if the water is rising, get out the fishing poles or a sail boat and enjoy the ride.

Just a suggestion here. You can do as you wish with it...

Have you tried "eeenie meenie miny mo"?

idk i just leave things the way they are. its not your problem its hers. you dont need to be involved with her problem unless it involves you. which her not liking someone you know isn't really involving you. and if it effects her that much than don't talk to her. just my opinion.