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Well now see, I would rather put up a really crappy picture and generate low expectations than a 'hot' one and have them disappointed with the real thing. |
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Of course sexy pictures work....
Otherwise Roseanne Barr and Rosie Odonnel would be models for Victoria's Secret. |
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So is it only the game or the "pursuit" that makes it interesting for you?
Is there nothing else "interesting" after you have captured your prey? Is that what it's about for you? An interesting game of conquest? No, No game to it. As I said before, I'm kinda old school. I lose interest quick with a woman who will after just a few dates,lay down with me. A lot of people seem to think that if you're not sleeping together within 3 to 5 dates, You're not interested. That's not true for every man. To me, Their's a lot that goes with this. Dating someone, It's part of building trust. If a woman will sleep with a man that quick,Who knows what she will do when his back is turned. It's also about character. Who are you,What are you? I personally like to know these things before I go sticking my pole in a pond that with all honesty,After three or five dates,I don't know you,you don't really know me. You see, From the best I can tell,Now, It's all about the "feeling". If it feels right,do it. Well, Sometimes some things may feel right at the time,But in reality,That lust you both feel on the 3rd date, You may think is something else at the time,Until you wake up to that person beside you that was "right" last night and think to yourself, WTF am I doing here? OR, Even worse, A few months pass and what you once thought was "cute" about him or her,Now, Drives you insane? You see my point? No, No game involved. It's called something that a lot of people seem to lack now,PLAIN OLD COMMON SENSE! You date to learn about each other. It takes more than 3 to 5 to do that. Learn about each other. Given enough time you might figure out that you love each other. If you do,Have as much sex as you want. You see, If you do it this way, You are basing your relationship on love and respect for each other. Usually, If you base your relationship on love and respect for each other, It has a better chance of lasting. But, The way most seem to want to do now, They base their relationship on "first" attraction and sex. Or, How good the sex is with that person. It's bound to fail. Look at the divorce rate for proof. I totally agree with everything you said and I am surprised. I didn't know men like you even existed. I wish there were more of them. A mature sensible man. Wow. Who would have ever thought they even existed.....  <-------that's me in shock.
I'm going to have to alter my perception of men and reality now. 
Well, I know this may be hard to believe, Their are other guys out there that think, I will say, At least close to the way I do. I know that the grand majority of men now think with their pecker. Guys like me are getting fewer and farther between. It seems to me that more and more people now,they don't realize it,but,they are getting more and more like animals. No better than two dogs getting it on in your front yard. I honestly believe that is why a lot of men stay single. Just like a few min ago I was on another site reading some questions that a woman had answered. One of the main turn offs that I see when reading questions that people answer knowing that anyone can read them,are some of the sex questions. Long story short, One of the questions was about, "Would you stay in a relationship with a man if the sex wasn't that good?" She said,NO,She wouldn't. When I see that,It's a automatic turn off for me. I move right on to the next one. Here's why, A simple question always comes in my mind. "Where is the love?" If you truly love a man, Or if a man truly loves a woman, The sex part is fixable. All it takes is some communication, love and time and the sex will get better. So, In other words, When I see that I know that this person doesn't base their relationships on love and respect for the other. All they want to think about is their self. Their pleasure, They emphasize sex to much. They are not thinking about loving someone in that unconditional way that we all are suppose to. With most now it's "I love you "IF" And that my friend isn't the way it's suppose to be. This is the biggest reason why I haven't remarried after almost 14 years of being divorced. Some people think that when a person stays single this long after being divorced that they must have commitment issues. That's not always true. I would be more than glad to commit if only people would quit scaring the shyt out of me with their weird way of thinking what a relationship is.I know what love is and I know what it's suppose to be.And it isn't based on sex and the performance of it. I know what real commitment is to and what it's suppose to be is quickly becoming a thing of the past. |
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So is it only the game or the "pursuit" that makes it interesting for you?
