Absolutely. If your spouse has become promiscuous it's time to end it and move on. But, after you've both invested a number of years in a deep, loving relationship, I think it's a bad idea to throw the whole thing out the window for a single indiscretion.

My parents told me that when I get married, never stop dating my wife. My dad still takes my mom out to eat and do things. It seem that when people get married they tend to get relaxed. After all, not too many men want their wives to walk around in a moo moo all day with bed hair. We want her to dress up nicely. Same with women don’t want their man to sit all day in a tee drinking beer, but take her out and treat her nice.

As my mema use to say, it takes two to tango. That is true in how well the relationship work. It takes two to make it better or worst. That’s why after a brake up I try to look back at not what my ex-GF did wrong but see if there was something I did and try to improve that area. It is easy to get mad for my ex-GF cheating and leading me on and say it all her fault but if I was not fulfilling my role, then I gave her the reason to seek another.

With the exception of a few people, most cheat because they are not receiving the attention they desire from their current partner. Now if a guy cheats on you cause you want to wait to have sex, then he is an idiot. However, if you been in a relationship for a while and he want to cuddle, maybe sex, and do stuff with you and you are ether working or too tired from work and want to sleep, he will start searching for another to meet his needs. Does not make it right that he does, but it happens. The same thing if a guy spends all day at work and comes home and goes to be not giving any attention to his wife. She too will start looking.

Guess the reason I am into second chances cause I know I am not perfect and make mistakes. I rather address the reason for the mistake and see if I can correct it. It is not about changing who I am but improving myself. Granted even with some of my ex-GF I do love, forgive and willing to give them a second chance, they will have to earn my trust back.

Ii maybe that I have too big of a heart.

I too am fallible.. no one is perfect.. my motto has always been "3 strikes and yer out".. and I've "turned the other cheek" often enough to know it properly gets slapped too.. and usually harder! I'm not one that believes in disposable relationships either.. I'm in for the long haul.. but even after being cheated on and giving 2nd chances.. it typically ended with more deceit and cheating.. so I prefer just to walk away because I know I deserve better.. and some people simply refuse to accept responsibility for their actions OR change..

once I had a friend I'd know for 45 years.. THOUGHT she was my best friend only to find out it was all based on a lie.. but the last 5 years apparently.. I had proved I was worthy?? I'm sorry but.. some things are just UNforgivable..

happily it hasn't jaded me to the possibilities of finding a great guy to spend the rest of my life with.. there's still MUCH to do and see out there and I'd really rather have someone to share it all with.. but that's just the romantic in me

depends on the situation.

I can forgive but I don't forget easy. That doesn't mean remembering makes me throw it back in their face or hold a grudge. It's just something to learn from

It always depend on the person or situation.. usually if someone hurts me i always give 2nd chance but my expectations are not as high as at first..

I believe in second chances but sometimes its kinder and a lot more healthier not to give them

I have never had a wife


and YES to 2nd chances....life is too short to be a stingymeister

yes, if i feel the person is true to their word. but, second and third chances, SSDD, not a chance.
and i don't think i'm being stingymeister, lol.

But never when they promise to do one thing... and never intend to follow through.

Cheap talk reveals a darker soul.

totally agree ^^. exactly what i was speaking of on their second and third chances, a person learns what burns
eventually. dark soul indeed.

not at all - something like second chances or additional "chances" is also going to be affected by the individual circumstances of the situation at hand - for me anyway

I might give my son infinite chances to shoot 60% from the line

but only 1 second chance to tell the truth about his homework (before being sent to the famous time out chair )

just as kinda an example

awww sweetest, kids don't count!!

I would have love to get the time out chair. I could day dream and not be interrupted. Sadly I did the rain dance around mom alot.

Second chances doesn't mean you trust the person but you give them a shot to redeem themselves.

Social vampires either...

well my oldest son had a permanent butt print in the time out chair (much to his younger brother's delight)....lol) but he's turned out to be a wonderful young man.....so I guess the 2nd chances didn't hurt

with a boyfriend - I think it's a case by case. Ima little less apt to gp past the 2nd chance stage these days, admittedly

right on! Everybody loves that chance to get it right "this time"

cruel and inhuman punishment to deny redemption, I agree!

( My sons could see the TV from the time out chair so I doubt it was overly harsh...lol)

That post on this thread reminded me of the tv series Being Human

I do suspect their are a few duchess out there that don't deserve a second chance but for most people are not bad, just make dumb mistakes.

All my mom had to do was to threaten me with a pop on the rear to straighten me up. That was the only thing that would work on me.

coke, pepsi, or Mtn Dew?

If u don't gv a chance after 20years u ill regret lying in a hospital bed