Why do many women indicate in profile an interest in dating and friendship (with or without mention of long term relationship) and insist that a man "love animals?" Does she intend to bring pets along on a date or activity? Do pet or animal topics dominate her interest or her conversational topics? Does she think that loving animals indicates that a man is "better" than one who is not an animal lover?

If one is truthfully seeking friends or activity partners it seems irrational to require that they "love animals" unless the only friendships or activities MUST involve animals.

It is usually the first in what will become a long exhausting list of "musts-have or /and must must do's. Some women see pets and kids as things that men must or should love, besides herself, of course. That list will cover foods, certain makes and model cars he simply must drive; a certain job or position,i.e. 'within senior management' etc. My favourite was that the fool prospect must be a senior executive; the type of business was never specified. It used yo make me wonder if these women are looking to be kept by their imaginary 'Sugar Daddy'. Real Life doesn't usually tolerate 'shopping lists' from airheads. Eventually they tend to 'wake up' or they become cranky old and soured spinsters roaming their room muttering to themselves something about "nasty men"...as if it were the fault of men that she was unfit to live with; and ,for sure, it also works
both ways.

I think they just don't want to risk falling in love with someone who would try to make them get rid of a pet that is already an important part of their life.

I digress. What's wrong with liking animals? A lot of people have pets. It doesn't mean they're insane. Just like how some have their own children. A huge difference between wanting them and forcing them upon others. And anyway, who does that? .

*shouting* PIKACHU, WOULD YOU PLEASE PUT THE LEAD PIPE DOWN? I'M NOT HERE TO HARM YOU.

Bitter much.

For people who actually love animals ...no explanation is needed.

For people who don't love animals ....no explanation will ever make them understand.

I will give it a shot though.

For pet lover's...pets are a real part of the family. I may not take my dog on a date...my girl don't take her cats on our dates....but....they are each a deep source of pure love, comfort and stability to the family unit.

The thing non animal lover's just don't get is that the best they can hope for is to be an equal with the pets.

Pets aren't a nuisance or an inconvenience to be tolerated just to score some @$$.

They actually mean something to your lover that ya cant compete with.

The pet was being loved before you came along and will be loved long after you are gone. (Just saying "you "in a general way)

Animal lover's and non animal lover's got no business dating...cause before long....the non animal lover will resent the FACT that they don't out rank a cat or dog.

I had a lot of problems with an ex girlfriend when I wanted to bring my dog along when we went out together. He was my constant companion before I met her and he went everywhere with me. One time she even stormed out of my house telling me that she didn't feel like the trip we had planned for the day and we were going to the beach, for Christ's sake.

In my long and exhaustive study of human behavior, it is clear to me that there is a fundamental difference between those that Love animals, those that tolerate animals, and those that simply dislike animals.

Those that dislike them are [often] prone to be attracted to reptiles...to me, that says it all. If not, they themselves are emotionally distant from those that Love animals.

Those that tolerate animals simply tolerate everything in their life that they didn't personally approve or desire.

Then that are the rest that Love animals. They simply 'Get It'.

I must admit, there are Many things we 'humans' (and I use that term very loosely) can learn about when it comes to the most powerful emotions we have at our disposal- LOVE.

Just my worthless opinion.

Men are the same when they are animal lovers. I dated one guy and told him I might have cancer; he didn't even listen to me when I told him at least three times (via phone and email) but got real upset when his dog threw up. After that I would never date a pet owner again.

I love animals. I really do. However to me, the world
now has gone doggone crazy. Almost everyone here in
my city has a dog. Some people treat their pets a lot
better than they treat other humans.

I would never treat an animal mean, and I don't
have one mainly because they're a lot of work, money
and responsibility. That dog or cat is never going to
grow up. It's gonna shed, puke, get hairballs and cost
you a lot of money. I'd say if you're not well off,
you're better off not having a pet.

I understand a pet isn't going to slander or lash out
at you. Some will greet you at the door when you come
in, while some of your own family members don't want
to bother. I had an Uncle who felt this way.

Wow, this reminds me of a Canadian guy on another site that took a dislike to me when he found out that I was British because a British person had once said something insensitive to him.

I want a man who likes cats because I have One. And, she is staying home. I do not put that on my profile, but I do ask a guy if he likes animals, when we start communicating.

I want a man who likes cats because I have One. And, she is staying home. I do not put that on my profile, but I do ask a guy if he likes animals, when we start communicating.

Nope; not the same thing. I doubt you were dating him for one and two I am comparing a sick animal to a person who was facing a life threatening disease. I should correct myself and say this was the last straw as many times men have put their pets before me. This guy even ruined our vacation together as we couldn't go to a lot of places because he didn't put the dog in a kennel. When he put the dog's life over mine; that was too much to take.

I'm thinking that 100% of the woman who post this love animals. Doubt that a significantly relevant percentage of non-animal loving woman would post such an absurdity.



