YourTango.com has published an article by relationship coach Teresa Atkin titled "6 Mistakes Women Make That Lead To Divorce"

Here are the six mistakes by women that Atkin mentions:

1. You talk to friends about the rotten thing you think your husband did to you.

2. You think that talking about these problems with your husband is the answer.

3. You believe that your happiness depends on your husband changing.

4. You live parallel lives.

5. You focus on what's wrong.

6. You utter these deadly words: "I deserve ... "

I realize that women may want to talk about mistakes that men make, but that topic belongs on a different thread. So, please limit your comments to the topic stated in this post's title.

You will have to read Atkin's article to know what she is talking about.

Here is an excerpt:



FWIW, I am not saying that I agree with Atkin. I am merely starting a discussion for the purpose of having a discussion.

Now, what say you about the topic?

They forgot women cheating.

That's a mistake the guy usually makes!

I think divorce is a two way street. That list just could have easily been written about men.

Oh? I have known married women who cheated on their husbands.

Please try to stay on topic, which is about mistakes that wives make.

4. You live parallel lives.

The above is the husbands fault because the woman works at being what the husband demands her to be and then her other life is what she wants to be.

The lesson here for husbands is... accept your wife for who she is and don't try to get her to live up to what you think her roll aught to be.

And for wives... be yourself from the beginning. If he marries you, and tries to change you ... don't let that happen.

If you do, you will have to lead "parallel lives."

Be yourself, be true, and accept each other for who you are.

Get to know each other.

5. You focus on what's wrong.

Really? The wives do that? Excuse me but I thought it was the husbands who did that.

Case in point: After I got my divorce I discovered that I was perfect. There was no husband around to remind me of all my "faults" and I soon realized I didn't have any faults.

1. You talk to friends about the rotten thing you think your husband did to you.


Did a man write this?

If I have a black eye because my husband slugged me, any conversation about it is not about something "I thought" he did to me. One does not imagine a black eye, even though I have seen men try to convince people otherwise.

Oh that's right, she ran into a door.

Its true. And its a nice discovery.

2. You think that talking about these problems with your husband is the answer.


Any woman who thinks that talking about these problems..(BTW what problems are you referring to?).. anyway, as I was saying...

any woman who thinks that talking to her husband will solve anything is not too bright.

"Wife Mistakes That Lead To Divorce"

Marrying him.

6. You utter these deadly words: "I deserve ... "


What is wrong with that?

I deserve respect. Deal with it.

I think who ever wrote it is stupid.

Yep

Have you indeed? It's all coming out now.

I realize you want to make this about women, but these are not mistakes that only women make. If they were mistakes that only women made, then maybe you could have separate topics, but really there is no need for separate topics. The same things would be repeated in both.

Oh boy!!!!!!!!

Yet another man bashing/woman bashing thread.

Yippee!

Now where did I put that corn popper?

Maybe the living seperate lives one but they do seem like the sorts of things that men complain that women do and women tend to complain that men do just the opposite and don't communicate, don't you think?