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Toodygirl5
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I want guys in my age group which is in their 50s and as they are hitting their mid-life crisis; they want a younger woman as least that is how it is here. You have to remember I am in oiltown and these men with money want eye candy not some old woman in her 50s. Men get as crazy in their mid-life crisis as women do in their menopause. I have tried in my 20s, 30s, 40s, and even when I turned 50; but no luck. Its too late for me now at my age so I just need to live out my life the best way I can on my own. Hell; after seeing how the floods have affected our city; really being single is the least of my worries. Thanks for the kind words but bottom line men don't find me attractive. I have accepted this and I have moved on to things that really matter to me like helping out in my community. I seen those terrible floods on tv yesterday, I pray for all those who are suffering there. 
Sometimes when we least except it, Love does come along. We don't have to look for it for Love to find Us. Imo Older men with Money can get a nice young woman. Many of the Older men settle for Old women when they have not means to attract a Young/Attractive woman. Some Older women, ask for very little material things. 
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Find guys who aren't ********, for one thing. Sounds like you've only ever dated the shallow kind. Trust me, there are plenty of men out there who aren't looking for a supermodel. I am sure that is true but I have never met them. You keep speaking in the past tense, and talking about guys you met in high school. Sister, high school was a long time ago for both of us, so maybe it's time to try again? Guys in your age group are going to be, what, fortyish? Trust me, they've matured, or at least most of them have. They're not going to be out for "a prettier girl" and in any case, you're not a girl anymore -- you're a WOMAN. That's what truly adult men want. I've seen your photos on here, and you're an attractive person. Neither you or I are ever going to be on the cover of Cosmo (and who'd really want to be on that shallow rag?) but BOTH of us are perfectly capable of attracting a guy's attention. And the really QUALITY men give bonus points for intellect and the ability to carry on an interesting conversation, something I know that you can do with ease. Don't look back; look forward. I want guys in my age group which is in their 50s and as they are hitting their mid-life crisis; they want a younger woman as least that is how it is here. You have to remember I am in oiltown and these men with money want eye candy not some old woman in her 50s. Men get as crazy in their mid-life crisis as women do in their menopause. I have tried in my 20s, 30s, 40s, and even when I turned 50; but no luck. Its too late for me now at my age so I just need to live out my life the best way I can on my own. Hell; after seeing how the floods have affected our city; really being single is the least of my worries. Thanks for the kind words but bottom line men don't find me attractive. I have accepted this and I have moved on to things that really matter to me like helping out in my community. Uh, I'm approaching menopause but I'd like to think I'm not crazy. LOL. And if the men where you live aren't worth your time, what about looking elsewhere? Trust me, I know plenty of men around 50 who are categorically NOT looking for some supermodel. And you are not unattractive. |
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I have self confidence in myself but not my looks. Guys keep telling me I am not good looking enough so what's a gal to do? Such is life. Well not all guys insist on good looks. And what kind of guy would tell a woman they are "not good looking enough."??? What is he looking for, a trophy wife? Arm candy? Maybe you are choosing guys who think way too highly of themselves. LOL ...Or perhaps your own standards in the "good looks" department is too high and you are passing up great guys that don't measure up for you. Nope; my standards for guys weren't high. I barely got dates; so I was never picky about who asked me out. LOL The guys I dated were far from good looking but they still didn't think I was good enough for them and yes they told me they wanted a prettier girl. I am not making this up. It devastated me when I was younger and I guess I never recovered. My friends couldn't figure it out either. Oh well; no point in beating myself up over it. Anyways; it doesn't matter anymore at my age as its all water under the bridge. I am lucky to be able to dedicate my time to my community; especially now while our city is in crisis. Here's a little curious thing. And it's aimed right at Navygirl. I've read your posts, looked at your photos. What I see is a very pretty girl with a mind and an opinion. I'd go running after you in a New York minute. There are good guys, nice guys out there, that would try to win your heart. IF, you would just open the door. |
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Jman, I found GL Rider!
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Amem, now to what I've seen in this thread.
I've read the responses to this, and I see a fair amount of prejudice rearing its ugly head. In the three years I've been divorced, I've dated one woman, and that was 7 months ago. By some, I'm eather too shy, or my standards are too high, or I want to live alone, Or I'm not fit in some way, shape, or form, to attract women. What it really is- is that I'm trying to sort out now to go about dating in the present day. It's totally not like I remember, before I got married. When I got married to begin with, I thought, (foolishly) that I'd no longer need to keep up with the latest and greatest dating skills. That effort was changed into how to keep my then wife, and partner happy. Fat lotta good that did. I could sit here and shoot down people all day long for what they aren't. But I'm not going to. Once I know something about a particular person, then, I'll choose. It doesn't make any difference to me if she's never been married, or divorced 20 times. Or gone out yesterday with another guy, or her last date was 30 years ago. |
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oh sh-it....never once thought about that stigma....