Possibly. Depends on the date or activity. Some are pet friendly, many are not (unfortunately in my eyes). It's nice to have the option though. A non-animal lover would be excluded from many of the things an animal lover enjoys doing. This means a very limited relationship, and most people don't want limited relationships, whether just friends, or definitely not with people they're dating or hoping to build a relationship with someday. Just because she listed that she's looking for friendship doesn't mean that she's closed herself off to something more...we are on a dating site after all!...maybe she understands that dates, relationships, and/or marriage all start with friendship, hence the seeking friends option selected on her profile.



Not necessarily dominate, but they will be in the repertoire. When she's upset and crying because Rover ate the remote and has to go to the vet's, she'll want her friend, date, lover, husband, whoever to understand, not for them to say "You paid how much to have a dog de-remoted?!" and roll their eyes.

Non-animal lovers can't understand the depth of love that animal lovers have for their animals. Simple as that. So why would she want to be around someone that can't understand her feelings and emotions?



Well aren't they? Duh!




Us animals, the human kind at least, are an irrational sort. Perhaps animal lovers believe somehow that a person that cannot have compassion or love for an animal cannot have compassion or love for people as well, ya know since people are animals after all. So a non-animal lover would technically be a non-people lover and who wants to hang out with a non-people lover if you happen to be a people?!

I know that's a huge jump and an irrational conclusion, but please refer to the first sentence of the previous paragraph. Now I'm gonna go scratch my dog's belly and enjoy his utter enjoyment 'cause I'm an animal lover!

Ya see, women be bringin their dogs on dates as back-up.
If things get out of hand, the dogs will bite u in the arse

Kind of hard to tell from what you say here if you are a demanding sort of woman that can't take boyfriends also having pets that they love or what but I would say that the guy that you do talk about here is hardly typical of pet owners and he was just an idiot. I wouldn't be too keen on putting my dog in a kennel either but if a girlfriend wanted to go on holiday there are people that would look after my dog for me while I was away.

Like I said, I had a girlfriend that didn't want me bringing my dog when we went out together but she didn't actually dislike my dog and she had one herself. She just liked to spend time with me without the dog demanding attention. Fair enough. The first time I took my dog to her house he tried to eat a chew toy that belonged to her dog and he was sick on the floor. He also peed in her house as a territorial thing I guess because her dog was female. I left my dog at home after that and I didn't insist on taking him along on dates. I did think that she was being unreasonable though that day when we were planning to go to the beach. What happened was that she saw me putting the dog's harness on and said that he wasn't coming. I just said, "Poor Sam" while I was taking his harness off again and that's when she lost her temper and stormed out. It was just part of the drama that I had to put up from her.

But all that I'm really getting from your post anyway is that you don't care much for animals and it's true that many pet owners love their pets like other people love their children. I've dated single mothers and I think that most men understand where they stand there. If quality time together away from kids and pets isn't good enough for you and you must have a man all to yourself that's your choice but it does seem a bit selfish to me and it does seem like a prejudice that excludes a lot of men that might want to date you.

I come from a nation of animal lovers and many single people do have a pet for companionship. If you have a dog it's like part of your family and it's as simple as that. It's a responsibility that you take on and how someone looks after their pets is a character trait that does tell you something about what sort of person they are. The last woman that I met through this dating site asked me if I wanted to meet up and go for a walk because she knew that I have a dog. She did make a judgment about my character when she met me and saw my dog. She saw that I have a happy dog and to her that was a sign that I'm a good guy. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people that do have dogs that don't treat them so well and I wouldn't trust someone that mistreats or neglects animals.

OP, if you don't like animals, fair enough, but why bother even asking when you know you don't like them? I don't understand your curiousity then, in this case. An animal lover probably wouldn't date you. So you have nothing to worry about.

I have to agree with Krupa....

I do have a dog that is part of my life... She is spoiled rotten and loves everyone...

Would I date a guy that hated pets hell no. No telling when he would be mean to mine...I'll keep the dog before I date someone that would not be able to accept her...

No, not that I am selfish; however I forgot to mention I am allergic to any sort of pet hair. If that makes me a bad person; oh well. Don't suggest taking allergy meds as my body can't take any type of meds without knocking me out. However if I weren't allergic to fur; does that mean I can put my friends before him? My friends are like family to me so if he can treat a pet like family; then I should be able to treat friends like family. Fair is fair I say. I don't hate pets but I don't want to be tied down by one. Just like most people don't want kids in their later years as they want to be free to travel. Traveling with a pet is hard as most hotels; understandably; don't want pets in their hotels. You are literally chained to your pet much like having to tote around a young baby. As for a person's character; I am way more impressed with someone who does charity work or volunteer work than someone who owns a pet. As you say; people can abuse pets or kids; so that doesn't make them good people. And as for dating; I gave up long ago as pets or no pets; no one wants to date me. I don't care. I just gave my opinion this post on why some people don't want to date pet owners. That is all I have to say on the subject and personally I could care less what anyone thinks of me.