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Topic: Ladies...if you had to choose....
1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Mon 08/12/13 07:24 PM
Nope; I wouldn't give up a damn thing for a relationship. It sounds like a control issue to me and I would end up resenting a guy asking me to do that. I wasn't as clear as I should have been. "For the good of the relationship" was supposed to mean due to some circumstance...not because he just wants you to. I hadn't thought about that at all, cause I don't see why a guy would ask you to ditch your stuff....but suppose it happens by not only yours, but reactions I got in my similar thread for the fellas. I don't see how giving up any of my stuff would help a relationship unless I was a hoarder. It's something of an abstract question anyway. Hording would definitely be a good example of a reason this question could become real though.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Mon 08/12/13 07:27 PM
For a rich man, I'll give up everything except my son......shopping spree..... I want a taste of the"kept" & "pampered" lifestyle When I want to be pampered, a Greek yogurt usually does the trick.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/12/13 07:27 PM
Could you give up your stuff for the good of your relationship? Say you could keep one purse and a few cosmetic items and suitcase full of clothing? Would you walk away, or sacrifice and stay? Would it matter if it were an established relationship or someone new who you really cared for? What kind of situation would I be in where I need to give up my stuff for a relationship? I need more info!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/12/13 07:28 PM
Nope; I wouldn't give up a damn thing for a relationship. It sounds like a control issue to me and I would end up resenting a guy asking me to do that. I wasn't as clear as I should have been. "For the good of the relationship" was supposed to mean due to some circumstance...not because he just wants you to. I hadn't thought about that at all, cause I don't see why a guy would ask you to ditch your stuff....but suppose it happens by not only yours, but reactions I got in my similar thread for the fellas. What kind of circumstances?

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Mon 08/12/13 07:41 PM
Nope; I wouldn't give up a damn thing for a relationship. It sounds like a control issue to me and I would end up resenting a guy asking me to do that. I wasn't as clear as I should have been. "For the good of the relationship" was supposed to mean due to some circumstance...not because he just wants you to. I hadn't thought about that at all, cause I don't see why a guy would ask you to ditch your stuff....but suppose it happens by not only yours, but reactions I got in my similar thread for the fellas. What kind of circumstances? It's not a specific question about a specific circumstance. This is more of a question of whether or not you've become so set in your ways and attached to your things to consider sacrificing them for a good reason to maintain or save a relationship. I would not answer it either.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 08/13/13 07:36 AM Edited by singmesweet on Tue 08/13/13 07:37 AM
I cannot think of a situation where I would need to give up my things for the sake of a relationship. I'd need to know what kind of situation or reasoning there would be in order for me to actually give an answer.

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Tue 08/13/13 07:55 AM
so much for true love, huh...

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 08/13/13 08:49 AM
so much for true love, huh... Why do you say that?

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Tue 08/13/13 08:56 AM
If he really loved you, he wouldn't make you give up your stuff, and vice versa.

Mystique42 Joined Thu 04/12/07 Posts: 5045	Tue 08/13/13 08:57 AM
If he really loved me, then maybe he'd be the one giving up his stuff instead of me always giving up mine. Just a thought!

eyemaflirt247 Joined Tue 05/28/13 Posts: 91	Tue 08/13/13 09:04 AM
For a rich man, I'll give up everything except my son......shopping spree..... I want a taste of the"kept" & "pampered" lifestyle When I want to be pampered, a Greek yogurt usually does the trick. I've tried Greek yogurt. It's not for me

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Tue 08/13/13 09:42 AM
so much for true love, huh... Why do you say that? cause your crap is worth more than love... crap can be replaced, true love cannot...

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Tue 08/13/13 09:43 AM
so much for true love, huh... Why do you say that? cause your crap is worth more than love... crap can be replaced, true love cannot... But if it's true love, they wouldn't tell you what you can and can't have.

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Tue 08/13/13 11:13 AM
Old woman perfume irritates my lungs. Would you give it up if your man was allergic?

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 08/13/13 11:22 AM
Could you give up your stuff for the good of your relationship? Say you could keep one purse and a few cosmetic items and suitcase full of clothing? Would you walk away, or sacrifice and stay? Would it matter if it were an established relationship or someone new who you really cared for? some stuff is more easily replacable than othrs Im very non materialistic, so I don't really care much about the tangible things besides food, shelter, and clothing,,,and some entertainment, like a stereo, a tv, or a computer,,,, if I have to 'start over', it will be a mutual decision and we both will 'start over' together,,,, but a lot has to pass before I get to that level of trust in another, especially since I am a parent

the_one_4me Joined Tue 07/30/13 Posts: 127	Tue 08/13/13 11:26 AM
I would give it all up for true love clothes are somethink that you.can replace if you love someone that much and they love you. You will do anythink for them

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 08/13/13 11:52 AM
so much for true love, huh... Why do you say that? cause your crap is worth more than love... crap can be replaced, true love cannot... What does love have to do with someone giving up their stuff? Can you provide an example?

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Tue 08/13/13 02:51 PM
Old woman perfume irritates my lungs. Would you give it up if your man was allergic? Yes. Perfumes bother my mother so my father rarely uses cologne.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Tue 08/13/13 04:55 PM
so much for true love, huh... Why do you say that? cause your crap is worth more than love... crap can be replaced, true love cannot... I guess it depends on the stuff. There are things that are very valuable to me like keep sakes from my family; for example a purse my deceased brother gave me. So, no love is worth giving that up for. Blood is definitely thicker than water but that is just how I feel.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Tue 08/13/13 04:57 PM
I would give it all up for true love clothes are somethink that you.can replace if you love someone that much and they love you. You will do anythink for them I disagree that you will do anything for them. Sometimes; you do have to draw a line. Afterall; you are not a doormat for them.