ok Im going to shorten this a lil. I was seeing this guy now for about 1 year. we broke up each getting are own places. We were still seeing each other an no one else. He cared more about working an playing race car missed my daughters birthday party cause he didnt want to drive home an back to the car which is only 45 min drive. I have found out he started seeing another girl so i completely broke things off. (he did sleep with her)now that didnt work out an he is wanting us to see each other again but not tell anyone an see were things go but will not put family first which is a biggy to me call me weird but it is. what should I do?

forget about him. guy sounds like a loser.

you should date me its the only solution.

******My opinion.......concentrate on you child, do not allow him to bring that type of BS in your life....and let him know that it is BS. By putting up with him, you are missing out on what GOD really has in store for you.

sp--your child

I agree, some men get it in their heads that we are easily played, docile, and will take any attention they give us. Put your foot down and tell him different. Own yourself and enlighten him.

are you kidding??? you have to ask?

lets see you each got your own place you were living together then you guys moved apart? progress? thats backwards your not one of those girls who has a problem with dating the same type of guy expecting different results are you? if your not then write me and say hello. if you are then you might as well date the guy your talking to. maybe you can change him. thats a joke people dont change very rearely they do.

I want the **** off the internet am sournded by losers. smoke breack see-ya

you're right mckeachie, habits die hard...and if you're not happy with that person and feel the need to change them...then why are you with them in the first place?

now, i'm not saying this girl wants to change her guy...i was just stating a question that roams in my mind everytime the issue is brought up.

thank you everyone. This has been hard for me there is a lot more to the story. We have been through alot i was finaly moving on starting to date an he pulled this crap on me. We lost two babies one just a couple weeks ago. when i broke it off i was pregnant an didnt know it. He had told me prove it was his then good luck finding him. He then said he was sorry he was being a jerk but not until after i lost it.

read your first post here

answers yourself very well


if what is important to you

is not to him then it is doomed

and why does it need to be a secret

see where it goes -- where has it been

run forest run ----in best jenny voice

hmmmm...sounds like he's trying to play. if i was you, i'd cut off all ties and quick for sanity's sake

no i dont think u can change someone nor should u get with someone to change them. He changed after we were together. I told him last night i was done because i wont differant things than he does an i wont settle for less.

Heather ,

My advice:

run long.....
run fast.....
run far......

As far away from this creep as possible. You are a very beautiful young lady. You can do worlds better than this @$$.

here, here

I just got confused because my mom told me everyone deserves a second chance. I dont think that not when they do **** like this.

Sorrie to hear about the lost of a child... I have heard that line before but weve been threw a lot and I believe it get back together you can go threw a lot more unfortuntly some of it will be the things that you dont want.. my smoke was good

Any man that's going to put you through crap like that doesn't deserve a 2nd chance. Diss your daughter, then cheat on you...THEN, to top it off, you tell him you're pregnant with HIS child and he says "prove it"...sounds to me like 3 strikes, He's OUT !

~*IndyB*~

Let's see, he wants to try it again but you can't tell anyone about it....sounds like he wants to use you for a piece of a** until something better comes along. Dump his sorry butt-