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Topic: Random gift on a first date
Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Mon 07/23/12 10:24 AM
this is the photO manO faxed me the day he bought the gift That was the second date ...He said he had a h*ll of a time finding that frame Ese...This one I keep on my desk right beside my computer Chit, Jerry doesn't know that!!!

red_lace Joined Sat 04/17/10 Posts: 7247	Mon 07/23/12 10:26 AM
See, I don't get the whole "trying to play it cool" thing. If I like someone or I'm interested in dating them, I just say that or express it in some way. If I "scare" them away by just being myself then that's ok because it means he wasn't the right person for me. I can't handle the stress of trying to be anything else than myself. ^^ This. Sew a lock of her hair to your chest. Tried and tested.

wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 8036	Mon 07/23/12 10:34 AM
I think you are on the right track! Good luck on the date!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 07/23/12 10:41 AM
Yeah, I've been playin it cool with this one. Don't wanna scare her off. I think I'll wait until the second date. I don't know. I don't wanna come on too strong, too fast and have her mistake that for desperation or something. She already kinda offered me a gift, so we'll see how that goes. Again, just be yourself. Stop worrying and over thinking things too much.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 07/23/12 10:42 AM
See, I don't get the whole "trying to play it cool" thing. If I like someone or I'm interested in dating them, I just say that or express it in some way. If I "scare" them away by just being myself then that's ok because it means he wasn't the right person for me. I can't handle the stress of trying to be anything else than myself. ^^ This. Sew a lock of her hair to your chest. Tried and tested. Hey lady! How have you been?

HeadnHeart Joined Wed 06/02/10 Posts: 1270	Mon 07/23/12 10:50 AM
See, I don't get the whole "trying to play it cool" thing. If I like someone or I'm interested in dating them, I just say that or express it in some way. If I "scare" them away by just being myself then that's ok because it means he wasn't the right person for me. I can't handle the stress of trying to be anything else than myself. This is perfect, Ruth. totally agree. it should work itself out naturally, if both are on this page.

red_lace Joined Sat 04/17/10 Posts: 7247	Mon 07/23/12 11:00 AM
Hey lady! How have you been? Good!

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Mon 07/23/12 02:28 PM
What I am getting out of this conversation is wedding rings are out, flowers are in and strangely colored one-eyed teddy bears are a possibility. I better take notes.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Mon 07/23/12 02:45 PM
I gave a condom as a gift once on a first date. But we didn't use it till the third date!!

chsc2001 Joined Fri 07/20/12 Posts: 107	Mon 07/23/12 02:50 PM
I gave a condom as a gift once on a first date. But we didn't use it till the third date!! That might be pushing it I wouldn't recommend lingerie on a first date either...but then, what do I know

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32401	Mon 07/23/12 02:58 PM
I gave a condom as a gift once on a first date. But we didn't use it till the third date!!

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Mon 07/23/12 03:32 PM
I think giving a couple of baseball cards is not too over the top as a thoughtful gift unless it is extreamly valuable card. Giving her a card for her infant son might be pushing it a little on the first date. As a single Mom I wanted it very clear that they were dateing me first and my children were "off Limits". If you want to reserve one for a later birthday or holiday for the child when things are established that would be pretty cool but just not up front.

galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Mon 07/23/12 03:45 PM Edited by galendgirl on Mon 07/23/12 03:46 PM
She's kind of a tomboy & she like the Cubs. Someone gave me some random baseball cards. I found two Cubs. One for her & one for her baby boy. I'm thinking too far ahead though. I haven't even asked her out yet. Haha. Sounds like you've been talking and pulling a couple cards out of a deck is sweet. I'd think "Wow!" if I was in her shoes and you showed up and made it a "hey, no big deal but these made me think of our conversations and I thought you'd like to have them." I might not specify that one was for her baby. I'd just say they were for her and let it be her decision. Go for it! Be yourself...

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Mon 07/23/12 04:08 PM Edited by 42BlackBBW on Mon 07/23/12 04:09 PM
I had a guy buy me some cigarettes once. The date was going so well that he we smoked our way through both our packs and we ended sharing the last one in my pack – the date lasted about 8 hours and we were still chatting at 3am. First date gifts really depend on the type of gift, the context and the person you’re dating. Flowers and/or chocolates are so passé that I would find it a bit weird if someone got me those on a first date and just make me red flag the guy.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 07/23/12 10:24 PM
I had a guy buy me some cigarettes once. The date was going so well that he we smoked our way through both our packs and we ended sharing the last one in my pack – the date lasted about 8 hours and we were still chatting at 3am. First date gifts really depend on the type of gift, the context and the person you’re dating. Flowers and/or chocolates are so passé that I would find it a bit weird if someone got me those on a first date and just make me red flag the guy. I've never really dated the kind of guys that get flowers, so I'd be completely happy with flowers :).

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Mon 07/23/12 10:29 PM
Jerry gave me a random gift on our first date ...The amazing thing was we both had the same gift in mind for the other one...It was an 8 x 10 copy of a picture we both liked... I thought that was sweet you gave each other a picture of me. Lol