k....still have time... wish me luck |
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I want guys in my age group which is in their 50s and as they are hitting their mid-life crisis; they want a younger woman as least that is how it is here. You have to remember I am in oiltown and these men with money want eye candy not some old woman in her 50s. Men get as crazy in their mid-life crisis as women do in their menopause. I have tried in my 20s, 30s, 40s, and even when I turned 50; but no luck. Its too late for me now at my age so I just need to live out my life the best way I can on my own. Hell; after seeing how the floods have affected our city; really being single is the least of my worries. Thanks for the kind words but bottom line men don't find me attractive. I have accepted this and I have moved on to things that really matter to me like helping out in my community. I seen those terrible floods on tv yesterday, I pray for all those who are suffering there.
Sometimes when we least except it, Love does come along. We don't have to look for it for Love to find Us. Imo Older men with Money can get a nice young woman. Many of the Older men settle for Old women when they have not means to attract a Young/Attractive woman. Some Older women, ask for very little material things.
thanks for your well wishes of our city. It is a tragedy but we are all pulling together to get through this. I don't believe in love anymore and its best left to the movies. To be honest; I don't have the time to put into a relationship anyways so its not big deal anymore. |
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Find guys who aren't ********, for one thing. Sounds like you've only ever dated the shallow kind. Trust me, there are plenty of men out there who aren't looking for a supermodel. I am sure that is true but I have never met them. You keep speaking in the past tense, and talking about guys you met in high school. Sister, high school was a long time ago for both of us, so maybe it's time to try again? Guys in your age group are going to be, what, fortyish? Trust me, they've matured, or at least most of them have. They're not going to be out for "a prettier girl" and in any case, you're not a girl anymore -- you're a WOMAN. That's what truly adult men want. I've seen your photos on here, and you're an attractive person. Neither you or I are ever going to be on the cover of Cosmo (and who'd really want to be on that shallow rag?) but BOTH of us are perfectly capable of attracting a guy's attention. And the really QUALITY men give bonus points for intellect and the ability to carry on an interesting conversation, something I know that you can do with ease. Don't look back; look forward. I want guys in my age group which is in their 50s and as they are hitting their mid-life crisis; they want a younger woman as least that is how it is here. You have to remember I am in oiltown and these men with money want eye candy not some old woman in her 50s. Men get as crazy in their mid-life crisis as women do in their menopause. I have tried in my 20s, 30s, 40s, and even when I turned 50; but no luck. Its too late for me now at my age so I just need to live out my life the best way I can on my own. Hell; after seeing how the floods have affected our city; really being single is the least of my worries. Thanks for the kind words but bottom line men don't find me attractive. I have accepted this and I have moved on to things that really matter to me like helping out in my community. Uh, I'm approaching menopause but I'd like to think I'm not crazy. LOL. And if the men where you live aren't worth your time, what about looking elsewhere? Trust me, I know plenty of men around 50 who are categorically NOT looking for some supermodel. And you are not unattractive. Ha Ha. I am in menopause myself and not crazy per say but some women really suffer from mood swings, hot flashes, and fatigue. I have been lucky and have had minor symptons but there are days; it does get to me. Thanks for saying I am not unattractive but it changes nothing. As for looking elsewhere; I really don't have the time to do that and I just feel I would be wasting my time. |
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I have self confidence in myself but not my looks. Guys keep telling me I am not good looking enough so what's a gal to do? Such is life. Well not all guys insist on good looks. And what kind of guy would tell a woman they are "not good looking enough."??? What is he looking for, a trophy wife? Arm candy? Maybe you are choosing guys who think way too highly of themselves. LOL ...Or perhaps your own standards in the "good looks" department is too high and you are passing up great guys that don't measure up for you. Nope; my standards for guys weren't high. I barely got dates; so I was never picky about who asked me out. LOL The guys I dated were far from good looking but they still didn't think I was good enough for them and yes they told me they wanted a prettier girl. I am not making this up. It devastated me when I was younger and I guess I never recovered. My friends couldn't figure it out either. Oh well; no point in beating myself up over it. Anyways; it doesn't matter anymore at my age as its all water under the bridge. I am lucky to be able to dedicate my time to my community; especially now while our city is in crisis. Here's a little curious thing. And it's aimed right at Navygirl. I've read your posts, looked at your photos. What I see is a very pretty girl with a mind and an opinion. I'd go running after you in a New York minute. There are good guys, nice guys out there, that would try to win your heart. IF, you would just open the door. You are very kind to an old gal like me. I have accepted that I won't ever meet anyone as the door has long closed. I look at it as new doors have opened for me to work with my community. Trust me its all good.
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