Sex on 1st date good or bad idea??

That would depend on from whom the idea comes... If it's the lady's idea (meaning of course she brings it up) then yes, it's a great idea and, as men, most of us would be in favor of it. If it's the man that comes up with it, I feel it wouldn't be received near as well.

haven't done that yet...coz my first dates were usually over a coffee and donut and a lot of getting-to-know you talks...but if it feels right..then maybe..who knows?....

You might be right, those coffee shop people tend to frown when you use their tables that way...

That's what the restrooms are for.

Nope not on first date. Don't care if the guy is so hot he makes my teeth sweat I have more self respect and respect for who ever I would accept a date from to jump his bones and having him decide how he thought about me with his little head.

Some guys think it doesn't hurt them but I have seen more guys in counseling that literally screwed their own lives up because they were trying to do the right thing cuz the gal gave it up (and they felt guilty) than any other common denominator besides alcohol.

I would say its the choice between the two people on the date. But personally I would prefer to get to know the person a little better first before becoming intimate with them.

Here's my take on it..

Sometimes you can have an instant attract for someone and all your normal rules go out of the windows or sometimes it’s just alcohol induced lust.

If it feels like the right thing to do and has nothing to do with them getting more and more attractive after your 2nd or third glass of wine, then go for it. You only live once...If you have to use alcohol, think about it or talk yourself into it then it’s probably a good idea to wait until the time is right...or you move on.

That depends on whatever standard that you use to determine right from wrong.

you noticed that,too?..yeah they do frown..hahaha!..but seriously, if i'm with coffee and a good conversationalist...sex doesn't even come to mind...except when....mmm...nevermind..

Do tell.

I say No to sex on any DATE.

well i guess if ya just out to get your rocks off for the night.....then ok

if your lookin for somthing meaningful...then....no

If it feels right, go for it. If not, don't.

You mean with the date, right?

Call me a sick and deviant idiot, but if I were offered sex on the first date, I would refuse it. It happened, too. Socially I met a dr., she introduced me to two of her girlfriends, one wanted to smoke up and have sex right away, she drove a ferrari that took off like a rocket, and I had to say no, this was too fast for me. The askence ferrari driver was a tall, stylish red-head, slim, but a bit aging. It's not those that turned me off; but the smoking of drugs, and the feeling that I am so far removed from her class and league, that it would take a seven-member rescue team WEEKS to find me and bring me home to my rented basement room.

But on other first dates, if I sometimes asked for sex right away, and a small, almost zero number of times the woman would say yes, then I was willing, too.

I don't count those of these, where the woman and I had known each other socially, or through school, friends, etc., where we had got to know each other well before the date. The examples above only apply to ones when I was with total or nearly total strangers.

I've had sex on the first date...
...with myself.

Does that count?

I... I... you are saying something very, very important here, 42.

Maybe if I got a woman drunk, I wouldn't need to go through the next upcoming 13 years also celibately.

It's just drinking is not in my personal culture. At least two-thirds of my very past gfs did not drink, and I never offer drinks, because I don't. Maybe that's it. My 'mehtod' lacked a certain very important ingredient.

Thanks for opening my eyes, 42. This is not a joke at all, I may have written it to sound funny, but I never thought of it that way.

Fu... shi... oh, drat.

As an idea, I support it and am all the way behind it by hypothetical considerations.

Translation:

if you are okay to get her stoned to death by the angry villagers, each of whom is her cousin in one way or another, then why not. If you want her to survive at least 'till the second date, then don't.