Lex will be back.....give him a couple weeks.......sometimes you just need to walk away from this site for a while.......

Mike...

How you doing hon?

haha wow man full of yourself much? look in the mirror

Devin scared him away

Lex will be back....he doesn't stray too far from here. Sometimes you just have to take a breather away from it for awhile and then come back to it.

(((((Lex))))))

Oh my I have been off here for a long time:( I missed him already but never knew him Lex???

Its sad when the thoughtful people go missing but it's true he may be back don't lose hope! Maybe he has found someone thats a nice thought.

(((((((((((BORED))))))))))))miss you sweetie, hope all is going well with you.

Hope all is well dear friend....
HB when you can!

So..... Who am i ? i'm not kool

hey snuggles hey ms teddy and riardo

didn't think lex would go off. but see sexy lady back, one balances the other or something like that. (*_*)

Bored -- I've been getting some e-mails and IMs about why I left. I've never been one of those people who posts the "I'm leaving, please give me lots of attention and try to talk me out of it!" messages -- I've always made fun of those people. I've always said that the best thing to do, if you're going to leave, is leave. Don't turn it into a big production.

Having said that, I think there has been enough speculation and conjecture, so here's the deal:

In my opinion, this is a great site. There are more good people here than on all the other dating sites I've been on, put together. I like the layout, I like Mike and VC, I like the forum concept....

But....as Mike mentioned awhile back, the nominal function of JSH is to be a dating site -- and it just doesn't work for me.

I want to emphasize that I do not feel this is JSH's fault in any way. The problem, as I see it, is simply one of demographics. The kind of person I'm looking for is essentially underrepresented (or perhaps NOT represented at all, it's difficult to tell) on this site.

Add that to the fact that the local girls are totally unresponsive, and we've got ourselves a new Buddhist koan:

"What is less practical than a dating site where it is impossible to get a date?"

I've always been one who believes it's important to know -- and admit -- when something doesn't work. And I've been here 8 months now, without the slightest shred of a possibility of meeting someone. Every other site I've ever been on, people are trying to get me to meet them within a couple weeks. Granted, those people always turn out to be dishonest and/or totally unsuitable, but at least they're trying.

Here -- nothing.

I stuck around to see what would happen with the Mutual Match. Again, I think it's a good idea, but it has the one (omnipresent) drawback, i.e., that it requires participation by the members in order to work.

I expanded my Search parameters when Mike announced he had added new distances. Still nothing.

OK, so I don't need another dozen pianos to fall on my head to see the writing on the wall here.

Not every site is going to work for every person. That's just a basic fact. JSH does work, has worked, for other people. But again, I go back to the demographics. The people who find someone here are not looking for what I'm looking for, and I think that makes a tremendous difference when you get down to individual cases.

I have tried to provide my friends here with ways to reach me off-site, and many of them have done so -- and anyone else who wants to, can certainly do so easily enough. If you have Yahoo IM, for example, you can figure out the rest.

But I'm at the point where I think it would be in my best interests to move on, and try to find another way to meet people. I'm not bad-mouthing the site, I think Mike and VC have done an excellent job here (and, for the record, I have never had any problems with e-mail on JSH), but the person I want to meet is either not here or has no interest in meeting me. And that works out to be a waste of time either way.

Mike has talked about the need to increase membership, and I do agree that this is the best solution for the people who have no one, or very few people, in their areas here. However, there are hundreds, maybe thousands, of local girls showing up within my search parameters; so, for me, it isn't an issue of how many are out there, it's an issue of the fact that the ones out there don't participate on the site -- they don't post, they don't answer e-mails, etc. Sure, I could stick around in the hopes that some new local person will EVENTUALLY show up and actually want to talk. But it hasn't happened in 8 months, there's no particular reason I can see that makes me believe it will happen tomorrow, or next month, or next year.

OK? So, just so we have this straight, I'm not holding any grudges here. There are a lot of great people on this site, and I hope that you all find what you're looking for. To my friends -- you know who you are -- I love you guys and I hope we can continue to keep in touch. I am not that hard to find, like I said earlier!

I just need to look elsewhere, that's all. She's not here, I'm convinced of that. So I have to look in some other places....

It's all good man. I understand where your coming from. Dating sites aren't perfect. They are all built with good intentions but not all can fulfill the wants of the user. But we are glad to hear from you. You are a good person. I hope someone is out there for you and you never know you might meet them because destiny has its weird twists and turns. Destiny is always playing tricks on me but hey, life is awsome. Have fun.

Whewwwwwwwwww and I thought some russian scammer had abducted
you...
Good Luck Lex, please pop in once and awhile K...
Teddy

(((((((((((Lex))))))))))))))) Love you baby.

My wish for you, my friend, is that her name is Dagny and that she goes by train, plane, and automobile on her way to you.

Good luck Lex!

Sug....

Warmest wishes being sent to you...(no, it's not llama spit),

know that I will always have your back...(keeping giant paramecium at bay),

remember to have fun....(frisbee playing deer always want new friends).

But most of all....IM me when you get that webcam working!!! .....or any time you want to chat!!

All the best, my friend

<--------- GEOGRAPHICALLY UNDESIREABLE!!

((((((((((((LEX))))))))))))

<------------Geographically Impossible...

(Does that make me the eternal optimist?)