Topic: why is it so hard for a nice guy to find a girl? | |
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try a witch! We are the most fun loving people ever! Our lives are AWSOME! Yeah... but I have two friends who are witches. Which witch must I choose? And warlocks... are they good too? If a guy is bi-sexual, is he to go after a witch or warlock, and if a warlock, which witch to hitch with, and which witch to ditch? In Witchita Falls the Witchitas fall when Witchita falls. |
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Omigosh, Navigirl, you ARE in last years' Hallowe'en uniform, aren't you? I did not look at your picture close up... I just look at the little picture, and that's not very sharp, does not give too many details. If the picture is your latest glamour-shot, then please forgive the attitudinous compliment I gave to you in my previous message. Nope; not last year's Halloween costume. This picture was taken last weekend. Ah. New uniform for stewardesses in the navy who fly into Detroit. Check. Or maybe you had an argument with the paper boy or the milk man, that you wanted 1.3 percent milk, homogenized and lactose-free, not 2.9873 percent milk, which is brown and has silver lining on the edges. Tempers grew during the argument. I would hate to see what HE looks like. |
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I'm just friends with a "nice guy" (man) right now. He's a longtime family friend and he knew my husband and son before they passed away...My male friend was probably raised (and taught) to "defer" to women. (To be a gentleman at all times.)...He seems to be playing out some type of a "role." This makes it hard to really get to know him.. Plus I'm sure he feels frustrated because I don't "do roles."...I sense a little anger and resentment and hostility towards women "inside" my friend once in awhile. But I guess this is to be expected since he was taught to "defer" to women and play out the "nice guy" and "gentleman role."...Playing out this "role" can lead to passive-aggressive behavior. And many women pick-up on the "hot/cold" and "love/hate" vibrations...My husband was "nice enough" and caring and friendly towards women and everyone. But he didn't feel compelled to play out a "role." He had a well-defined personality and tons of interests of his own. He was "okay" with or without a woman in his life...Some of the "nice guys" I dated before I met my husband seemed a bit "vague" and not "well-defined." (As individuals in their own "right.")...And some seemed "needy" and even on the "dependent-side" at times....Back when I was dating I was a single-parent with 2 small sons. So I was drawn to men who could "hold their own." I didn't want someone who seemed "vague."....And I definitely didn't want to get "mixed-up" with someone who had "hidden resentment" towards women. Or a man who expected me to play out a "role."
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Edited by
GreenEyes48
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Fri 10/12/12 09:35 AM
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I think men and women can both come across as "too nice." And maybe too eager to "please." Don't you think?...And the "niceness" and the desire to "please" can come with some "hidden strings."...As in: "I've put you on top and become your 'faithful dog' and now you owe me! Don't you dare try to get rid of me!"
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Edited by
uche9aa
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Fri 10/12/12 09:53 AM
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"Nice guy" is rather a relative term.Hitler,saddam Hussain,etc could be "nice guys" what made you to believe you are a nice guy?
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Soo truly said .. Well said brah...
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