more in love than the other. I remember people telling me, "always marry a man who loves you more than you love him". Have you all ever heard this, and how do you feel about it?

yes i have........

Yes i have heard that before, but it don't work that way!!!

I've heard that, and been in that situation, and the way it works out is crap, both people must love each other or just one person ends up doing all the work in the relationship. and if you love the person more than they love you, would you stay around and just be used??

A relationship that starts out like a see-saw, ends the same way with the opposite end...just my opinion, but normally if 1 partner puts to much effort into the relationship, that partner grows weary of not seeing the same output on the opposite end. When the other partner finally decides to put the same output, by then the other has already lost interest...or given up...not in all cases of course.

all of my relationships were like that accept I kept believing some day my hard efforts would be acknowledged. tons of relationships later, still no luck.

but hey, whatever works for you, you know? considering marrying someone must mean things have been working thus far. To feel like someone loves you more than you love them is definitely a desirable feeling

But how does a relationship keep going when you both realize this is happening. I mean I know how it keeps going for the one who loves less, but how do you stay with somebody who you know dosen't love you as much as you love them.

A true relationship is never 50-50. Sometimes it is 80-20 and other times 20-80. If it is always 80-20, then it is unhealthy.

Love is not not steady, but dynamic. It is up to those who are in love to express the dynamics, while keeping it steady.

you have to respect yourself enough not to allow yourself to be treated that way, you deserve to be loved the same amount that you love, and if your not getting that then it's time to revaluate things

Thats what I learned the hard way. You don't. You're supposed to leave, and for the person who loves less, basically that means you don't have what your heart truly desires. What I learned in life, is that one should never settle. Don't be afraid to strive for what you really want, or who you really want. If you settle, you're not only hurting the other person, you're hurting yourself as well.

Especially hurting yourself.

Sad ...but true...there is usually one that is completely happy and in love and the other is not.

It is very sad,but if your giving 100% of your heart and their not.It won't belong before you have to move on.

i dont think there's a man out there that could love me.

Viva...you just said a mouthful that you should spit out and look at....Why can't they live with you...Is there a reason why you said that?? Why are you so hard to live with...in your eyes.Can you fix the problem and make yourself more attractive to men??

I heard that on episode of Sex in the City! I think it's pretty sad, not to mention shallow.....

viva. there are men. very very very many men. some for you. plenty of them. good ones. special. don't feel bad and talk to someone.

Years ago, I read an article in a psychology magazine, which was based on the premise that, in any relationship, one person is the "lover" and the other is the "beloved." I think it's a bit simplistic, but I have seen a lot of relationships where it is absurdly easy to figure out which of the two is which....so there may be something to it.

that is because the one who loves most

gives in more than the other

but hey what do i know

The one's that last are where "love conquers all"
Gwen & I had serious issues & talked about giving up.
Neither could see happiness apart, so we got help.
worked at it & got back what we had lost & more.
I finally figured it out, 8 yrs after her death.
RELATIONSHIPS HAVE TO BE EARNED.

Think about it, hardest task in the world, a RELATIONSHIP