Is there nothing else "interesting" after you have captured your prey? Is that what it's about for you? An interesting game of conquest? No, No game to it. As I said before, I'm kinda old school. I lose interest quick with a woman who will after just a few dates,lay down with me. A lot of people seem to think that if you're not sleeping together within 3 to 5 dates, You're not interested. That's not true for every man. To me, Their's a lot that goes with this. Dating someone, It's part of building trust. If a woman will sleep with a man that quick,Who knows what she will do when his back is turned. It's also about character. Who are you,What are you? I personally like to know these things before I go sticking my pole in a pond that with all honesty,After three or five dates,I don't know you,you don't really know me. You see, From the best I can tell,Now, It's all about the "feeling". If it feels right,do it. Well, Sometimes some things may feel right at the time,But in reality,That lust you both feel on the 3rd date, You may think is something else at the time,Until you wake up to that person beside you that was "right" last night and think to yourself, WTF am I doing here? OR, Even worse, A few months pass and what you once thought was "cute" about him or her,Now, Drives you insane? You see my point? No, No game involved. It's called something that a lot of people seem to lack now,PLAIN OLD COMMON SENSE! You date to learn about each other. It takes more than 3 to 5 to do that. Learn about each other. Given enough time you might figure out that you love each other. If you do,Have as much sex as you want. You see, If you do it this way, You are basing your relationship on love and respect for each other. Usually, If you base your relationship on love and respect for each other, It has a better chance of lasting. But, The way most seem to want to do now, They base their relationship on "first" attraction and sex. Or, How good the sex is with that person. It's bound to fail. Look at the divorce rate for proof. I totally agree with everything you said and I am surprised. I didn't know men like you even existed. I wish there were more of them. A mature sensible man. Wow. Who would have ever thought they even existed..... <-------that's me in shock.
I'm going to have to alter my perception of men and reality now.
Well, I know this may be hard to believe, Their are other guys out there that think, I will say, At least close to the way I do. I know that the grand majority of men now think with their pecker. Guys like me are getting fewer and farther between. It seems to me that more and more people now,they don't realize it,but,they are getting more and more like animals. No better than two dogs getting it on in your front yard. I honestly believe that is why a lot of men stay single. Just like a few min ago I was on another site reading some questions that a woman had answered. One of the main turn offs that I see when reading questions that people answer knowing that anyone can read them,are some of the sex questions. Long story short, One of the questions was about, "Would you stay in a relationship with a man if the sex wasn't that good?" She said,NO,She wouldn't. When I see that,It's a automatic turn off for me. I move right on to the next one. Here's why, A simple question always comes in my mind. "Where is the love?" If you truly love a man, Or if a man truly loves a woman, The sex part is fixable. All it takes is some communication, love and time and the sex will get better. So, In other words, When I see that I know that this person doesn't base their relationships on love and respect for the other. All they want to think about is their self. Their pleasure, They emphasize sex to much. They are not thinking about loving someone in that unconditional way that we all are suppose to. With most now it's "I love you "IF" And that my friend isn't the way it's suppose to be. This is the biggest reason why I haven't remarried after almost 14 years of being divorced. Some people think that when a person stays single this long after being divorced that they must have commitment issues. That's not always true. I would be more than glad to commit if only people would quit scaring the shyt out of me with their weird way of thinking what a relationship is.I know what love is and I know what it's suppose to be.And it isn't based on sex and the performance of it. I know what real commitment is to and what it's suppose to be is quickly becoming a thing of the past. It is so nice to know that there are still guys out there that are not all about sex. A relationship needs a foundation to build on. Sex is like trying to grow a plant in a very shallow rocky area with no fertilizer. It might grow for a little while, but if you do not feed it or water it, it will eventually die. No strong roots were there to keep it alive. |
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On that note, why put up a sexy picture when you are looking for more than sex? If sex is what you are seeking, let others know that. If you want a meaningful relationship, then a sexy picture is not a good thing because it sends the wrong message. The first impression is the most important, but since this is all online we only have what pictures are uploaded and whatever personality is portrayed during the posts in the forums.
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i think not
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On that note, why put up a sexy picture when you are looking for more than sex? If sex is what you are seeking, let others know that. If you want a meaningful relationship, then a sexy picture is not a good thing because it sends the wrong message. The first impression is the most important, but since this is all online we only have what pictures are uploaded and whatever personality is portrayed during the posts in the forums. Yep, that's why I took my "sexy" picture completely off. It was just an experiment anyway. I did get some meaningless messages and invites from men young enough to be my... grand children. |
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I don't know but, I'm pretty hot.
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On that note, why put up a sexy picture when you are looking for more than sex? If sex is what you are seeking, let others know that. If you want a meaningful relationship, then a sexy picture is not a good thing because it sends the wrong message. The first impression is the most important, but since this is all online we only have what pictures are uploaded and whatever personality is portrayed during the posts in the forums. Yep, that's why I took my "sexy" picture completely off. It was just an experiment anyway. I did get some meaningless messages and invites from men young enough to be my... grand children. Back when I was on POF, at the time, I had 10 friends that I talked to almost everyday. They were constantly telling me about all the really weirdo men that were contacting them. I've heard it all. One day just for the heck of it I went out on the net and found two different pictures. One of a very pretty 30 yr old woman. The other, average looking. I made two fake profiles and posted them. The one with the really pretty girl, I pretty much said nothing about herself in the profile. The average looking girl, I looked all over three different dating sites till I found a very good profile to borrow. Copy and Paste works wonders. Then, I just set back and waited. I left these profiles up for one week before I deleted them. It was an experiment. I never answered any of the messages that were sent to either profile. except one, It needed answering. This guy was a complete pervert. I can't say what I said to him here. All I can say is, I set his ears on fire. By the time I got done with him he didn't want to talk to me anymore. The others, I did read the messages. It didn't matter that one girl was really pretty while the other was average. They both got their fair share of dirty,perverted messages. I noticed that the great majority of men that answered were either sick minded perverts or really lacked social skills. It was also a learning experience for me. There are some really goofy women out there. But, There is a LOT of sick minded men out there. Really sick puppies. |
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So is it only the game or the "pursuit" that makes it interesting for you?
