Okay why do guys assume, just because i have kid's that i'm married ..i'm so over getting asked this. oh yeah an my profile says never married

Haven't a clue because there are many men's profiles which state they have never been married but they have kids and they either live with them or away from home. So go figure. You would think that they might at least ask if you're married instead of assuming.

Some guys assume, not us all? Just theres guys on here that think you must be a virgin and married before you have kids, as thats the culture where they're from, or their religious beliefs? Wish they would wake up and realise that the World doesn't jump the tune of their ideals though?

I must admit that whenever I see "never married" I wonder what is wrong with him. Didn't he want to commit? So he's a player? (I don't want someone who doesn't or can't commit!) Or is he the type no one wanted? Is there something wrong with him? (Then I don't want him either!)

These things go through my head, in spite of the fact I don't believe you need to get married
But if I get in touch with someone who's never been married, I would really want to know why not!
Guess cultural brainwashing did seep into my brain after all
Maybe what you encounter comes from a similar process of thoughts?

Edit: I perceive "Never married" as maybe never been in a relationship at all. Which it could mean.
Divorced, separated and so on clearly say: was in relationship, but it ended. "Never Married" can mean a variety of things: never been in a relationship is one of them.

Context, my dear F0x, context ...

Never maried is not sufficient information about anyone. The average person is married three times now so should we similarly conclude whats wrong with people who cant stay married and must do so three times? This is the same prejudice as whats wrong with never being married! Explanations are varied some are not breeders, others breed incessantly, some have careers and prefer a relationship without legal ramifications and alimony/child support.Others are content to have a monogamous relationship without benefit of state or church sanction. Given the varying reasons for being married , married multiple times, or not being married it makes more sense to put prejudice aside and find out about a person rather than jumping to false conclusions based on ignorance and no information. Simplistic views of life lead to confusion,isolation, and no real understanding of the vicissitudes of life....

Yeah and my English teacher told us that it was less self assured people who use ' I ' a lot in phrases? Just because somebody hasn't been married, doesn't mean that they haven't been in a relationship before? You really have a weird way of looking at things? I've never married, but i've had relationships and also brought up my son for 14 years on my own. Put some women off when they found out I was a single dad, but their loss, is the way I see it. People are single for countless reasons. Why are you here for example Crystal? Bigger perspective to things than just the way that you perceive them?

I won't get involved in the above debate, could get messy. LoL
But in reply to your question, is it as simple as the guys who read your profile can't read?
Or at best haven't read your profile correctly?

Well i personally think you are an awesome lady...
Don't sweat the "judgement" of small people with small minds...
SMILE !
Because YOU are WORTH it !

There is an old saying that "Assuming makes and Arse out of You and Me." which to a degree is true.

I also think common sense tells you if something seems unusual that you should note and hold reservations until you know the facts. You see smoke rolling out the windows of a building you kind of want to find out if the house in on fire or someone just burned the bacon before you go in.

My instincts in situations have rarely been proven wrong but with experience you learn more facts about how real life goes and that there can be very viable reason someone doesn't fit "the norm".

And just because someone can't line every ducky up in a row doesn't always mean it is their fault or they failed. Maybe they just did not bite off more than they could chew. You learn that not having a date or a spouse is not terminal and actually kinder than dragging some innocent person along when you have other obligations.

I personally do not think I have to tell my entire social history for the purposes of a profile or the pleasant company of a very public coffee date to actually meet someone.

Not only would telling a lot of it be a big yawn I also do not think I have the right to put the facts of my family, friends, employers life out there and invade their privacy.

Does that thinking apply to never-married mothers, too?

WOW so many awesome replys an good valid points in all of your words of wisdom thank you's. Mingle2 should have a LIKE OR LOVED BOX ON EVERYONES COMMENTS. I LOVED ALL hee hee

I've got to admit that when I read a lot of stuff on profiles and in forum posts for that matter I often ask myself, "What's wrong with this person?" Never being married wouldn't really be a red flag for me though and yeah, I've dated single mothers and don't assume anything that they don't actually tell me. I certainly wouldn't think more of someone just because they've been married or had kids.

"Well done, you managed to drag some poor sap down the aisle. Where is he now, BTW?"

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Thank you (((((TawtStrat))))) Awesome

Why are my not married by this time

it is one thing to acknowledge that there is more than one perspective, but another to criticize someone for defending or putting forth their perspective, or to assume that they do not realize that their are other perspectives. We base our preferences (that we are fully entitled to ) on our perspectives.

If those perspectives are to change that is the individuals decision, not the business of others

one having their own perspective does not mean that they are not aware that there are others.

if someone has a perspective I cannot see as compatible I simply move on, it is really that simple :)
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as far as the topic. Others may ask if you are married on here because there are marrieds on here fooling around and he prolly doesn;t want to get caught up in that shyte (to his credit)

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