OK, question....what is wrong with this situation or is it that I am reading it wrong or it is simply me?

Over the last 12 months or so I have become friendly with some ladies over various sites. (Not this one, yet!) Things go well and fast and furious, as the emails and IM's fly back and forth. The minute I give my phone number out there are maybe 2 or 3 phone conversations, an attempt at a first date or meeting and then no phone calls return and no further correspondence of any kind.

Anyone?

slow down more take the time dont sound to desprate on the phone




beat you this time blond rocker

Shutter, I thought the same thing at first....but now I am thinking I am going to slow for some of them....

you might be right my friend

its hard to tell anymore what women really want

Emails and IM can be a bit impersonal. Phone conversations bring more personal contact to the developing relationship. I feel you can find out quite a bit when talking on the phone and have personally chosen not to meet men after having phone conversations.

how quick are you meeting? why do you think you things are progressing too slow?

maybe the phone calls weren't what they imagined them to be when IM'ng and emailing.

Allsmiles, thanks for the insight....

Jump, I don't think they are progressing slow at all...Emailing back and forth over a few months and then a few phone calls. That's a pretty good speed for someone you don't know. Then on like the third call I attempt a meeting and I usually get someting like "Oh Friday, great! Give me a call Thursday night and we'll firm it up!" Then I call, get an answering machine, leave a message and wait...and wait....and wait!

King, I hear ya...but the only thing different would be the sound of my voice because I write and speak what I feel. And no I don't sound like a weirdo or anything like that, I have a normail voice. I mean not high pitched or to low....

Some people just don't have the personal strength to say right out that they are not interested. It is easier (for them) to use the avoidance technique. I would prefer someone tell me rather than make me wonder.

Whats your voice quality sound like?
Like horse, scratchy, deep, light,
Has anyone EVER said something to you about your voice,ANYTHING?
Now, IF THATS not it then it might be your showing them your uneasy talking to them,always making joke and not lestening to them, kinda scattered,,,??

Or To closed to YOUR thoughts and desires?
Or to day dreaming about NOTHING and they lose interest in conversation?

Do any of these make ya think ONE might be IT???

wasn't an attack on you TAM. you may not have done anything differently but you know how some people get an "idea" of what the other person is like.

did you ever think that maybe they are not who they say they are , so when that time comes to meet they back out ! something to think about !

It sounds like you are meeting women that are just not serious about meeting and having a real relationship...For some on-line is enough for whatever reason....

to me, doesn't sound like they are the kind of people you want to get involved with. If I am asked out, yes I ask them to call night before to confirm or at least text me...I always answer or return phone call or text.


Some women are just plain mean or just looking to talk, with no meeting. Some women are scared (like me) to meet someone they have talked to online, even if they've talked for 2 or 3 months. Its a scary world out there for women.

My two cents. :)

sorry typo...meant to say "not" involved with. Been a long day. :)

Iam4U, nope known of the above....I think the others have shed some light. Perhaps they are not who they say they are, perhaps they are scared of being hurt. Everyone has some pretty good ideas. thanks!

Well you do know there are alot who just PLAY on these posts, and there are also alot who are shy to talk to at first.
Just trying to help man.

I totally believe in "voice chemistry." If you just don't have it with someone, it's like physical chemistry -- what's there just isn't "there." I know that's stopped me from meeting someone in person, even after several emails, etc. If I don't get a good vibe from the voice, I call it off -- seems abrupt, I know, but it's a really visceral thing with me -- if I don't like someone's voice or accent, or if they use incorrect grammar, etc., I'm just not there. I wish you luck, man!

maybe you are just like me, a normal guy, maybe no one really beleives you are. They then just decide to drop you like you have a booger on your face. I know for sure I will make the right woman happy she gave me the chance, I am sure you will too. don't give up, when you find her she will thank god you did!