So what do you do when you know the relationship is going nowhere? After 3 years you are further away from being together then before it started. You love him but the lack of commitment and moving backwards has made you fall out of love with him. You want to meet someone new but are scared. Want to meet someone now is that cheating?

Yes it's cheating!

i know how u feel.....no one loves me or want my heart the one who said she loves me but she dont

I believe that no relationship is better than a bad one. which would explain why i am alone.

I understand exactly how you feel...but it would be better for the BOTH of you if the realationship ends now before anyone else meets anyone new...that way you wont feel guilty about it and can move on...good luck!!

if you are in a bad relationship get out of it before you try to start a new one

Tell him you need some space....that you need to take a break from him.

if you know it's not working and the chances of it staying together...end the relationship first before starting another.

heck, i cheat on my left hand every nite...

lmao bob

Where is your integrity and self respect?

When dating someone for three years, surely he deserves the right to know your feelings have changed, and that you don't wish to continue this relationship.

It appears that there is a desire for keeping a 'plan b option' around just in case...not good karma at all.

Finish what you started, and with a clear head, and clear heart, think about pursuing other relationships later...rather than sooner.

Doing anything with anyone you would not want your s/o to find out about is cheating.

Why put a question mark where God has put a period. If you know it's over, then stop torturing yourself.

Yes, its cheating. Its cheating yourself. How can you call that a relationship? It sounds like what you want is a relationship and really don't have one.

good answer babydoll

Mr. obvious remarks,

*wanting* to be with someone new is not cheating!
BEING with someone new is cheating!



1. break up
2. find someone new who is right for you
3. be happy

why? because life is to precious and too short.

(i'd say work on it - if it had ever been there,
but you say it never was much - and i believe you)

What you want and what you do are two different things. You start up with somone else b4 you quit with your BF, yeah, that's cheating. Sitting around thinking about how much you would rather hang onto something crappy, but are afraid to let it goe just cuz you don't want to be alone is crappy! It does no one any good. You sound like a little kid who gets off the swing and immeadiately wants it back just cuz some other little kid takes it when he's done. Grow up

Well when it comes to the point in time that your thoughts even wonder and you are thinking about what it would be like to be with another. Then do the honest thing give them the respect you would want them to give you and end the relationship. A relationship should not be there for your convenience it should be because you love the one your with. Either re-kindle the love that was once there or walk away. Don't go to the point of dragging them face first threw them mud. Let them keep there pride. No one gains anything when one starts to cheat on the other.

Thank you, Issue is taken care of. I had the talk. I was right he was pushing me away on purpose in hopes I would break up. He isnt going to move out of mommies house and be his own man. So now I just keep moving I guess.
Thank you.

Ginxedgato :

End the relationship first. If nothing's holding you there, get out and start over with someone else. Life's too short to be somewhere you don't want to be.

Good Luck gin...Now you know and you can move on!!!!!!!!