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Topic: How many times can you fall in love?
Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Mon 08/20/12 10:14 PM
How many times can you fall in love for real? 2,3 or 4? Sometimes what you think is love is often not. Is it okay to fall in and out of love or is it un-natural? I think we fall in love and as we learn with each relationship that passes that it was not actually love but wants and needs. What's your thoughts?

yattu Joined Sun 08/12/12 Posts: 90	Mon 08/20/12 10:23 PM
sometimes we go deep inside that matter and not even fall but sink in love!I think thats something overly attractive and which may lead to the other way which u were not intending to move on! just a knida feeling thats inside my stupid heart..uttered it away here ...

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Mon 08/20/12 10:30 PM
I know people who do fall in love all the time. Me personally, only twice.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Mon 08/20/12 10:33 PM
Hopefully at least twice...No more though, otherwise I'm well f*****.

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Mon 08/20/12 10:34 PM
In: unlimited Out: well I don’t believe people fall out of love. I think, in some cases, they realize it wasn’t love to begin with. in others, what we hoped would turn into love just doesn’t and the old “I love you , but I’m not in love with you” thing is merely an excuse given to try and make the other person not feel so bad.(or themselves) Kind of like the “its me, not you” line.

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Mon 08/20/12 10:39 PM
sometimes we go deep inside that matter and not even fall but sink in love!I think thats something overly attractive and which may lead to the other way which u were not intending to move on! just a knida feeling thats inside my stupid heart..uttered it away here ... I like the first sentence...but I do not understand the second one..what do you mean something overly attractive leading you another way not intending?

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Mon 08/20/12 10:40 PM
I know people who do fall in love all the time. Me personally, only twice. Yes me too, and they seem happier but not exactly genuine.

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Mon 08/20/12 10:43 PM
In: unlimited Out: well I don’t believe people fall out of love. I think, in some cases, they realize it wasn’t love to begin with. in others, what we hoped would turn into love just doesn’t and the old “I love you , but I’m not in love with you” thing is merely an excuse given to try and make the other person not feel so bad.(or themselves) Kind of like the “its me, not you” line. So if you fall in love you have that for the rest of your life? What about you think you are in love then get a divorce and end up hating someone though. I am not saying the love for them was never real but the hurt is bad you wish they were dead....in that situation I think it would be perfectly explainable to fall out of love. When people are friends though and try out a further relationship it could be platonic love gone sexual but not necessarily a true couples love.

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Mon 08/20/12 10:46 PM
I find they are not happier. Always on highs and lows and go from one relationship to the next. I dont tick that way, that is me :-)

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Mon 08/20/12 10:51 PM
Neither do I.

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Mon 08/20/12 10:57 PM
In: unlimited Out: well I don’t believe people fall out of love. I think, in some cases, they realize it wasn’t love to begin with. in others, what we hoped would turn into love just doesn’t and the old “I love you , but I’m not in love with you” thing is merely an excuse given to try and make the other person not feel so bad.(or themselves) Kind of like the “its me, not you” line. So if you fall in love you have that for the rest of your life? What about you think you are in love then get a divorce and end up hating someone though. I am not saying the love for them was never real but the hurt is bad you wish they were dead....in that situation I think it would be perfectly explainable to fall out of love. When people are friends though and try out a further relationship it could be platonic love gone sexual but not necessarily a true couples love. you can love someone and not have the relationship work, right? it doesnt mean love is not there or goes away. it means the couple thing didnt work.

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Mon 08/20/12 11:00 PM
I think once love can be erased...and turn into hatred

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Mon 08/20/12 11:03 PM
When people are friends though and try out a further relationship it could be platonic love gone sexual but not necessarily a true couples love. you’re introducing parameters that may or may not alter the equation. trying to produce love from something that is not love, cannot be looked at the same way. while this type of relationship may work on some level, by your own admission , it’s not the “love” you were talking about.

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Mon 08/20/12 11:07 PM
I think once love can be erased...and turn into hatred hatred has to come from caring. otherwise wouldn’t indifference be better served?

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Mon 08/20/12 11:09 PM
I think once love can be erased...and turn into hatred hatred has to come from caring. otherwise wouldn’t indifference be better served? I can understand that, but that love dies, even if it existed.

yattu Joined Sun 08/12/12 Posts: 90	Mon 08/20/12 11:13 PM
sometimes we go deep inside that matter and not even fall but sink in love!I think thats something overly attractive and which may lead to the other way which u were not intending to move on! just a knida feeling thats inside my stupid heart..uttered it away here ... I like the first sentence...but I do not understand the second one..what do you mean something overly attractive leading you another way not intending? actually what i meant is that we change our path during these kinda situations..for example if u r moving towards achieving success in academics..u just leave it and think abt the partner and ur future life with that partner and this causes a decline in ur academic grade!

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Mon 08/20/12 11:20 PM
You can be in love and then it dies because they have done something to justify you taking your love back. It does turn to indifference for me, not hate.

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Mon 08/20/12 11:23 PM
sometimes we go deep inside that matter and not even fall but sink in love!I think thats something overly attractive and which may lead to the other way which u were not intending to move on! just a knida feeling thats inside my stupid heart..uttered it away here ... I like the first sentence...but I do not understand the second one..what do you mean something overly attractive leading you another way not intending? actually what i meant is that we change our path during these kinda situations..for example if u r moving towards achieving success in academics..u just leave it and think abt the partner and ur future life with that partner and this causes a decline in ur academic grade! And then what, you become infatuated, think you're in love, abandoned your responsibilities and then possibly fall out of love and have to play catch up with your academics....

yattu Joined Sun 08/12/12 Posts: 90	Mon 08/20/12 11:29 PM
sometimes we go deep inside that matter and not even fall but sink in love!I think thats something overly attractive and which may lead to the other way which u were not intending to move on! just a knida feeling thats inside my stupid heart..uttered it away here ... I like the first sentence...but I do not understand the second one..what do you mean something overly attractive leading you another way not intending? actually what i meant is that we change our path during these kinda situations..for example if u r moving towards achieving success in academics..u just leave it and think abt the partner and ur future life with that partner and this causes a decline in ur academic grade! And then what, you become infatuated, think you're in love, abandoned your responsibilities and then possibly fall out of love and have to play catch up with your academics.... its an example ..not a real incident that happened to me ..! i just wanted to highlight the darker side of love ....and i am not at all discouraging anybody to go for a real and true love! it may be a wrong assumption of an overly attractive thought to be taken as LOVE but at that very moment u may not differentiate 'love' and 'attraction'. there are so pure and natural feelings about the person that u can just do anything for his\her good!!!

AndyBgood Joined Thu 12/25/08 Posts: 12437	Tue 08/21/12 12:12 AM
Can I still say I can fall in love too many times?