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Sorry for having to bring up bipolar disorder again, just that there is a genetic thing with bipolars that can make them want to cheat. I know this from going through research with an ex. This was before we knew he had it. Not even him himself knew. I would be sat in the dr's room, with him, and his dr would always ask me how it made me feel. I just shrugged and didn't know what to say. I'm not defending cheaters. Sometimes there are other explanations though, rather than just the old "I think I'll just cheat anyway because I can" mentality. However, I still warned him that it did hurt my feelings all the same. I felt comfortable telling him this upfront because he was so easy to talk to. He would listen to any problem I had. He was quite mature. Maybe me and him mingled quite well down to instinctively always being able to predict each others reactions and behaviour. I had to take a long break. I understand bipolar, I have a distant family member diagnosed, who takes psyche meds to keep their impulses under control... and yes, even though this erratic behavior can be very disturbing... the person affected is such a loving soul that it's difficult to stay upset with them when they do cross over... so long as they always remember to come back... Right on:). 
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If I am involved with someone who cheated. Id allow him to continue seeing other women.
He just couldn't have me anymore. Simple. 
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If I am involved with someone who cheated. Id allow him to continue seeing other women. He just couldn't have me anymore. Simple.
curious... would you still cohabitate with him? |
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I like things simple, uncomplicated and therefore I always try to break things down to a singularity.
You are in a relationship therefore you are in love otherwise it is a partnership on whatever level. You are in love and because of this devoted to them. You are devoted to them and henceforth you wish happiness and only happiness upon them through your actions. You bring happiness into their life by learning of them through communication and by paying attention to what they cannot say. Love to me is a gift that is given without reciprocation for it is mine and mine alone to give. If it is unwanted then it is mine to hold within. If it is returned then it is something to be cultivated by each person. Love is also a gift that I give to myself and since it is my gift then it is I who chooses whether or not to betray this gift by forgiving or not forgiving an unfaithful partner. The possible situations and outcomes here are infinite and so are the responses. In short my response is that I shall take each situation as it comes and be true to myself before all others regardless of the outcome. I will not live in a prison be it financial, emotional or otherwise. I am a free being thanks to the sacrifices of so many and in being so I shall honour this gift so they may know their efforts were not in vain. We are all created equal and in being so must be treated equal as well. The world is indeed what we make and so are our relationships whether one strays and one is faithful it is still what we made it. The rest is chalked up as education. |
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I like things simple, uncomplicated and therefore I always try to break things down to a singularity. You are in a relationship therefore you are in love otherwise it is a partnership on whatever level. You are in love and because of this devoted to them. You are devoted to them and henceforth you wish happiness and only happiness upon them through your actions. You bring happiness into their life by learning of them through communication and by paying attention to what they cannot say. Love to me is a gift that is given without reciprocation for it is mine and mine alone to give. If it is unwanted then it is mine to hold within. If it is returned then it is something to be cultivated by each person. Love is also a gift that I give to myself and since it is my gift then it is I who chooses whether or not to betray this gift by forgiving or not forgiving an unfaithful partner. The possible situations and outcomes here are infinite and so are the responses. In short my response is that I shall take each situation as it comes and be true to myself before all others regardless of the outcome. I will not live in a prison be it financial, emotional or otherwise. I am a free being thanks to the sacrifices of so many and in being so I shall honour this gift so they may know their efforts were not in vain. We are all created equal and in being so must be treated equal as well. The world is indeed what we make and so are our relationships whether one strays and one is faithful it is still what we made it. The rest is chalked up as education. 
 
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If I am involved with someone who cheated. Id allow him to continue seeing other women. He just couldn't have me anymore. Simple.
curious... would you still cohabitate with him? I am able to continue treating someone like a adult. I just don't have to love them that way anymore. Everyone is different, and for some reason.....some men or women cheat. I can not change it however, I do have a choice if I want to deal with it. |
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If I am involved with someone who cheated. Id allow him to continue seeing other women. He just couldn't have me anymore. Simple.
curious... would you still cohabitate with him? I am able to continue treating someone like a adult. I just don't have to love them that way anymore. Everyone is different, and for some reason.....some men or women cheat. I can not change it however, I do have a choice if I want to deal with it. thank you for your honest reply pyxxie, I can relate to your open mind...
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