I have been out of the dating game for a long time
I see this nice looking lady at my gym all the time, she looks at me and i look at her. What's the best
Way To start talking to her and see where it goes. This question is for Any laddies out
What would work for them .

did anyone tell you
that you look like sylvester stallone

Are you asking for ladies or laddies?...because there's a big difference in bra size with that extra d

not always,lol

lol..very true.

But he goes to the gym, so i guess he wouldn't have to worry about man boobs.

Well when I was at the gym a hottie came up to help me 'perfect' the thing I was doing. Helpfulness doesn't really hide interest, but it is a good icebreaker :-)

Back when I was in the habit of going to the Jim, and liked a laddie, then I'd just simply walk up to the biggest, meanest muscle machine in the room, rip it out off of the floor where it had been held secrue with nine inch bolts, and kick it through the roof.

Got the laddies' attention every time.

But don't practice doing this at home.

and that hair with the burning, hot look in the eyes... a bit like Adolph, as well. Adolph H.

I am not attaching any meaning to this, or insinuation. All I say is that you, OP, have a certain something in your outward countenance that reminds me of A.H. It's purely visual, nothing more. Please.

Well that she is looking at you does not mean a lot.

But if she is smileing at you then I would smile back occassionally.]

When she comes in tell her it is "nice to see (her)" and when she leave say "have a nice day". If she responds a couple times then say "Hey by the way I am -----your last name--."

If she is interested she will ask at the info desk who you are and call you by your first name the next day. Or ask you right then.

Then when she is done with her routine, or near done, offering her a bottle of water or leaving it by her machine. If she accepts you know she is open to like you.

The next time you see her suggest you would meet her for a light breakfast or lunch at a specific place (you have actually been) some time that next weekend if it is convienent. Offer her a bussiness card with an email and say "you can email me if you like".

Try to make good eye contact and do these breif conversations when you have a minimum of audience.

I think this is good advice. Better than mine, anyway.

The only part I don't agree with is that you must push your eyeballs so close to hers that they make contact and touch each other. Ewwww.

typo people it happens

Not everyone commented on the typo :-) Good luck.

First of all, stop thinking about it. You're getting too into it and you're holding yourself back. Next time you see her, just go up to her and start talking, let it flow naturally, don't think about it. You're not asking her to marry you or anything, you're just trying to talk to her at this point, so let's not get all worked up for nothing.

Hmm that is actually tricky. I despise being bothered by men at a gym. I am trying to workout, not get hit on my men.
If she seems interested ..maybe a simple hello here and there at first. Everyone is different ..so like I said..It is tricky. Good luck though.

This is EXACTLY why I am fat and a slob. I don't go to the Jim, because women are absolutely yummy there, it's better than the Muslim idea of Paradise in Heaven, but you can't talk to them without making a fool of yourself.

So I go to ice cream saloons instead and to Chocolate Cheesecake pandemoniums. Tira Mishu demolition derby-s.

Nude wrestling in chocolate pudding-lime jello mix. Solo, only.

Pi eating contests. Once I got as far as the seven thousands numerical decimal digit, but there was still an infinite number left ahead of me.

Some places you really just don't probably want to be bothered. You are there to get the job done and trying to concentrate or just don't feel safe. Some to avoid are;

Work
Im Class
Gym
Doctor's office.
Bank
Library
Grocery Store
Parking lot
Anywhere I am distracted careing for family.
Anywhere I am reading or on my computer or talking on the phone.

Can't speak for anyone else the most receptive places I am going to be are where I don't feel too crowded, where I am not going to be put on the spot , or where there are not a lot of people paying attention to every thing that is being said or done. Great places to meet me are;

Online

Before or after class in a student area.

Before or after a church event.

A group function where socializeing is expected; like a school reunion, conference, charity event, larger wedding, or political event.

When I am somewhere shopping or buying a non-essential. Bazzars, fleamarkets, auto shows, art shows, farmers market, food tasteings, or commuity festivals.

At a public sporting event.

At a party.

At work events that will not be rateing my job performance.

When it is clearly a time I am waiting and have a few uncommitted moments to chat. Waiting for a plane, the DMV, for a delivery or return.

The operative word here is meeting not having a full on interview, scoreing my phone number, or trying a pick up date.

I know IPODs and all the gismoes are great for some but nothing replaces a nice smile and well timed compliment, and being passed a note or bussiness card with and email or phone number.

Or a modest suggestion that they will be someplace respectable later if I would grace them with my company for a few minutes. More than once I have seen a dance, a cup of coffee, or someone helping me do some little chore at a function turn into a date in the next week. If a guy is not into me enough to hold his attention I know I am spinning my wheels with a player.

Can't speak for all ladies out there but usually Hi, Hello works fine. If she's making eye contact with you it could be a sign she's interested and not checking the clock behind you. I'd start simple. I don't undestand what's the harm in 5 minutes of small talk.

Ummmmm.......just maybe......

She's only there to......



Work Out!!!!!


Its a health thing!!!!!!

well.. They have answered you.. So how far? Have you talked with her? Give us the gist

You mean to reproach those who did not comment on it? Yes, this is a disgrace, that certain people feel they are too good for our group than to be concerned with community events, or they do not care, and thus they do not fall in line with the team spirit.

I wish the OP good luck with typing, too. In the future. Happy typing, typo-free typing.