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I don't understand the question, if your friend likes his date, and his date likes him, what is the problem? Why can't they continue to see each other and see how it works out? I agree that "like" doesn't always turn to love, in many cases, it can turn to hate, but sometimes it does turn to love. I'd wish my friend good luck and leave it at that. Thanks for your reply. That is a possible solution, they could continue dating, but this makes it clear your friend does not want anything more serious than dating at this time, maybe forever? This decision could result in their date looking for someone else whom would be more seriously minded. It would be better to break it off, because liking someone is not love, and does not always turn in to love. This is just my opinion. |
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Sun 11/24/13 12:35 PM
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That is using the term "Love" to mean ..."Let's live together and have sex." Or: Lets be an exclusive couple.... get rid of your other friends if they are of the opposite sex.
This is why so many people are afraid to "love" each other or express their love for each other. |
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What are your thoughts? An example, let's say an old friend of yours tells you they have been dating a few months, and their date has recently become more serious and suggested they see more of each other because of how well they get on together. Your friend confides in you that they like their date very much and want to know what you think they should do, even though you have never met their date. Would you say to them, liking is not loving, and suggest they let their date down gently and look for someone else. Or Would you tell them to say no to more dates and to continue as they are, at the risk of their date ending it to find someone more seriously minded. Or Would you tell them, that if they liked their date very much to take the next step, because these things always turn to love. What are your thoughts and what advice would you give your friend, if any? Im confused why my friend would ask me for an opinion about something I don't have any information on Id tell them it was entirely too personal a situation for me to have an opinion, and they should go with their own instincts |
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What are your thoughts? An example, let's say an old friend of yours tells you they have been dating a few months, and their date has recently become more serious and suggested they see more of each other because of how well they get on together. Your friend confides in you that they like their date very much and want to know what you think they should do, even though you have never met their date. Would you say to them, liking is not loving, and suggest they let their date down gently and look for someone else. Or Would you tell them to say no to more dates and to continue as they are, at the risk of their date ending it to find someone more seriously minded. Or Would you tell them, that if they liked their date very much to take the next step, because these things always turn to love. What are your thoughts and what advice would you give your friend, if any? Im confused why my friend would ask me for an opinion about something I don't have any information on Id tell them it was entirely too personal a situation for me to have an opinion, and they should go with their own instincts I don't know about others long term friends but some of mine let me "think out loud" and garner what they have to offer without always giving them all the details. I let them shoot from the hip/from instinct and don't necessarily expect to get life altering advice even though I might factor it in. It is not to be deceptive but just the comfort of being in the company of someone who knows me almost as well as I know myself. Sometimes better. The real blessing of long term friends is that they filter out the balogne and tell you what you need to hear and not just what you want to hear. |
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What are your thoughts? An example, let's say an old friend of yours tells you they have been dating a few months, and their date has recently become more serious and suggested they see more of each other because of how well they get on together. Your friend confides in you that they like their date very much and want to know what you think they should do, even though you have never met their date. Would you say to them, liking is not loving, and suggest they let their date down gently and look for someone else. Or Would you tell them to say no to more dates and to continue as they are, at the risk of their date ending it to find someone more seriously minded. Or Would you tell them, that if they liked their date very much to take the next step, because these things always turn to love. What are your thoughts and what advice would you give your friend, if any? Im confused why my friend would ask me for an opinion about something I don't have any information on Id tell them it was entirely too personal a situation for me to have an opinion, and they should go with their own instincts They are an old friend and they value your opinion and thoughts on these issues, because of your experience in life, and they would probably be a little disappointed receiving no opinion. |
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That is using the term "Love" to mean ..."Let's live together and have sex." Or: Lets be an exclusive couple.... get rid of your other friends if they are of the opposite sex. This is why so many people are afraid to "love" each other or express their love for each other. The love that leads to marriage or a monogamous partnership. |
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I don't understand the question, if your friend likes his date, and his date likes him, what is the problem? Why can't they continue to see each other and see how it works out? I agree that "like" doesn't always turn to love, in many cases, it can turn to hate, but sometimes it does turn to love. I'd wish my friend good luck and leave it at that. Thanks for your reply. That is a possible solution, they could continue dating, but this makes it clear your friend does not want anything more serious than dating at this time, maybe forever? This decision could result in their date looking for someone else whom would be more seriously minded. It would be better to break it off, because liking someone is not love, and does not always turn in to love. This is just my opinion. Yeah, I missed that part initially, about one party being more into the relationship than the other, so I added another comment. 
