I feel horrible about being chunky, I've never went over a size 5 pants in years. When i hit 39 it just seemed that all those goodies came back to get me! I use to be able to eat what ever i wanted and as much as i wanted and never gain a pound. My kids say i look cute, but i want my tiny size 5's back!could some body near exercise with me?
Or what should i do?

look hun your pretty no matted what in life.....a guy should love u for wo u are and for your heart and no matted what in life

dont get upset about size and workout but dont hurt yourself and get a workout and maybe diet buddy but dont over due it you could hurt yourself worse and get sick but i workout and urn everyday i am short and tiny and it took me a while to get like that if you have questions just write me in my mail
~Betsy

sexercise works the best

what is in ur heart is what matters

Sexactly Scotty. And sexiting

why does everyone think a little extra weight is so bad? I think a woman should be soft and curvy, not a stick figure. don't stress over a couple pounds, enjoy life

i wouldnt complain about your size i would love to weigh that.
i used to weigh 135lb after i had my daughter and then when i had my son i gained the weight
and when i had my surgry 2yrs ago i lost alot of weight as where i was down to 149 and i was happy with that and then i gained 40 some odd poinds which i know i need to loose

I so totally understand! This happened to me around age 39-40, as well. It's like your body just starts to betray you. Horrible. I was a size 5 for all of my teen years, went up to a 7 until I was 32, when I dropped back down to a 5, and kept it off until 39. I crept up slowly, and now, on good days, I can squeeze into a size 8, but it's mostly a 10, and I'm conscious of it ALL THE TIME. I blame the media for much of this; it's just in our face all the time. I really don't think this would be much of an issue to me if I weren't bombarded every day or hour with the "skinny craze" crossing the globe.

This is absolutely the single most disappointment in my life, as it keeps me from meeting new people because I do not feel as attractive any more, which was NEVER the case; I was always pleased with how I looked. The photos on my profile are two-three years old, except the one of me standing up, which was taken Christmas 2006.

Of course now that I'm older, it's so much harder to take the weight off, plus I have a very sedentary job, and, to just add insult to injury, my physician just confirmed a few months ago that I'm going through early menopause, which of course was just joyous news. I have hot flashes, I'm bloated, the works. And I'm only 43!! It's nice to be free of my period, but my God, this is almost worse! (Sure never thought I'd say something like that!)

I am also feeling particularly sensitive about this right now, because a man in my office (thought to be a friend) told me the other day that if I "would just lose 30 pounds," I'd have men knocking at my door, be a "knockout," etc. Some friend.

I felt like someone had shot me. I was shocked, humiliated, extremely hurt, and I cried when I got off work. I'll probably remember that statement for the rest of my life, but I'm going to try to use it as incentive to lose this weight, though I'm unsure how to go about it because I've never had to diet in my entire life.


I'm now looking forward to being 50! So far, the 40s have really been tough!

girlwoman
your 43 and going through early mentapause
i went through that like 6-7yrs ago and im 43 now
as for the hot and cold flashes i always had those so it was normal for me. before i went through th change i was have my monthies for 23days streght and i was miserable where i didnt want to get up and go to work i was so drained. and when i finally went to see my gyn he put me on provera to regulate my monthies which it work for awhile and then the pills didnt work after that.. so im happy not having to worry about my monthies anymore

my god girlwoman, you are so incredibly beautiful, how can you critisize yourself for anything!!!

I dont really dig girls that look like skin and bones. It kinda creeps me out. Its like holding a skeleton close to you. What is so good about a skeleton.

and the fact that you love Scotland!!!!!!how are you single????

Everyone else has basically said the right things.. eat right find a buddy, do whats good for yourself, and don't forget that most fad diets don't work (thats why they're fads)!

I'm pretty much in the same boat, but I like it. It sets me apart from all these skinnyminny Plano girls.
:) Hope everything works out well for you!

You are going in the right direction, Getserious. An exercise friend makes it more fun, plus you have some one to give you a push when you need it. As far as dieting goes, just eat healthy.
Most people's metabolism slows down as they get older, excercise will help build muscle, tone, and burn more calories.
Good luck!!

And always remember you don't have to be a skinny person to be beautiful!!

don't put yourself down, most people both men and women will as they age either gain or lose weight. of course it is more common for them to gain, if the weight gain you are talking about is not morbidly obese, then relax. if however you want to take the excess off, be careful don't over do the exercise or the diet.

I love that term "a little chunky"

that term is just a little too loose for my liking...

...any where from 15 to 35 ponds.."A little chunky...

A word of very serious advice, which has been mentioned, but do not starve or go on one of those fad diets! I literally don't remember a time in my life when I wasn't on a diet and the only time I was ever skinny, I literally starved myself. Oh, it works, but the damage you do to your body is beyond belief and the weight will come back, plus! I'm still trying to repair my metabolism and it's been many, many years.

One thing to try is to cut your calories slightly (maybe 100 or 200 a day) and exercise more. But, exercise isn't just "working out" at a gym or running or aerobics in front of the tv. Find something you love, dancing in your living room naked, white water rafting, rock climbing, whatever and do that. Weight training is good as well, especially in the menopause years and after, it helps prevent osteoporosis.

Its not about what we weigh its about how you feel..
Find a good doc. Have them check your thyroid.. its not uncommon after 40 for it to become sluggish.. tell them you want the test that breaks the numbers down..

o.k. here is a topic that I have some experience with. I just recently lost 50 pounds, now I have about 30 more to go, but I kind of took a break over the summer, have been having too much fun, so I decided to maintain and see how I do.
Weight watchers is the best way to do it, you have support, its easy and you decide what to eat. I am going to stay curvy I decided I like the way I am and the way I feel, I just want 30 more off to finish up the project.
Feell good about yourself, you will look 10 pounds lighter when you stand up tall and have confidence.