Honestly, I think this statement is true! I have seen this happen more then once. Its always better to be the one who is loved the most.
In a "perfect" world we would all love each other equally...well guess what, we do not live in a perfect world. I think that someone is going to love their mate a little bit deeper then their mate loves them.
Ever notice that after a divorce, it takes someone longer to get over the other one? Some people can move on faster. Some people just love much deeper then others. I think some people just put up a wall and don't always let it down 100%.
So, yes I do think that one person loves their mate deeper then the other, and I do think it can work out. If its meant to be, it will last....everything takes work and it depends on how willing you are to make it happen

I think flipflop has a good point; all relationships are dynamic, givin' and takin', the balance always shifting. I know when I've had a crappy week at work, it's 100% ME, baby!

It also depends on the people involved, some people need more attention or affirmation or whatever than others, so maybe the balance for one relationship is 80-20 and that works for them, while another has to be 60-40 or 50-50.

Personally, I like to keep it as close to 50-50 as possible, and if it isn't, I like to keep the bigger number on my side. I actually ended my last relationship because she was way more into me than I was into her. I looked down the road, talked to her about it and decided I didn't want to waste her time. Or the gas money; she lived 5 hours away. But if you have your doubts after a month and a half, what does a responsible guy do...

Point is, if you're unhappy with the balance, try to fix it with your partner. If you guys can't, and you're not married, going your separate ways may be the best thing to do so you can both find happiness. If you are married, keep truckin' 'til you just can't stand it... divorce sucks.

very well said!

Thanks! I'm not the dumbest 26yo in Florida.

that's a good thing to know. i'm thinking about moving down there. i fell in love with it last week while I was at DW

Its True.I know I loved my wife (ex-very SOON) more than she loved me.

How come slowhand is already taken? Where are there more men like him??????

Today there is many people who use others to care for them house them feed them but don't even have enough intelligence to give back in small ways even.

With love though it's based on the thoughts of people as well as their emotions---so love can be a illusion to those that think too much...

If you are marrying a man who is more in love with you than you are with him, it seems to me that you are taking advantage of him in some measure. Besides that, why would you marry a man you are not in love with? probably it is better to have some similar desire for one another.

Isn't there a book about the 'Dance of Anger' or some such where some complicated behavior is detailed regarding the push and pull between two people, where one is trying to get closer and it drives the other farther? I think this would be a very unpleasant situation for both lovers and to be avoided wherever possible.

For my personal position, I'm not marrying a woman who loves me less than I love her. On the other hand if a woman falls inexplicably madly in love with me when I'm not feeling the passion, I'm not marrying her either.

What I think I want is someone who, whenever I see her face, makes me want to smile. And if she has the same response to me, then I think we have a nice match.

Love your posts about Gwen, Oldsage. I can remember telling Dottie once that things were just not working out for us and that I would have to leave. She asked me where are we going. I just quit trying explain it to her then and we stayed together till she passed away.

I don't know for absolute sure, but I think the reason behind this saying was to protect women from men who tend to stray..... Your thoughts????????

Sucks when you love someone so much

And They don't love you as much

This situation is similar to the movie, Borat.


In that film, Borat loved Pamela Anderson more than she loved him.

I heard this from an older couple who'd been married forever, they said the reason they'd managed to stay together is that they never both fell out of love at the same time.

I'd like to think that two people could stay madly in love equally forever, but maybe that's the way it works. One or the other is always willing to do what it takes when the other one is ready to give up.