After joining dating sites a few months ago thinking I would be able to find Mr. Right… yeah… stop laughing…
I was as green as they come, still am about some things… but hey… how are we supposed to be able to meet
people or trust them if they are hiding behind profiles that aren’t real? How do we determine the genuine people
who are sincere about their intentions, from the players who are just trying to get game?

There was this one guy who had five different profiles posted with the same picture so you couldn’t mistake his face,
but on every profile he had a different name and personal data… And even when I caught him at it he still didn’t think
there was anything wrong with what he was doing.

So, again… how do we really know who’s who?

Know them for what they represent. You discovered a 5-headed hydra.

Damned if that aint the million dollar question !
i gave up on dating after being burned a few times myself
But i think time is one of the things unfortunately for those who want a quick relationship
You do get to know a lot about someone given time and communication
Web Cams are a good way to at least see the person and hear their voice
But still no guarantee that they actually ARE who they portray themselves to be
Phone communication ?
....That's all i got right now ?
Good question !



KiK

And then move on quickly and never look back... to know a lie is to live a lie...

That's where I find myself too KiK, it's impossible to really get to know someone online... cuz like you said, we can even be deceived via every avenue. What's sad about it too is that on some of these sites we have to pay for their services just to be scammed, if we're not careful... BTW, I love your old skool thread and hang out there A LOT...

Thank you Ms Athena !
I'm really glad that there is a nice place to share music links
And i credit the Artists who continue to ALLOW YouTube and the "tubers" To share these awesome videos !
You are a good lady friend and i appreciate you much !


KiK

You start off with the assumption that their profile and anything they say to you in email might not be strictly true. You tell them that you don't really know them and you don't really know what it is that they want from you but you came on here to meet somebody and you are interested in getting to know them. If you do start dating their lies start to unravel fairly quickly. At this point you have to decide if the person they really are is somebody that you want to keep seeing. Of course, by then you may well have developed feelings for them and don't want to just finish it, no matter how many alarm bells are going off.

You go on dating sites that have forums and observe how they interact over time...it's hard to maintain a front, or so it would seem to me.

Which do you choose?

Wow, it looks like I'm reading my previous conversations with these guys, because this is how it's been with most of them... not the dating and having feelings for part... which reminds me... that's going to be my next query... thanks for the advice, TawtStrat...

thanks, hippie... that's what I ended up doing... and I've seen a few fellas I'd like to know better, as friends, but don't have the courage to let them know, fearing I will chase them off... oh well.. a girl can dream...

WoW, now this is cool... I guess being a Dem I'd choose blue... lol... naturally...

i think EVERYONE HAS SEEN THEIR SHARE OF FAKE PROFILES,I HATE ONLINE DATING,I THINK IT MAKES THE LONELY FEEL EVEN LONLIER.I THINK ID RATHER GO TO CHURCH...

hi clanmacloud... nice to meet you... I think you're right about the lonely feeling even more lonely after experiencing all the games on dating sites that finally make us realize that even though we have access to lots more people, it doesn't mean we'll find the right one we're looking for here either... but, I still wish you luck in your search, maybe you will get luckier than me... with this being your first post you're just a newbie starting out, so you never know what your future holds... or, with your hating dating sites already maybe this isn't your first rodeo, just your first post as clanmacloud...

They don't always have more than one picture in their profiles,believe me....

They don't always have more than one picture in their profiles,believe me....

The realer profile might be what they post on the site.

From what I see on here, most are content to man/woman bash, or feed their own negativity. Don't misunderstand...I, indeed, have plenty of faults, more than I care to admit to, BUT I sure as hell am not going to bring it into a public forum to be debated, or ripped to shreds by those who have nothing better to do.
If one wants to take the time to get to know me, all they need do is email. If things go well, then great! If not...come see, come sigh.

Not everyone has a fake profile. But you sure have to sift through alot of b.s. to sometimes find the real ones. Best way is to interact with people in the forums and see how they are. but always remember that their are people out their who are very good at manipulating people. people who are hiding who they really are. If they seem to good to be true . . they probably are. . dont give off right information unless your comfortable with the person. Use your best judgment and although you might not find the one . . you will find some awesome friends. :)