Sometimes when two break up they can remain friends,Other times it is best to move on. But how do you know whats the best choice when you feel torn in two places ?

I was dating a wonderful lady for two years I was content and happy and she was as well everything was so happy and content.things were perfect yet sour from the begining and i am having a hard time lettign go of missing her and being confused how i feel .

Constantly for two years I was accused of cheating when i never had or would on anyone ,I was accused of texting others,I even got on her phone plan to prove I wasnt ,Shes had me take pics inside my car to prove that i wasnt with anyone ,if i went to the doctor she would accuse me of going out with the nurse,everyone i knew she called names to me about them .everyone i assosiated with in church she accused me of wanting them or ect ect.

It probably sounds silly but i had to even look up in the dictionary some things she would call me when she was mad at me no one has ever cussed me out befor she did every argument

When we werent arguing she said she wanted up to move in together then no she didnt then she wanted us to tell our familys about eachother as neither familys knowm were BI and a couple .I todl my family it came time for her to tell hers she changed her mind .Everytime mad at me wanted to break up then say sorry and id take her back .


She told me she was jealouse because she was cheated on befor by two of her exes adn knows id never do that i even stoped workign at one place because she was so jealouse thinkign it would make her feel reassured i stoped going out to eat because she would accuse me being gone to long ect

Part of me feels played she would say one thing then everything id belive in she never kept her word she says she never played me but i feel like she used me and tossed me away . I feel foolish.

when id talk to her on her temper she would get mad cuss me say im blaming her when i wasnt trying to make her feel that way so when id try to explain i wasnt she would cuss me then to.

She keeps wanting me to call her and texts me i turned my phone off three days ago because she acts sweet sorry next min angry i wont talk to her but i feel like i should just walk away but i feel guilty leaving her to knowing she does mean it when shes sorry

how can i feel better if im doing whats best for me walking away because her jealousy and temper and i know thats best but same time i miss her and feel like im not being there for her ?

Im sorry it was a long explanation I just feel if she loved me as says she does she wouldnt cuss me out as she has,how can i get over her and feel like all i did was enough then feel im leaving her hurt and mad and sad at me ?

Thank you !

That is just a super-jealous personality and it is best you move on. She'll treat her next "love" the same way.

If you love someone, you don't ever abuse them financially, mentally, physically, verbally or emotionally. There is no place for that in love. I am afraid she looked upon you as simply a possession. Please move on.

I am so sorry you had to go thru that. But she needs help. That is abuse,that happened to you. You are lucky that it didn't become violent to you.Plese if you do try it back togather get councling before going any farther. Love doesn't hurt, physically emotionaly or mentally. Physical hit heal quicker than words do.

Last note : she has many wonderful qualitys and a great heart I dont want to seem so negative on her and i keep thinking maybe its cause her exes cussed her didnt work on things with her ,shes told me befor no one understands her or stuck it out with her .I am no where near perfect i know that i just always been the type person to talk on thigns solve things simple as that nothign more nothign less but with her i couldnt do anything right .If its me and im wrong i want to learn from it all so no one ever gets that mad at me again .when i told her im sorry shes always upset and her temper and its best i leave she said fine go ahead then two days ago accusing me again and begging me to talk to her but when i do nothign changes.

Her wonderful qualities don't make up for treating you like that. As a matter of fact, I think the way she treated you whitewashes all her wonderful qualities out to nothing. Sorry to be harsh.

Thank you for your reply so soon I cant sleep I appreciate it alot .I just feel like its always a roller coaster ride with her and I always have thought the best of everyone cause all have differnces and oppinions ect ,its just with her one min beg me to not leave next she wants kick me out next live together ect.

Thank you ........

You're welcome...I really hope you can move on.

Thank you for your reply and I appreciate it ,I stayed as long as i did because i know shes been treated bad befor with her two exes befor me i just feel like i failed her and me i never been the type of person to walk away from anything ,it just hurts alot knowing shes never changed been this way from day one .yet knowing i couldnt make her better or feel better feel like i disapointing myself .

Thank you

Maybe so, but everybody deserves a loving relationship. She has so many issues she can't handle one right now. But you can and you should look for one.

Thank you ....your right everyone does deserve one..I appreciate your advice........

You're welcome.

Thank you very mush its appreciated and true what you said words are hard to forget and sayign sorry over n over you start doubting if there truly sorry for things said ..its appreciated alot thank you for your advice ........

Yes. If she truly wanted you, she'd have done the opposite to abuse. She'd be careful how she spoke to you, and careful about how she behaved around you. The fact that she didn't care how she came across says it all. The confused feelings may be because you still love her. That will fade when it feels old. I'm not sure I could even stay just FRIENDS with someone who abused me. Abuse is a serious thing. This is why I get wary of dominant men. You need a clean slate, completely. Imho, she doesn' t deserve any more of your undivided attention. She needs a wake-up call/your shock tactic of leaving her.

Really love is being able to relax and be yourself. if you had to keep changing what you did, where you worked and how you acted around other people, your life was not that happy and content. Really you where trying to keep her happy, but what about you. Find someone who can appreciate the wonderful person you are. It will hurt for a while, but acceptance and just being able to relax and be yourself is a great gift.