I think sometimes if a person contacts you they may not know or feel comfortable telling us why. Since a big percentage is physical attraction at least initially that kind of puts us on the spot because we are suppose to be more whatever than just likeing someone's looks.

If people do this; especially a guy does this; well often the response is a0 disqualification of whatever he said he liked "oh no my hair looked terrible that day", b) "perve" instead of Thank You c) If he says he likes something you said often it is "that is not what I said" or "why are you stalking me" instead of thank you for paying attention. It is kind of a double standard. And somewhat of a no win situation.

I am told asking a guy why they are attracted is like saying they are screwed up, you are fishing for a better compliment, or that you are generally asking them the second string so you can be more or less attractive to them or to attract someone else. Men are keenly aware they always have competition.

If a person looks at my profile or the other way around I usually send them a message.

Do you let them know what interested you, or just say they caught your interest? A guy contacted me yesterday saying my profile interested him. I asked him what specifically interested him, as I was curious. He was very vague about it and got mad at me because I asked him to be specific, telling me I was too demanding. I thought that was really weird.

Of course I let them know what peaked my interest. That's a red flag to me when they do things like that, it's usually the sign of a scammer. Just something I picked up on dealing with scammers for so long.

Eh, I think sometimes it's just people who for some reason cannot figure out how to have a normal conversation online. I don't really get it, but some don't chat well online and seem to think it's a completely different thing than having a conversation in person.

I usually just ask "How are you doing?". Reason being, if they reply they are either being friendly or are interested. I base it on meeting someone on the street. You always have a polite greeting, with "hi", and see where it goes from there.

Do you let them know what interested you, or just say they caught your interest? A guy contacted me yesterday saying my profile interested him. I asked him what specifically interested him, as I was curious. He was very vague about it and got mad at me because I asked him to be specific, telling me I was too demanding. I thought that was really weird.

Well sometimes it's something vain that caught my attention like a hair color or cute smile. And sometimes it's a great post on a forum or profile. If its a cute smile I will check out the profile first to see if they interest me. But I would state it was your "insert color here" colored hair that caught my attention but I liked the fact you like to dissect frogs also.

Would it bother you if it was a feature that caught our attention first?

Eh, I think sometimes it's just people who for some reason cannot figure out how to have a normal conversation online. I don't really get it, but some don't chat well online and seem to think it's a completely different thing than having a conversation in person.

No, but if that's all he commented on, I would thank him and that's about it unless he came back with something more interesting.