Wait. Does that mean Ill have to wait another 5 years before you make that offer again?


Let me re think this. . . . . . . . .

I don't have any friends that I am attracted to so this scenario would not be a problem. They are also attracted to women their age so again; I don't have that problem either.

I have a difficult time being friends with women; one took me by surprise and told me that if I didn't "do something soon" I would get stuck in the "friend zone"; I told her that was what I wanted and have seen her in 5 years. If I am interested in something else, I let them know and go for it; this site is good in that I can talk to women and not fall into that. I value female friends and it is not just to call and ask how do you get chewing gum out of the clothes dryer.

Hmmm I think over the years probably my closest friends have been guys. Might be for years living in male dominated areas around military bases or being Mom to sons but I don't find the competition element ever coming up with male friends and that just makes being friends with males easier. When I have a male friend the whole thing about territory never comes up when they get a girlfriend and I never have to be careful about being caught unawares with some rare ******* that thinks his wife's friends are his fringe benifits. Turn them down cold it never goes well because they usually can't just accept it and invariably it "burns" the friendship with their wife. (So you gals out there wonder why your female friends avoid your "charming & perfect" husband; heads up.)

I now have an older lady I consider a close friend a few years now and one other friend I have kept in touch with over the years but just to go do something and hang out usually a guy. Probably related to the fact that a lot of my hobbies are things that appeal to guys; fishing, camping, hunting, photography, carpentry, remodeling, landscapeing, muscle cars so I get invited to go along. I could care less about fashion, or getting the girl girly stuff done so . Part of it is I just have a lot of superficial friends because moving so much in my younger adult years I got used to being alone.

I will say that my feelings contradict the study because most of my male friends I do find VERY sexually attractive but just consistently "check" those feelings because their friendship is more important to me than enjoying a fun boink that would more than likely mess up the relationship. I try to be courteous and not put my male friends in "uncomfortable" or "confuseing" situations where I hug-up on them or say things that would send a message that I have those feelings. Nobody likes to be teased or their feelings played with.

I understand a male friend questioning "why not me", just like women do, and have a few times had that conversation, which usually takes some time to settle in amd get back to normal, but usually I have been lucky enough to have the conversation when it is clear by their or my situation that a significant other has that part of life covered.

My experience is FWB Neeeeever works because someone doesn't want to settle for just friendship. And it is not always the Gal. Guys can say they don't mind "shareing" or not being "The One" if FWB starts but I have never seen it happen that the guy who is "just" and FWB doesn't resent it when the gal moves on. And FWB trashes ever going back to Friends. And I have yet to meet the man that is comfortable with having an EX FWB or any other "lover" in their partners close circle and I can't say I would blame them.

One thing I have never really reconcilled is when you have opposite sex friends that same sex friends seem to never really accept it. They don't want to hang out together unless it is an opportunity to "mingle" on a hookup level. Sometimes if everyone is "coupled" but God for bid you include a single opposite sex friend in a gathering it is like trying to mix oil and water.

Being friends with me will change anyone's life for the greater good. Of course!

It already has.

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