Oh don't do that, it's just starting to get good.

Just like a woman...it gets interesting, and she leaves.

okay, but I'm warning ya, you should never dare a devil... so here goes... you said in your "conversation" post that you don't have many men friends, so I assume you have plenty of women friends in their stead, and yeah, I read that post too and prepped a really long message earlier in the day, then got side tracked, and what I wrote seemed to be really out of context with what everybody else was saying, and I didn't want to stand out while also coming up from behind, so I never posted it... hey.. am I blathering yet… I am… good… well, your the one who loves conversations, and I love to hear myself talk... so I should at least be able to keep you temporarily entertained... even if I jump around the subject 1/2 a dozen times before regaining composure ... lol... now where was I? Oh yeah... you're good at reading women, and that might be why you're still alone... well, I noticed you are kinda down on us poor females.. seems like the bitter taste we've left in your mouth fuels your creative spirit, which is great in my book, because I can get a pretty good energy boost from the crazy stuff you guys pull too, and my pen works faster than my good sense more oft than not… yikes, am I still meandering… seems so… but any hooo… back to topic… you said in your “conversation” post >>> “I have a lot of talents, but ESP isn't one of them.” I don’t know, you seem to read me pretty well and quickly too. And, “women wonder why some men are they way they are”… okay.. I have to admit this final deduction of your overall statement makes it sound like we women are so difficult to get along with that men’s reactions to us is what makes them just as dysfunctional as we are. Okay, this is a rational hypothesis, but then I fall back on my feminine sensibilities and ask why you as the alpha man don’t lead the conversation you want to have with women? After all, you said that in your last few relationships there was zero communication unless you both were arguing… Well, zero means that you weren’t talking either… so who really contributed to the break down in communication? Or was it just a mutually, though silently agreed upon affect of the type of connection you had? And, are you alone now because you know us so well, or you know that type so well, that you don’t want to settle for a relationship like that again, and you can easily pick the type out in a crowd, so you can run the other way…

Don't say I didn't warn you.. and I had unexpected company I had to attend too... thank you very much...

Ahem, well.....there's not a whole lot even an Alpha Male can do when the communication breaks down. You go into a relationship expecting there to be rough times, but you also anticipate love as the binding glue that gets you both through it. This kind of love requires a certain character made up of compassion, understanding and commitment. When that character isn't there and you don't have the love to depend on during the rough times, then all the communication in the world isn't going to help you.

I've went through my life looking for this type of commitment from the women I've been with and it has never really been there. So after a while you start to suspect that...a) something is wrong with the women or b) something is wrong with you. In my experience no relationship ever fails because of one-sided reasons. There's always a close 50-50 split of issues. The quandary comes when one person refuses (or simply doesn't want to) discuss those issues.

Again, the break down of communication, which you can't do anything about if the other person isn't willing to work through it with you. I can only make assessments based on the women I have known in my life and since every one of them have left (and never bothered to stay and try to make a go of it), it is hard for me to form a positive outlook in that regard.

I actually seem to gravitate toward women who are cold and distant. I've even done this online with the dating sites. Perhaps this is a subconscious thing. I don't know. But I have developed this somewhat dark sense of humor about the whole thing, which isn't bad if you were to be speaking to me in person, but it doesn't always go over so well in text-only situations.

Anyone awake

I understand your position, dm, I guess because I’m a talker and can’t stand silence in my relationship, having just come out of an 18 yr marriage in which “he” wasn’t a talker, and his favorite line was, “I don’t want to hear it,” that I side on the line that it’s not just women that cause the lack of communication problem. To have one’s voice stifled is death to the soul, and I won’t get into another relationship in which my man doesn’t appreciate digging around in my head, just as I will enjoy basking in his brain too… Now onto what you expect going into a relationship… I guess I’m a hopeless romantic, besides lacking the nervous system for drama of any kind, but I have never gone into a relationship expecting anything but our best efforts to make our commitment work… and it bothers me to read that the women you were with also lacked the basic ingredients, compassion, understanding and commitment, to make a connection last… Jeezz, it seems that both genders see the same inadequacies in the other, so how truly upsetting is this that as a planet, we don’t have the basic components to even keep friendships together for long, let alone long term serious commitments… based on this premise, then yes, I understand why it’s hard for you, or I, to have a positive outlook on the opposite sex in this regard… however, I still refuse to give up hope that my perfect fit is out here somewhere, and if I keep talking long enough he’ll finally hear my voice and introduce himself to me… of course in my particular situation he may find that he gets more than he bargains for, but, better too much than too little, right. lol… as for you gravitating toward cold and distant women, yikes… maybe you can try going the opposite way next time, and try to add a little light to the dark side of your humor… you never know what a little honey might attract… just a suggestion...

I am now... hello, pinklady, welcome to Mingle...

People watching has always fascinated me, I find the opinions and thoughts on the forums rather interesting and I can read them whenever I find the time. Where else can you find people from around the world gathered together to express their views on life subjects from the safety of their environment any time of day or season.

exactly...

Many men and women are attracted to the wrong partners and this is one major reason "relationships" do not last. You have to have all things that are Important to You, in common, for a lasting long term relationship to work. Dating is not a relationship.Imo

I've found this to be true, toody... and I'm really learning a whole new way to get to know men thru online dating. Getting to talk to them for a while and really getting to know more about each other before we become intimate saves us from making the mistake of becoming too involved with the wrong one. Since I've been posting on the forums, asking everybody their opinions about this and that, I've come to realize that no matter what advice I hear, even if it sounds perfect for me and the situation I'm in, I always rely on my own instincts, and what is right or wrong for me personally. There is one draw back to online "dating" though, to me, I get to know the person really well via lots of communication, and can become extremely close to them this way, more so than I would face to face, because in person we wouldn't communicate as closely and as often as we do online, so when the friendship doesn't work out, it hurts more and it's harder to put it behind me... maybe it's because we still see them everyday on the boards too... but another thing I'm learning about the online break up phase is that it does start easing more rapidly once we see the other person moving on... or we move on ourselves...

I am here because of some great friends I made and because I can't find anything good on TV.

I hear you Betty... me neither...