If it does not feel right, go with your instinct. Then communicate communicate communicate. Having a baby will not fix anything, I promise, fix your issues first. A mortgage will only add to the confusion as well, make sure she is doing her half of the work.

I had an ex like this and I don't regret it and the sex was great. Yeah, she trampled all over my heart and it took me a long time to get over it but I did and even though we haven't seen each other for a while I know that she will always have feelings for me and that we have a bond that is unbreakable.

It can take years to get to know someone properly and you said that she dumped you before because of arguments. Talk to her about that and see if you can resolve those issues. When I put it to my ex that she had been a compulsive liar she told me that what I was describing just sounded like a mixed up girl.

It's up to you if you think that this woman is worth fighting for but don't take too much crap from her or she will just walk all over you.

I see problems like this on 'The Jeremy Kyle Show', a lot of the time. They think having a baby together, or getting a house together, will bring them closer to each other, because then they've both got an extra something that is just their's. I wish it WAS as simple as that. But why not just buy them a small sentimental gift? E.g, I once bought one of those broken heart necklaces. One half of the heart I gave to the man I was with, and I kept the other half. I wrote a little note explaining what it means to me. I told him to keep the other half, as it represented two halfs making one heart. Maybe you think that just sounds corny, but I like to show I'm making the effort in a relationship. You shouldn't have to buy a MORTGAGE of all things, because they are so expensive. What if you get into debt? That can be a big money trap. Housing people love to make money out of the house buyer. Why not just rent? It's cheaper. Also, if you buy a place, and then find a few month down the road that you don't like your neighbours, you're then stuck there. If you just rent, you are free to move again, if it ever came to that. Love shouldn't have to be expensive. Have you talked to her anymore yet?

I just want to make this perfectly clear to everyone that a baby with her and a mortgage at this stage is totally out of the question!!! Btw twatstrad I really appreciate your comment

All we can do is give you advice. You are the one who has to make the decision.

If you had question enough to post about it I would say there is your answer.

Believe it. Does she want you or need you? If it is want then proceed with caution. If it is need cut it off yesterday and run, do not walk, away.

Tell her to bolt! Play her at her own game? She won't like it 1 bit!

totally agree. I think it's time to set some limits to protect your own feelings and dignity.