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What are your thoughts? An example, let's say an old friend of yours tells you they have been dating a few months, and their date has recently become more serious and suggested they see more of each other because of how well they get on together. Your friend confides in you that they like their date very much and want to know what you think they should do, even though you have never met their date. Would you say to them, liking is not loving, and suggest they let their date down gently and look for someone else. Or Would you tell them to say no to more dates and to continue as they are, at the risk of their date ending it to find someone more seriously minded. Or Would you tell them, that if they liked their date very much to take the next step, because these things always turn to love. What are your thoughts and what advice would you give your friend, if any? Im confused why my friend would ask me for an opinion about something I don't have any information on Id tell them it was entirely too personal a situation for me to have an opinion, and they should go with their own instincts They are an old friend and they value your opinion and thoughts on these issues, because of your experience in life, and they would probably be a little disappointed receiving no opinion. there is not enough information for me to form an opinion he has dated someone and he likes them,, I don't know anymore than this? my advice is, if he doesn't have some reason NOT to continue dating the person,,,,,,,,why not do so? |
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What are your thoughts? An example, let's say an old friend of yours tells you they have been dating a few months, and their date has recently become more serious and suggested they see more of each other because of how well they get on together. Your friend confides in you that they like their date very much and want to know what you think they should do, even though you have never met their date. Would you say to them, liking is not loving, and suggest they let their date down gently and look for someone else. Or Would you tell them to say no to more dates and to continue as they are, at the risk of their date ending it to find someone more seriously minded. Or Would you tell them, that if they liked their date very much to take the next step, because these things always turn to love. What are your thoughts and what advice would you give your friend, if any? Im confused why my friend would ask me for an opinion about something I don't have any information on Id tell them it was entirely too personal a situation for me to have an opinion, and they should go with their own instincts They are an old friend and they value your opinion and thoughts on these issues, because of your experience in life, and they would probably be a little disappointed receiving no opinion. there is not enough information for me to form an opinion he has dated someone and he likes them,, I don't know anymore than this? my advice is, if he doesn't have some reason NOT to continue dating the person,,,,,,,,why not do so? I envision that he wants MORE. More time, more intimacy, more commitment, and the bottom line is ... more control. |
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If you're not on the same page, it won't work out. Sticking around hoping your feelings will change isn't fair to anyone. If nothing else, you're wasting time that could be spent looking for someone else who wants what you want.
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that's a good point too. I have not continued date even though I liked the person because I did not want to give the impression that it was going anywhere. in those cases happiness for me was to stop datng them. Hey, Sweetest. It sounds like you did the right thing for the both of you. I too don't like the idea of it seeming like I'm messing someone around. If they want something different to what I want, and compromises can't be met without making someone unhappy, best to move on. |
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Edited by
Duttoneer
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Mon 11/25/13 01:17 AM
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What are your thoughts? An example, let's say an old friend of yours tells you they have been dating a few months, and their date has recently become more serious and suggested they see more of each other because of how well they get on together. Your friend confides in you that they like their date very much and want to know what you think they should do, even though you have never met their date. Would you say to them, liking is not loving, and suggest they let their date down gently and look for someone else. Or Would you tell them to say no to more dates and to continue as they are, at the risk of their date ending it to find someone more seriously minded. Or Would you tell them, that if they liked their date very much to take the next step, because these things always turn to love. What are your thoughts and what advice would you give your friend, if any? Im confused why my friend would ask me for an opinion about something I don't have any information on Id tell them it was entirely too personal a situation for me to have an opinion, and they should go with their own instincts They are an old friend and they value your opinion and thoughts on these issues, because of your experience in life, and they would probably be a little disappointed receiving no opinion. there is not enough information for me to form an opinion he has dated someone and he likes them,, I don't know anymore than this? my advice is, if he doesn't have some reason NOT to continue dating the person,,,,,,,,why not do so? The friend you are advising could be a man or woman. Yes, they could continue to date, the only thing that has changed is their date wants to be more serious, perhaps thinking about engagement. Is it such a good idea for your friend to continue dating knowing this? Once your friend has said they only want to date at this time, their date could look elsewhere, I think this knowledge would change their dating only relationship completely, in a negative way. |
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