Is there nothing else "interesting" after you have captured your prey? Is that what it's about for you? An interesting game of conquest? No, No game to it. As I said before, I'm kinda old school. I lose interest quick with a woman who will after just a few dates,lay down with me. A lot of people seem to think that if you're not sleeping together within 3 to 5 dates, You're not interested. That's not true for every man. To me, Their's a lot that goes with this. Dating someone, It's part of building trust. If a woman will sleep with a man that quick,Who knows what she will do when his back is turned. It's also about character. Who are you,What are you? I personally like to know these things before I go sticking my pole in a pond that with all honesty,After three or five dates,I don't know you,you don't really know me. You see, From the best I can tell,Now, It's all about the "feeling". If it feels right,do it. Well, Sometimes some things may feel right at the time,But in reality,That lust you both feel on the 3rd date, You may think is something else at the time,Until you wake up to that person beside you that was "right" last night and think to yourself, WTF am I doing here? OR, Even worse, A few months pass and what you once thought was "cute" about him or her,Now, Drives you insane? You see my point? No, No game involved. It's called something that a lot of people seem to lack now,PLAIN OLD COMMON SENSE! You date to learn about each other. It takes more than 3 to 5 to do that. Learn about each other. Given enough time you might figure out that you love each other. If you do,Have as much sex as you want. You see, If you do it this way, You are basing your relationship on love and respect for each other. Usually, If you base your relationship on love and respect for each other, It has a better chance of lasting. But, The way most seem to want to do now, They base their relationship on "first" attraction and sex. Or, How good the sex is with that person. It's bound to fail. Look at the divorce rate for proof. I totally agree with everything you said and I am surprised. I didn't know men like you even existed. I wish there were more of them. A mature sensible man. Wow. Who would have ever thought they even existed..... <-------that's me in shock.
I'm going to have to alter my perception of men and reality now.
Well, I know this may be hard to believe, Their are other guys out there that think, I will say, At least close to the way I do. I know that the grand majority of men now think with their pecker. Guys like me are getting fewer and farther between. It seems to me that more and more people now,they don't realize it,but,they are getting more and more like animals. No better than two dogs getting it on in your front yard. I honestly believe that is why a lot of men stay single. Just like a few min ago I was on another site reading some questions that a woman had answered. One of the main turn offs that I see when reading questions that people answer knowing that anyone can read them,are some of the sex questions. Long story short, One of the questions was about, "Would you stay in a relationship with a man if the sex wasn't that good?" She said,NO,She wouldn't. When I see that,It's a automatic turn off for me. I move right on to the next one. Here's why, A simple question always comes in my mind. "Where is the love?" If you truly love a man, Or if a man truly loves a woman, The sex part is fixable. All it takes is some communication, love and time and the sex will get better. So, In other words, When I see that I know that this person doesn't base their relationships on love and respect for the other. All they want to think about is their self. Their pleasure, They emphasize sex to much. They are not thinking about loving someone in that unconditional way that we all are suppose to. With most now it's "I love you "IF" And that my friend isn't the way it's suppose to be. This is the biggest reason why I haven't remarried after almost 14 years of being divorced. Some people think that when a person stays single this long after being divorced that they must have commitment issues. That's not always true. I would be more than glad to commit if only people would quit scaring the shyt out of me with their weird way of thinking what a relationship is.I know what love is and I know what it's suppose to be.And it isn't based on sex and the performance of it. I know what real commitment is to and what it's suppose to be is quickly becoming a thing of the past. It is so nice to know that there are still guys out there that are not all about sex. A relationship needs a foundation to build on. Sex is like trying to grow a plant in a very shallow rocky area with no fertilizer. It might grow for a little while, but if you do not feed it or water it, it will eventually die. No strong roots were there to keep it alive. Thank you. 
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This is all good in theory.
