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Topic: Stop being picky
Unknow Joined Thu 04/01/10 Posts: 1482	Sat 12/08/12 10:51 PM
mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm red you say?

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Sun 12/09/12 11:33 PM
So thats the reason why you are alone? So whatever interest is taken in you, just go with it? How about we treat every aspect of our lives that way. Think about it. What if your favorite shoe store only had a pair of red clown shoes? What the heck, go for it. this would be good advice except we have become such a lust driven society,, really, few really wants to start something that wont end in some physical intimacy being 'friends' is a dirty word to too many heterosexual men and women for them to take the time or effort,, There's nothing wrong with being friends. It's just different than a romantic relationship. Having a good heart will never be enough. Passion and sex will always come first. And thats where i will lose because someone would have to get to know me. I agree. I believe far too many people, though, see a friend relationship as a negative and shoot immediatly for the romance or nothing at all.

WithOrWithoutYou Joined Thu 10/18/12 Posts: 255	Sun 12/09/12 11:52 PM
Being with the wrong woman for me is far worse than being lonely. Lonely I can deal with...

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 12/10/12 10:17 AM
Look man. My shoes are MY business. You simply cannot settle on shoes. I mean....I have delicate feet man.

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Tue 12/11/12 03:28 AM
We all have our very own individual tastes and preferences when it comes to people and everything in life..I wouldn't want to guilt-trip someone into "liking me." (As parents might try to guilt-trip their kids into "liking" and eating spinach!)...The reality is that everyone isn't going to be attracted to us! And I don't want to bring out any shot-guns to try to force someone to "like" and "want me!".. No thank you!

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Wed 12/12/12 05:57 AM
I'm not picky I just happen to attract Lunachicks :/ Maybe you should be a little more picky....just saying But honestly even being picky does not seem to keep the strange ones at bay Maybe hehehe That is SO true Kristi!

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 12/12/12 06:19 AM
I disagree, respectfully. If a person doesn't know their own mind, desires, values etc. the chances of engaging with a compatible mate are diminished. If people never leave their comfort zone...The ability to learn is diminished. Being afraid is safer than taking a chance. If that works for you, I only have one chance at life...Every risk is worth it. but that should be an individual choice - no one should be forced to leave their comfort zone. I can be comfortable and learn quite well, actually. not that I think the occasional calculated risk might be worth it....we take chances every time we inhale. it's a matter of the degree of the thing I never said it wasn't an individual choice. I simply stated that it is not mine and noting a correlation if such could be made. it's OK you have me on the wrong bandwagon - I was actually agreeing with you I bet you are sooooooooo happy you posted here I was only stating my opinion that I think it should be an individual choice. I know you didn't say that

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 12/12/12 06:23 AM
I disagree, respectfully. If a person doesn't know their own mind, desires, values etc. the chances of engaging with a compatible mate are diminished. If people never leave their comfort zone...The ability to learn is diminished. Leaving one's comfort zone would likely not involve stepping outside the parameters of what is deemed desirable. I like this. In the context of the OP and a relationship I totally agree. It could also be simple as dating someone who you find yourself attracted to who you might not normally date - if it works great, if not - eh....it's just a date

glenn1993 Joined Thu 12/13/12 Posts: 2	Thu 12/13/12 05:36 PM
not picky just cautious looks are not every thing

Muaness Joined Mon 11/05/12 Posts: 2993	Thu 12/13/12 10:28 PM
not picky just cautious looks are not every thing but they are part of the everything right?

SeaWInd777 Joined Fri 11/16/12 Posts: 9	Sat 12/15/12 12:51 PM
Agree Totally

SeaWInd777 Joined Fri 11/16/12 Posts: 9	Sat 12/15/12 12:51 PM
Agree!

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sun 12/16/12 07:06 PM
So thats the reason why you are alone? So whatever interest is taken in you, just go with it? How about we treat every aspect of our lives that way. Think about it. What if your favorite shoe store only had a pair of red clown shoes? What the heck, go for it. I settled and almost died from it as the idiot almost broke my neck; so damn right I am picky; especially when it endangers my life.

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Mon 12/17/12 02:06 PM
So thats the reason why you are alone? So whatever interest is taken in you, just go with it? How about we treat every aspect of our lives that way. Think about it. What if your favorite shoe store only had a pair of red clown shoes? What the heck, go for it. I settled and almost died from it as the idiot almost broke my neck; so damn right I am picky; especially when it endangers my life. There are times when you think, if you dont grab on now you will regret it later. BBut because you didnt take enough time to learn who you are really with, you regret it as you live it.

ashryn Joined Sat 03/12/11 Posts: 383	Mon 12/17/12 05:11 PM
I don't think I"m picky, in fact I think I'm pretty much open minded. There are things that attract me like accents but if I have a conversation with someone who does not have an accent doesn't mean I will automatically write them off :D

Unknow Joined Thu 04/01/10 Posts: 1482	Wed 12/19/12 05:31 PM
Well I don't think I am picky just cautious, there's certain types of behaviors or "red lights" that I won't settle for, looks to me aren't all that important it's the person and what's in their heart that counts with me.