Topic: going through a breakup and moving on
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Sat 10/13/12 01:18 PM
i am new to the dating seen. been in a relationship for 15 years and starting over. decided to try mingle2. can someone give good advice on letting go of the hurt feelings and lonesome moments you go through when it is still fresh. i am ready to move on but dont wont to rush and be vulnerable. just looking for that person to keep from being lonesome. and not needy. good advise needed.brokenheart

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Sat 10/13/12 02:07 PM
Time, is really all you have to work with.
The pain recedes, if you allow it.

The only adivce I can think of, that has worked..
is to replace the empty place with something new.
New adventure, new location, new people.

Fresh..something..of interest.
Keeps the mind occupied, and away from sadness.

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Sat 10/13/12 07:56 PM
Edited by Simonedemidova on Sat 10/13/12 07:57 PM
Joining a support group helps. Dailystrength is a good site. Talking in the forums here helps prevent loneliness as well for a lot of people. Don't rush into dating or anything because you will be vulnerable or mistreated. Just take your time. It sucks splitting after so many years. Every month that passes gets easier. The more time that passes the more you realize you are better off and your feelings will hopefully lighten as well. Good luck. flowerforyou

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Sat 10/13/12 08:49 PM

i am new to the dating seen. been in a relationship for 15 years and starting over. decided to try mingle2. can someone give good advice on letting go of the hurt feelings and lonesome moments you go through when it is still fresh. i am ready to move on but dont wont to rush and be vulnerable. just looking for that person to keep from being lonesome. and not needy. good advise needed.brokenheart


Find something healthy to do that distracts from the mooning thoughts so time will pass. Because in the end time is what will heal and the healthy activities will help you to feel better about yourself in the process.

And do not beat yourself up for it taking too long. We have to have as long as it takes and sometimes that is even a year or more easily

Best advice and Good luck

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Sun 10/14/12 05:53 AM
Look for FRIENDS first. Learn to go slow & learn about people. You CAN NOT be used, unless you allow it. Find some kind of group, you enjoy & get involved. Never hurry a relationship, time will make or break. Let time work for you. Learn to enjoy your ALONE time.

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Sun 10/14/12 10:32 PM
You just stated what you need to do. Remember this happens to everyone. Eventually the sting will fade be yourself, be honest with yourself and hey have fun.Good luck

jacktrades's photo
Sun 10/14/12 10:32 PM
You just stated what you need to do. Remember this happens to everyone. Eventually the sting will fade be yourself, be honest with yourself and hey have fun.Good luck

jacktrades's photo
Sun 10/14/12 10:33 PM
You just stated what you need to do. Remember this happens to everyone. Eventually the sting will fade be yourself, be honest with yourself and hey have fun.Good luck

jacktrades's photo
Sun 10/14/12 10:33 PM
You just stated what you need to do. Remember this happens to everyone. Eventually the sting will fade be yourself, be honest with yourself and hey have fun.Good luck

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Sun 10/14/12 10:35 PM
You just stated what you need to do. Remember this happens to everyone. Eventually the sting will fade be yourself, be honest with yourself and hey have fun.Good luck

jacktrades's photo
Sun 10/14/12 10:35 PM
You just stated what you need to do. Remember this happens to everyone. Eventually the sting will fade be yourself, be honest with yourself and hey have fun.Good luck