Anybody up for a little constructive criticism? I'd like some feeedback please.

Alright, I read your profile before and notice the changes that you have made to it.

It's not a bad read and seems honest but admitting that you still love somebody else would put off a lot of genuine people that want more than a fling I think. Honestly, it's not "so hard to get these things across in emails" at all and in my opinion, you don't want to be talking about previous relationships on a profile, even if you aren't ready for a new one yet. It's enough to say that you are just looking for friendship for now.

On the plus side, saying that you are prepared and willing to meet for a coffee is good if you don't want people to think that you are one of the many time wasters on here that are never going to do anything apart from emailing.

Interesting. Actually what I was going for there, was to say that I was married for ten years to a lovely person, and just because the marriage is done, does not mean I cast the man off. We are still friends. That's the kind of person I am, I don't take friendship lightly. It's interesting that you interpreted that as a sign of being a "time waster". It's also confirmation that these things are indeed, difficult to get across through correspondence.

Thanks for the feedback though, I'll think about rewording again.

Can I interest anyone else in a little constructive criticism?

I think it is great! I'd read your previous one, too, so I like the changes. I think you are being open and honest; I understand the discussion of keeping ex as a friend. Shows your compassion and depth of character.

Well, I've had personal experience with women that were still involved with someone else that they still loved and they did mess me about.

I told a girl that I met recently about an experience that I had with a woman like that and she said to me that, "Women that hang about with ex's are as bad as guys that go fanny fishing".

Honestly, no prospective boyfriend wants to hear that if it doesn't work out you will still be friends, if that's what you're trying to say. I may be concluding things about you from that blurb because of my own personal experiences but I don't think that I'm the only guy that's met women like that. The problem is that you can say that it's over and that you are ready to move on and you may even believe it yourself but that doesn't mean that a man reading it will and if it's a "red flag" thing for me I'm just saying that it could be for a lot of genuine people that don't just want a fling with a woman that isn't emotionally available because she still loves somebody else.

I really do understand what you're saying, and I'll likely alter my profile slightly, but again, what I was going for is that friendship is what is important with me. The deep stuff comes after if there is a connection. If a man has enough security in himself to see the value of a woman who doesn't cast people aside like the carcass of a fish, he is very welcome to come and get to know me. That's what I'm going for with that profile. I'm also trying to get it across that friendship is more valuable than f*cking, in the hopes that the men who are looking for the latter will go away. I hope men who are also emotionally secure will also see the honesty, and that the scammers will not interpret it as the sign of an easy mark.

Maybe you're right, maybe I could rework the profile to say that more directly. Anybody have a little constructive criticism in that regard?

Thank you so much Jade, I'm glad that's coming across!

That's even worse. You are basically saying that what you still have with your ex is more important to you than getting romantically involved with somebody new.

Your profile was fine the way that it was before and you can't stop men from hitting on you. Emotional security has nothing to do with it. Ex still in the picture isn't something that anybody wants to read on a profile and saying that you won't just cast men off encourages "I just want to be friends", won't take no for an answer types.

I like the text blurb. I think you could probably do without most of the pictures of your artwork, which are really good, but I'd rather see better pictures of you. Maybe get your other friends to get a few shots of you doing things you like, possibly a shot of you dressed up for an evening out. Have fun with it. Otherwise, good job on the rework.

Thanks for the suggestions Mortman.

For goodness sakes Tawt, you're definitely inserting your own experiences!

I've had quite enough of that I think.

Good luck in your search.

Yeah, me too. That's why I'm saying that women that are still involved with someone else aren't worth bothering with and that I wouldn't touch someone saying that with a bargepole unless I really was only looking for friendship or a fling.