Tips n tricks of the most important sector in our life..your better half

Be loyal..

Once read an article on that, where they had asked many long-term couple how they did it.
If I remember correctly it was having the same norms & values, same or similar goals in life, but I think nr one was:
Communication

I want to add that I don't feel our partner is the most important "sector" in our life.

Oh wow so many.

1)See your partner as a Person first.

2)Do what you did to catch them to keep them.

3)Treat your partner like you would treat yourself; or better.

4)Money is not the only currency of Love. Spend the currency you receive with respect for the effort it took to bring it to the relationship.

5)Kiss your partner and tell them you love them every day. You can still be glad, sad, or mad but if you nurture the foundation of the relationship the emotions will work themselves out.

6)Sex & Love may not always get hotter but with consideration and respect, it's lasting will make it better.

7)If you have kids and you want the Man/Woman in your life to be a Father/Mother let them do it their way; remember you didn't come to Parent-hood over night.

8)You can win "IT" all and lose "IT" all but if you have each other "IT" won't matter.

9)When it is all over and done with it won't be what you did to impress others it will be what you did to impress each other.

10) Whatever recipe for a relationship that works for the two of you is the right recipe.

My parents have being married; gone 50 yrs in March
he credits a part of that to not necessarily mindfulness: a conscious clarity of thinking in
the presence (awareness)
but 'mindfulness' more like a life time of little
tricks to remind him to at least remember the
important stuff not mattering how busy he was
providing.
Starting out by getting married on his B-day 50
yrs ago.
and also the ability to accept; acceptance
last time I saw them, my friend said to my Dad "you
better be careful or you are going to be in trouble
he said I've been in trouble since the first day
I meet her.

Mutual R E S P E C T...

Hawt sex...

Shared values...

Constructive arguing...

Laughter, a good sense of humor is a huge turn on...

Ah ..a wish I had a good sense of humor you would like.

I meant a was a funny f_ _ _ er
not f_ _ _ funny...
I just get traulth mubles sometimes

good list Leigh ...assertive communication
that's how grownups do it.

Your sense of humor is better than good Studley, way better!

Ok so then we are both MORE than good on that one

"R E S P E C T I'll tell ya what it means to me,
I have a ton for you

shared values ? I would guess that would
be as close as we can get

assertive communicating I'm a communicator!
wrote a poem about it! want ta hear it..
just jokin there...or not yet anyways..lol

So it just may come down to that other thing..
no.. not my thing....my things good.. its been surveyed "sit next to me sit next to me
sit next to me and have sex with me

what's a matter you having a bad day ?

I just noticed the clocks changed
I don't change time, time changes around me.
sounds funny, like I'm some kinda none
conformist no its true, its a little area
up here that doesn't change I just went from
PST to MST

LEIGH2154--well said again

this is a great list and I totally agree....for a relationship to be lasting it does have to be the most important sector of your life. I can look at this list and see what my ex husband and I did well, and also see where there were shortfalls. That's part of the value of your list. it's a great diagnostic for growth...

spoken like you've been there! I agree Leigh...humor is a great tool used at the right times. :)

I find Sex is overrated but i know it's also an important part of the relationship, but i find too many men are gung ho on it and that's all most of them focus on.. But i definitely feel that COMMUNICATION is the biggest factor of any relationship. But the last relationship i was just in, he would fight with me on what type of music to listen to. He despised Country music, and that's pretty much what is listened to at my home.

Talk about synchronicity, I got this one on another site today:

5 secrets to a healthy relationship:
1- It is important to find a man that helps with chores, cooking and has a job
2 - It is important to find a man that can make you laugh.
3 - It is important to find a man you can trust and who doesn't lie
4 - It is important to find a man who's good in the sack and loves to make love to you
5 - It is of the utmost importance that these 4 men never meet!

The perfect answer!!!

For any kind of healthy relationship

Simple..practice the Golden Rule and think positive

Best advice ever. Too bad not many people do that.

I believe that was posted on here about 6 months ago ? or I read it in coffee talk..
Nevertheless. ..funny stuff

??
??? treat people like your want to be treated

Golden rule..sounds kinky
had a couple of gf that had a one finger rule and two finger rule and I heard of the rule of thumb and the golden hour...hell while we're that it,
and the one hour Org.

Not a clue, I wasn't here 6 months ago anyways, haha.
I got it in in Dutch so I translated it myself.