I am in a happy realtionship with a man From another county, he is due to return on June 2013n back home. Which means im not going to see him again. We love each other of that im sure we met here on mingle. But now i need advice i know that when he leaves he wont come back due to his costomes and familly. He will break my heart for sure but my question is Stay with him untill he leaves and fall even more in love or Leave him not and try to get over him. I need advice some one please help!!!!
Pearl0909

Bummer, really you are the only one who can make the choice.
Just consider the options,
Is there anyway that you can visit him, or would you consider moving eventually.
Is he talking about you moving or has he stated that it is just until he leaves.
Either way it is going to hurt, either way it wont be easy.
Good luck

You haven't said how long that been w/him n I would stay just in-case he might fall more in love w/you n maybe he might want to marry you.

sadly there is no RIGHT response..

you may not think this helpful.. but I believe YOU are the ONLY one that can discover the answer that's right for you.. you're asking the right questions.. but I suggest searching inward, for the best course of action..
best of luck!

Since you are so inlove; You need to talk to this guy and ask him what you are asking perfect strangers on here. Then you will know how he feels about how you feel.

Customs and family be dammed. If I'm truly in love with someone I ain't leaving. Cut your ties now, and get it over with.

thank you all for your opinions in this matter the porblem is he is from afghanistan and i am from the mexico yet i live in the USA.He is muslim we have been together for over 7 months never had a fight or anytype of disagrement he is the perfect men he makes me feel loved and beautiful and hes awsome in everyway possible the kind of men i havent found in the Usa or mexico. I am trying to create space between us i try to go out with my friends again and speak to other boys but its hard to be away from him i feel like im sufficating when im away from him, maybe im the one that is loving too much because if he really did he would have to decide he would find a way to stay with me but everytime he speaks to hes familly i have to hide and noone of his kin know i exsist oi feel like maybe hes ashamed of me......i feel lost

I feel for you girl. But if he loves you too, wouldn't he be saying something to you about how to make things work out in the future? It sounds like he's not.

It's so painful when you love someone who doesn't love you the same way. The ones who are loving and kind up to the very day they leave you forever are the worst. I know, I've been there.

thank you all for your advice i decided to leave him but i just dont know how to take the first step i dont even know if i can break up withhim without falling apart after word but thatnk you all for your opinions keep in contact

sincerly
Pearl0909

You will survive. Your heart will ache, but you will survive.

One way to recover from the heartache is by investing yourself in a cause that is greater than yourself. Giving compassion to others can result in the healing of one's own heart.

This is very true. It also helps if you have family or friends you can talk to. Just take it one step at a time. Let us know how it goes.

I tried leaving but I couldn't we're still
Together and happy for now I have decided to give love a chance who knows maybe be he will come back maybe not but if god put him on my path then in going to leave things in his hands and hope for the best I have to take that risk

Why do you have to hide when he speaks to his family? That sounds very fishy to me. If he is so in love with you he would tell his family and be proud to show off a pretty lady such as yourself. I would ask him why he isn't telling his family but maybe he is hiding some other fact (already married or involved, not permitted to date outside of his religion for example)

Yes, I have to agree with Eileen. This does sound fishy.

If a man loves you he will stay with you, forsaking his family and customs.

If you are 100% sure it will end, you should take charge of your life and be proactive. Yes, it will hurt. But, the sooner you take action, the sooner the healing will begin.

You have to hide when he is in contact with family? You know he is leaving. By now you have probably been curious enough to look into his Muslim religion & culture. There is a strong tie to his family (obvious by how many times the word family came up in your posts). He might possibly even be going home to an arranged marriage. Either way....it would be VERY DIFFICULT to assimilate into his family even if he had the desire to do so. Protect yourself, let your brain and natural instinct for self preservation overcome your heart. Read a couple heart breaking books on women who have married and then moved to a part of the world where the culture and ways that women are treated have gone through only to have a living hell trying to get away, and when children were involved, well just soooo sad...Tough talk here but probably sound advice. In the end it's your decision and YOU have to live with it. Best wishes that your future turns out well for you