Sexy is bad....men are shallow...love me for the person I am...guys only want me for my looks..... Try the other end of the spectrum.... Post up the crappiest pix ya got....hair looking like crap...no make up....beer belly...Chili stained shirt...looking like ya just spent a hard weekend in the drunk tank at the county jail. Really put that "love the inner me " to the test..... Personally, I always spiffy up to hang out socially .....either here or in actual gatherings. Looking like I am ashamed, a slob or I just don't give a damned has always gotten me ZERO attention. Catching someones attention is pretty danged important if you ever want to meet them. |
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I've been a witness of it many times, so I know the answer is 'Yes'. I really don't ever expect a guy to choose average-looking me, when some of my female friend's are better looking than me. You see it with boyband's and girl bands. There's always about three obviously handsome, groomed-to-hell men, one "ugly" member, and a gay guy. Those band's hardly exist these days. That was the nineties. A good pic can go a long way, but if he's a wife beater, I'd seriously have to think about that.
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Edited by
Charles1962150
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I've been a witness of it many times, so I know the answer is 'Yes'. I really don't ever expect a guy to choose average-looking me, when some of my female friend's are better looking than me. You see it with boyband's and girl bands. There's always about three obviously handsome, groomed-to-hell men, one "ugly" member, and a gay guy. Those band's hardly exist these days. That was the nineties. A good pic can go a long way, but if he's a wife beater, I'd seriously have to think about that. Seriously, I don't think it really matters to most men. I may be totally wrong here when it comes to the big picture. All I have to go by is what I have personally seen. I don't mean to sound mean or ugly here. Just honest. I personally have seen some good-looking men with what I thought was,not so good-looking woman. I've seen it the other way to. Right now I personally know a woman who is very pretty. Got a body to die for, She is also a succesful lawyer. She is in her mid 30's,but doesn't look it. She is married to one of the ugliest man I've ever seen. Ever time I see him in town he looks like he has been rolling in dirt. He doesn't work. He can't. He is disabled from a car wreck that messed up one of his arms. To look at him you would think he is a common bum. The first time I saw this woman dressed to the nines, Walk up to him on the street and kiss him, I couldn't believe it. If that doesn't prove there is someone for everyone and that love is blind,Nothing does. I think in the long run,Everyone has something about them that makes another persons thang go twang. The problem is,Finding that person. Somewhere out there,There is a guy that is gonna look at you and he isn't going to see "average" You just haven't met him yet. |
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Post up the crappiest pix ya got....hair looking like crap...no make up....beer belly...Chili stained shirt...looking like ya just spent a hard weekend in the drunk tank at the county jail.
I've seen women fall all over this type of man. More times than I can count. |
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Post up the crappiest pix ya got....hair looking like crap...no make up....beer belly...Chili stained shirt...looking like ya just spent a hard weekend in the drunk tank at the county jail.
I've seen women fall all over this type of man. More times than I can count. They all fall for Santa. 
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Edited by
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This is all good in theory. Sexy is bad....men are shallow...love me for the person I am...guys only want me for my looks..... Try the other end of the spectrum.... Post up the crappiest pix ya got....hair looking like crap...no make up....beer belly...Chili stained shirt...looking like ya just spent a hard weekend in the drunk tank at the county jail. Really put that "love the inner me " to the test..... Personally, I always spiffy up to hang out socially .....either here or in actual gatherings. Looking like I am ashamed, a slob or I just don't give a damned has always gotten me ZERO attention. Catching someones attention is pretty danged important if you ever want to meet them. Bad hygiene, beer belly showing, stained shirt etc. just shows disrespect and a "I don't give a crap" attitude. It should get you zero attention. No Charles1962150, women don't "fall all over" these types. There is a difference between ruggedly handsome and a slob. |
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The sexy photos work if you're looking for shallow men, imo.
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The sexy photos work if you're looking for shallow men, imo. Not necessarily. Just because a man's hormones are raging does not mean he is shallow, although the raging hormones are very distracting for him I imagine. Its like people who are starving... all they can think about is their next meal and the sex drive goes out the window. When a man's hormones are raging, his intellect goes out the window. 
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The sexy photos work if you're looking for shallow men, imo. Not necessarily. Just because a man's hormones are raging does not mean he is shallow, although the raging hormones are very distracting for him I imagine. Its like people who are starving... all they can think about is their next meal and the sex drive goes out the window. When a man's hormones are raging, his intellect goes out the window.
All I know is they don't attract me. I need personality and brains. |
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A sexy pictures will not make a difference unless that is what you are selling yourself as, and have no more to offer then sex.
I have found that it really doesn't matter what type of photo you post of yourself, that the great majority of men that send messages are sick minded or perverted wanting to play mind games. I agree with Charles there is a LOT of sick minded men out there who are really sick puppies. And I'm sure there are some really goofy women out there also. |
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