I am newly joined here in mingle2 and I am married, I would love to talk and meet other people online and make friends with, women or men, if I talk to men , am I cheating?

This may not be a popular idea, but I think if you question something you do might dishonor your husband, it's cheating him in some way or another.

To avoid any suggestion of inappropriate behavior, let your husband know that you joined this site and tell him why.

It should be noted - and tell your husband this - that this site did not start out to be just a site for singles looking for dates. This site is primarily a way for people to socialize.

If your conscience gets to bothering you, then you can de-activate your account.

Thanks for the reply.. I am just confused if talking to other people online is bad,, I find this website as in general.. not looking for someone to date,, but just want to have friends..

I showed my husband and he said he is not bothered .... I showed him the community forums and everything are there,, including parenting,, so I guess this is a good site to talk to people,, I hope so.. I will not deactivate my account not unless someone or some people wants me out of here...

Absolutely agree with this too.

If you're looking for online friendships this is a great place to be. Awesome people hang out here.


David, is that what the older members here are talking about when they talk about the old site name?

I'm only here for friendships too. I don't have a husband though, so don't have to worry about anyone's feelings, but the people here.

You don't need our approval to be here.
You and your old man are cool with it.
Welcome and I hope you make lots of friends.

I agree. If it's a secret, then it's obviously something you're hiding. But if you are here for friendship and the forums then absolutely not!

I am only here to meet people. I am looking for some one to date. I would never have been on a site like this, had my husband not been on adult sites to have secret friends. THAT is cheating.

Have fun, take care of the people you love. Whatever you do, think about how you would feel if your spouse was doing the same thing. If it would be painful if he was having conversations with another, then there is something to think about.

My spouse has many regrets, but he could not give up his secrets. So now he doesn't have to. He is a free man to do whatever wants with whoever he can find because I am no longer part of his life, except as a friend to chat with online from a different continent.

Have fun, be respectful.

I have read posts by moderators in which they explain this site's origin. I was not here when it had its original name.

If you have sex with other people besides your wife or hubby, you're cheating.

If you're talking to people online.. you're not cheating.

It really isn't more complicated than this.

Unless, of course, you have an open relationship. In which case, the levels of acceptable behavior need to be established way in advance. But, just as in any good relationship, effective communication is key.

Welcome and enjoy the forums

Every relationship has different boundries.

If you and your husband are clear on what they are and neither of you are uncomfortable with you choices I don't see a problem.

I have been online and prior to that on the CB and Ham radio many years and that was married and single and it was not an issue.

I think it is possible to limit and edit out the people or contact you do not want by setting mail limits and blocking offensive people. Since you can easily see profiles from senders before you even open private mail it is easy enough to carefully select the people you chat privately with which I see as an entirely different thing than posting in public forums.

All that said I do caution keeping clear boundries on conversations and friendships when in a marriage so that you don't during times of stress or lonliness drift into trouble, jealouse feelings, or just hurt feelings generally from taking too much away from the marriage..

I know couples on this site and I respect their spouses by making it clear that any contact is directed to both. And some conversations are off limits. I doubt that is universally true for all folks but you teach people how to treat you and a well written profile can at least establish basic premises.

Good Luck and Welcome.