hi i really need some advice
5months ago i met a man online. we are dating exclusively, getting on very well and see a lot of each other.
however i asked him if he wanted to be serious and he has said not yet. I was seeing someone else when we first met he sees this as an issue.
also he has a health condition which may mean he can't have kids. i really want kids so i want to know if he can/will.
what should i do?

Get him pregnant...problem solved.

Throw him in the dungeon ...now....go bag the next one.

And to think i thought this was how to get committed. I've got experience there.

if you care enough about him to want a commitment you need to drop anyone else you've been seeing and be willing to accept him. just him. period. kids or no kids. that cannot be an issue

this is what he might be waiting for. to see if u have the maturity to go there

You need to talk seriously with this man, if you want children and he can not have any, just tell him the "relationship" wont work for you. People should be upfront if they are looking for a serious relationship ask questions then if things are not right for You, move on.

What exactly do you mean by "serious?" What is the next step you're insisting the two of you take? Going steady? Moving in together? Having a child (after only a few months)? Getting married?

If what you have now is going so well, why do you want to take a chance on ruining it by making some drastic change the relationship dynamic?

My advice to you (assuming you want to keep him around) is to stop nagging him about making a commitment. You said you're not seeing anyone else and I assume that's true for him too. If you start rocking the boat, he'll drop you like a bad habit. At least that's what I'd do.

Pressuring men about formalizing their commitment to you is like pressuring a woman for sex. We start getting the idea all you want is access to our bank account.

For God's sake, don't try to trap him by getting pregnant. That's a 100% sure way to lose him. I'm sure he'll do whatever the law demands as far as child support goes, but he'll also want a DNA test first. But, expecting him to be a part of the life of a child he didn't want and told you he wasn't ready to have, forget about it. So, unless you feel pretty good about bringing up a child completely on your own, DO NOT GET PREGNANT!