Soooo you dating someone, things look great...WTH are your guts uneasy??? At what point do you consider yourself cheating and at the other do you think its adultry?

So, I need to ask, do you have the gut feeling that you are being cheated on? Do you know that you are being cheated on with rock solid evidence?

? If by cheating you mean getting involved with someone else while in an exclusive relationship, yes that's adultry. At what point would I consider it cheating? If I were to wonder if I were cheating or not, I would say I was cheating.

I couldn't have said it better myself. If you have to ask, you probably are.

First, i dont consider adultery the same as cheating. I mean it involves cheating for sure, but I consider adultery an act between two people who have been officially married. If they havent taken the steps to be fully committed in holy matrimony than it is really just cheating. If you have made commitment and are not married than you are just a cheater. Its rude. You begin cheating when you violate the level of honesty with one another and if you find yourself ready to stray mentally than tell the other person and do not lead them on. Its not cheating thinking about it, but if you are, chances are you are leading on your partner down a false road. Its mean and selfish.

Now this is just my take on the issue.

It all depends on how you have come into a relationship...

If you come in on a promise and you are 'dating' or having romantic involvements OUTSIDE of the one you are promised to, THEN YES YOU ARE INDEED CHEATING!

Now, you are just going out with guy A and he really ain't doing it for you and you meet guy B who sort of is and guy C who is more of what you want. As long as their is no promise spoken or implied, NOT CHEATING! A lot of guys try to impress women after the fact they know they don't have a chance. That is their problem. the thing is going out (dating, same diff to me) is not really a commitment but there is a statute of time many guys will go by. My rule is after six dates something more serious is going on. If she is seeing other guys after date six and will not clarify my position I move on. More often than not I am right about what I am feeling. Gut feelings more often are right.

If you came in with a relationship that is open and allows the both of you to see other people... cheating? Really? NOT IN THIS LIFE TIME! NOT CHEATING if you are getting your freak on where and with whom you like. But there is that one 'special person.'

Now for me the first three dates do not matter one bit. By date three I for the most part know if there is a relationship to be had. By date three most women make it clear where I stand with them. Now date four is gray to me but by date six if there is no intent then again there is not as much an issue of cheating as it is LYING! Stringing guys along is likewise not good. And guys that do this are snakes. Well, that is an embarrassment to snakes, more like Plecostomous fish! Now that fits!

Now lets say you are actively dating someone and are around two or three months into it and suddenly you are going out with other guys without your BF is not in on it or around (and in the spirit of equality for those who are into same sex, in this case you have a GF) well, if you are feeling guilty then guess what, YOU ARE CHEATING whether or not you feel guilty about it or not. The ONLY way out of this argument is that you came into your relationship wanting things to be open and no commitment. Basically a better than Friends With Benefits thing. If you have been steadily involved for a little while, well...

Lying and Cheating are the two greatest causes of destroying a relationship. They are different but the impact is the same. but not being honest with yourself is also not good either and IS lying to yourself. Why be stuck in a relationship where you are not happy or worst really miserable? Sometimes relationships end and end badly, in love and just friendship. Its better to not be the bastard or b itch in the mess. It is sometimes harder to be honest with yourself than it is to be honest with other people. But some people like to live a lie. Apples and Chocolate bars! Everything is different for everybody in love.