OK, so I let a guy I have been seeing off and on casually come over tonight. Now I didn't talk to this guy for weeks because he was a jerk, but I thought, o.k. I kind of like him, i'll give him another chance. now i haven't had the best of weeks, was in the hospital for 3 days sick as a dog, I don't feel good, blah blah blah, but I thought, ya know I kinda like this guy. do you know what he said to me? He told me that I was suffocating because I called him 3 times in one day a month or so ago!!!!!! He was sitting in my house...telling me that I suffocated him with phone calls. I just want to scream. Is there a man out there that wants more than a booty call? oh yeah he said this after he found out that i'm really not in any shape for that kind of activity this week LOL
heck maybe i'm just venting...but please..someone explain how 3 phone calls in one day is suffocating when I really thought we were building a relationship.

Wow. 3 phone calls in one day?

That's not suffocating at all!

I mean, didn't Glen Close start off with *4* calls in one day in that movie...Fatal Attraction???




He sounds like an idiot. Good riddance!

i plead the 5th but will say this the curb would be a better friend

Lori, sorry for the jerk. Don't buy into his crap, your better than that. Keep looking, he's out there.

some people are just insensitive to anyone elses feelings except their own. If I'd have been him, I'd have counted myself lucky to get three phone calls in one day. some just don't know when they have someone who cares about them.
In my opinion, you're better off without him.

Lori...

Just chalk it up...as experience and move on. I have no idea what is in his head, but to me 3 phone call are not suffocating. I have given up trying to understand how men think, it is too confusing to me...sometimes.

lol that's funny..He also had nerve to tell me if I didn't like him for the way he was, well that was too bad. all i said was i thought we were looking for something different in a relationship, and he took it as i didn't like him..problem is I did like him, a lot, or I wouldn't have tried again.

Men want to get intimate way too fast!

I'm not much of a phone gal, I'm more of an in person kinda person (wordy much) but I think if you had something important to tell him all three times and you weren't just calling to hear his voice or say something silly like I've missed you since the last phone call that it shouldn't be considered suffolcating, especially if this was an isolated incident. Three times a day, everyday is extreme this sounds like an attempt to really build something. He's not much good for you if he gets passive agressive when alternative activities aren't in order, now is he?

i know puffins, I know..I guess maybe i'm just sensitive because I don't really feel that good yet, if I had been myself I probably would have just bodily thrown him out instead of telling him nicely to leave LOL

no it was an isolated incident and I don't even remember why to be honest with you, i'm sure it was, we were trying to get together and calling back and forth to make arrangements or something. hell I'm not going to figure it out, maybe he was just ticked because he came over here and I couldn't put out...who knows

Maybe you should ask to borrow his pet rabbit...

i don't know where he got the idea i was going to put out anyway, i never did before!!!!!!!!!!!!

Great knee jerk reaction from the not so clever man....

"I will just make her out to the be the bad guy, so I don't have to hear what she is saying"

Geeez...trust your instincts Lori...they were right back there a little while ago...and perhaps the fact you have been ill and hospitalised, was more to do with company, having him over, than really liking this man now..just a thought..

where was all that coming from?

Hmmmm 3 x in one day.........would drive meeeeeeeeeeee insannnnnnnne!!!!!!

But that is besides the point.....the point is he became disinterested in you because you were in no shape...tells you what he was really after all along.......

he doesn't have a rabbit but he has a cat..hmmmmm
nope the cat is a better person than he is,

HMMMM I get annoyed when a guy calls me 3 times in a day!! Honestly, why do you have to talk 3 times a day??? I mean seriously, you can have a relationship and not talk that much!!

I would say just move on..you said that you thought you would give him a second chance, obviously its not meant to be!!
Good luck

three phone calls in one day? lol...I don't average three phone calls, sent or received, in two days(used 48 min on cell last month). If they were short and sweet, that is one thing. If they went on and on and on, well, that is another.Also, depends upon what he was doing. Suffocating? I doubt it. Myself, I do not like talking on the phone, but, if the other person wants or needs to talk to me for whatever reason, the least I can do if I care is listen and not complain.

I mean it's such an odd action for someone to have when they know you were in the hospital..Like what? who cares put out and if you don't like that I want it when your sick too bad???what is that?