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you are right my dear some use this sit for money make
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...on the Internet. It's rare to even get to know someone at all. Those brave souls who actually date, may eventually find love. This medium is tricky, made worse by all the saps that prey on you, or me. Nobody wants that. I can write to 10 or 12 people and not hear back from anyone, or maybe 1 or 2. That's a lot of hesitation. That's a lot of pre-judgement. You don't have to date a person, just because you respond in an email...and dating doesn't secure your man or your woman for marriage or wild magical love. It does take some reaching out, some effort, and some dissappointment. It does take courage and letting go of your fears. You don't have to compromise on safety and be a victim, but you do have to take some baby steps forward. Seems there are those that dive in, and others that can't put a toe in the water. I think a lot of us would just like something more in-between, something that will lead to friendship, or even last, or could last, if we work on it. 
What say ye "wordsmiths" and "hopeless romantics"???? 
A great OP!...Because I am both a wordsmith and a hopeless romantic, I got hung up on the word rare  ...How well you get to know someone via internet communication depends on your primary reason for joining a "social networking" site and your willingness to communicate honestly...If you are here to find love, you must realize that every member is not here for that reason...People join for a myriad of reasons, finding love is just one of them...So when you send 10 or 12 emails and you get a 10% return on your investment your are actually garnering a good response...Also, of those not responding, all are not avoiding you because they are prejudging you or your motives...By not responding, they are responding "non" interest...If you stop and consider that for a moment you might conclude, as I did when I first joined, that no response is a pretty good way to receive a "no thanks"....You might consider it a blessing in disguise that has the potential to save you a lot of aggravation and wasted time....At the very least, consider it a perfect example of the type of person you are not looking for and move on...If you really want to find love and make friends, the internet is an excellent venue...Welcome to the fabulous Mingle forum community, the best place to begin your search!
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Edited by
LoneWolfToo
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Thu 05/23/13 02:31 PM
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ARE YOU LUMPIN?
It's so easy to put all men, or all women in the same box...and it does depend on your expereiences. I find the people I do meet in person find I'm acutally REAL, just like my profile...and that may be rare. If you want to find someone you'd really like, don't try to be someone you're not. We do have to remain OPTOMISTIC... Definitely. My point was not to discourage any of you, and I think most got it... The actual physical meeting of someone is our goal, and an online presence is really hard when trying to decide to meet or not. Emailing is one type of presence, phone calls are another, and meeting personally or in a group is the start of the real relationship. Most everyone one I've met in the past (3 years ago), were really not at all the same in person, and you have another decision to make. Were you intentionally deceived, or is it just an accidental thing? Were you pleasantly surprised, or a little bit duped?...and can you live with that, because MEN are all the same, or WOMEN are all the same. Please don't catagorize us. The "good ones" feel a bit insulted, the bad ones don't really care, and the ugly, well, they need love too. I was on a different Mingle for 3 years and found it a bit disconcerting to meet women who have made some horrendous mistakes (men too, but I only dated women, ha). I dated a woman who met Ted Bundy (the serial killer),nearly became a victim, and witnessed an abduction, another who got married to a man, only to find he had been in prison for murder (she thought he was in the Military), another that while visiting, saw the persons computer, and he was a serial liar, telling everyone he was madly in love and wanted to marry them, while being engaged to her. He assaulted a few and was under indictment when he committed suicide this year. I heard story after story of men taking advantage (in a really bad way), so I guess I understand people wanting to put all men in that BOX, but, I've met many good, stable men, that could not get the trust of women. And many men have been "taken" financially by women, trust me on this one. Trick me once, shame on you...Trick me twice, shame on me. It's not a rosey world of "nicey nice", all good. But, definitely be happy in who you are, where you are headed. Smile, and know that good things come slowly, softly, and certainly. Hold your heads high and be wise dating. My best to all of you. I see good in both men and women on here and that's encouraging. God Bless LW2 |
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I wish I didn't think that way either... I don't have a problem finding a date. I have a problem with finding the RIGHT one.. all my men seem be losers..broke, in debt, drinks too much... am I looking in the wrong places? That's why I came on here.. Maybe I will take a chance. :) Sorry dear, that's just most men in general, they all follow the prefab stereotype of drinking and watching sports, and a portion of the ones that don't are gay or too broke to drink, lol. I don't drink, but I'd be too broke to drink even if I did. Ok, then clearly you haven't met all men. I don't drink all that much, and why would I bother to sit and watch a bunch of dopes chase around a ball, and get mad about it, if they don't get their way? Or for that matter, watching two idiots try to beat each other's head in? |
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...on the Internet. It's rare to even get to know someone at all. Those brave souls who actually date, may eventually find love. This medium is tricky, made worse by all the saps that prey on you, or me. Nobody wants that. I can write to 10 or 12 people and not hear back from anyone, or maybe 1 or 2. That's a lot of hesitation. That's a lot of pre-judgement. You don't have to date a person, just because you respond in an email...and dating doesn't secure your man or your woman for marriage or wild magical love. It does take some reaching out, some effort, and some dissappointment. It does take courage and letting go of your fears. You don't have to compromise on safety and be a victim, but you do have to take some baby steps forward. Seems there are those that dive in, and others that can't put a toe in the water. I think a lot of us would just like something more in-between, something that will lead to friendship, or even last, or could last, if we work on it.
What say ye "wordsmiths" and "hopeless romantics"????
A great OP!...Because I am both a wordsmith and a hopeless romantic, I got hung up on the word rare ...How well you get to know someone via internet communication depends on your primary reason for joining a "social networking" site and your willingness to communicate honestly...If you are here to find love, you must realize that every member is not here for that reason...People join for a myriad of reasons, finding love is just one of them...So when you send 10 or 12 emails and you get a 10% return on your investment your are actually garnering a good response...Also, of those not responding, all are not avoiding you because they are prejudging you or your motives...By not responding, they are responding "non" interest...If you stop and consider that for a moment you might conclude, as I did when I first joined, that no response is a pretty good way to receive a "no thanks"....You might consider it a blessing in disguise that has the potential to save you a lot of aggravation and wasted time....At the very least, consider it a perfect example of the type of person you are not looking for and move on...If you really want to find love and make friends, the internet is an excellent venue...Welcome to the fabulous Mingle forum community, the best place to begin your search!
maybe he's telepathic or has a careless vocabulary
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