Why do guys always feel they have to tell big extravagant stories when they meet new women ....what does it do for us besides boost our self esteem and brake down what trust a woman may have had for us???

Exactly!

When I meet someone new, and I find out he told me a lie - it doesn't even matter what it was about - I immediately think about what else he has lied about! And there will be several more to come!

Lying is a deal breaker for me! If someone doesn't want to answer a question, just say so!

I have never felt that I have to make up stories. My true ones are pretty good.

snickers*....I know that feeling

Amen! My ex when I first got with him told me he was in his fifties but evidence later showed him to be in his 60's and it was lie after lie ever since, why I didn't run at first lie is beyond me, you live and learn I guess but from now on one lie and I'm gone

Where there is one, there are many more!
Trust is gone and adios baby!

If a person wants to lie, they should think about writing pulp fiction.

you do not have to tell big stories--besides a keeper will see through it anyway--relax and be yourself-the one thing that makes us attractive to women is a man who is comfortable in his own skin and is his authentic self--when a man is not he is living a lie--are those great qualities to find in a woman ? you bet!-- for me i believe these are the best qualities--

Women tell porkies as well though? Had 5 years of lies, lies, lies from my sons mum. So I just packed up one day and me and my son moved back to Scotland. One lie now and that's it, i'm off!

The 3 most important things in a relationship are trust, honesty & communication...if you don't trust the person you are with you can not honestly communicate with them..I can not handle someone that lies to me..I will stand by a man side thru hell and back but if he lies I got nothing more for him

I could deal with a lot of things from a partner, but lying is one of those things that I would absolutely not tolerate in any way, shape, or fashion. Lying destroys trust, and without trust, there is no relationship.

I don't think that many people (it's not just a gender thing) do feel this is how to do things. There are the few that do it; sometimes again, and again, and cut a wide swath of pain but I don't see that as the norm.

I do think sometimes people just want to believe the romantic notion is there and the reality is no relationships are perfect and if it sounds to good to be true then it probably is.

Maybe people get tired of being shot down so they start fudging the facts and then it gets out of hand. It is hard sometimes to see the liar gets hurt as much as the lied too because they usually are better at covering it up but it has to get old getting kicked to the curb because you can't live up to people's expectations. Think it starts way before people are adults. Think it is a thing of people learn what they live. The old saying "Folks that want to pick a good spouse need to look at the tree of the fruit before they make a pie." makes a lot of sense. Body might not enjoy missing dessert but it is a whole lot better than suffering the belly ache that comes from cooking with bad ingredients.

What do women do when they are not actually stories but really happened that way?

I can imagine a lot of the s* I've done probably reads like a book, but then again, a lot of it was modeled by one. Doesn't mean I haven't done it, but I can understand why they would question it...So should I lie and dumb my life down a bit so they'll believe me?

Yes larsson it does work both ways, I don't know what makes people lie but I do know there is no need for it and if they have caused a need to lie then they aren't the right one and that's it over

I guess I've been lucky and only had guys who had done about 99% of the wild **** they told me about.....I cringe to imagine what they didn't tell.

I dunno man. You see....in my humble opinion, walking up to a girl and saying "Hello. Bob Jones....DDS" sounds much better than, "Bob Jones, median salary worker with bad credit and a small wee wee". Yeah...I will stick with the lie.

I agree, leading with a small wee wee is a no no.....

I think it's a lack of self confidence myself but to keep one lie going you have to tell more and that does nothing for your character

Unfortunately .. both men and women lie... but damn I can't stand liars!!!

gud pne