Well said to many people don't really understand that everyone cuts Thear own deal in life,, I live my life like Niki just do it!!!!

haven't ya ever bin horny

Sorry, but I think that's utter nonsense. The meaning of sex is not just being with a loved one, having a physical experience with someone you love, sex is much more than just that.
Whether or not in a relationship, if you're healthy, body and soul, you will want sex. Simple as that. It's a natural thing, part of being human. Primal instinct. The body wants attention, to be touched, to feel good and so on and deep down there's probs still the instinct to procreate.
Now you can suppress this with the mind, but in the long run, this is not healthy to do. It has all kinds of psychological 'side-effects', because if you suppress it, deny it, you deny or suppress a natural part of yourself.
Sexuality and creativity (manifesting) are closely related to one another.
If you allow both to flow freely, you will feel good, both physically and mentally.
Which doesn't mean to say you have to jump in the sack with everyone you meet. But to say sex without commitment is meaningless is a rather narrow-minded view. Even without commitment it is still something beautiful that you share with another human being.

I think she is just expressing how she feels about sex without commitment. She needs to feel love for the person, not lust. It may be natural but we are not animals. Some of us need to feel more than attraction to a person; we need to feel love in order to make love; not just have sex. So to her; sex without commitment would be meaningless as she simply has to be in love and it's not narrow-minded but merely a preference for her.

People looking for casual sex will seek out likeminded people ...

Casual sex, sex without commitment, one night stands, hook-ups, sex buddies, friends with benefits, no strings attached, who cares .....Sex without commitment does not necessarily mean sex without respect or sex without emotional feelings...It does not have to mean sex without attachment or sex without meaning...Committed or not, each individual sexual encounter is unique...Desire is not planned...Choosing our sexual partners is one of the "few" perks of being an adult...In the adult world, it's about what works for the people involved...It's about choice, not judgement....

One thing I'll mention about that, is a guy should feel lucky, if I feel comfortable enough to have sex with him, because I can be quite cautious about who I sleep with. If I can't know him as at least a friend first, then what he is doing in my bed? I can't sleep with just anyone. Not even when I get drunk. I'd rather have sex with a friend, than a stranger.

Rawrr I think v shud be good friends. .. wat say??

Hello. Hmmmm

Most casual sex IS not attached to "care and feelings",bse,then its so not "casual" sex!!

Causual is-no actual feelings,no emotions,no attachment of any kind!

But Crystal's "casual sex" seems to be the kind that ends into heartaches...where one party gets that caring feeling toward the other!!

Seriously,casual encounters can actually make u feel/get treated like a piece of steak!!

Love the one your'e with?

This makes sense! I agree

Some people are not ready for commitment. Relationships are sometimes a great cause of stress.

You may think you have to have the same religion, and the same political opinions or similar interests and compatible living habits. blah blah blah... and all you want is a good hot roll in the hay.

I can understand that. So what's with all the people passing judgement on that? There is nothing wrong with safe sex with a chemically compatible partner with no commitment -- except that you are both responsible healthy adults.

I would not suggest anonymous partners. Its a good idea to know who you are swapping fluids with.

But it does not mean you have to commit to a lifetime of doing it with the same partner and then pop out three or four kids, and get a mortgage, and a job.

geeeze

I'm sorry, but I beg to differ. Even when it's just casual sex, without commitment, we're still human, not machines, meaning we can still be nice, loving caring or whatever, without the heart getting involved or any strings getting attached.

I tend to agree with your take Crystal, but Newbie did say "can", not "do" make you feel like a piece of steak and she is right, some casual encounters can (and do) end badly... What works well for one might be completely wrong for another ....

Once you have been around the mulberry bush a few times you learn that having casual sex is usually not nearly satisfying as it might sound.

Great sex; or even just good sex, heck even passable sex is pretty hard to achieve if the person you settle for is someone that doesn't know you well enough to have a commitment to you at more than a casual level. Not saying sex is rocket science because it isn't but if someone doesn't know you even care about you they are not going to be that attune to your body or your feelings.

Maybe it is age or just growing to like myself as a whole person rather than some physical stations of my body but the hot lusty parts are really not that much fun if you leave off the intellectual foreplay and a the affection before and after that one just can't fake if they really don't give a rats behind if you are in their future.

I am not going to get all caught up in the whole STD argument because yea you can think you are in a devoted monogamous relationship and still end up with something you don't want but I do agree the risk factor does reduce.

The thing that sticks in my old grey head is more often than not if you really listen to people, even the powerful and the beautiful that seem to be able to have anyone they want, it is not the easy booty call that stays with them and gets them through the lonely nights it is the hope for or the memory of the time they actually felt wanted as more than "relief".

It is always a choice. A person dying of thirst can't be faulted for drinking urine but it doesn't sustain them long.

The only reason I may not want to get married anymore, is because it just seem's like one big headache, signing all those legal papers. It really honestly doesn't matter whether I end up married or not, because I'm still gonna die, at the end of the day, so I don't want some contract. Me and said guy can still have fun, and at least if we did split up, they'd be no paper sign-age.

I have, having had a marriage that was miserable getting out of when I was young and strong thought of that, but knowing what I know of the rights, and more importantly the protections, you absolutely do not have as a cohabitant, I am not about to go into a home that has the potential for possibly burning down without the help of the fire department to minimalize my risks.