ok i stopped drinking 3 weeks ago and i still have people asking me to go buy them alcohol or if i want a beer.. knowing i almost died this last time.. they just dont get it.. theni had someone ask me if i wanted to go to the bar for a coke..oh please.. 5 min there id be pissed cause i want a beer....all i know is am glad am sober...

Steve....Maybe it time to find new Friend that do not do the bar Scene

Im not sure how good of "friend" they are if they dont back your sobriety

some people just find it too hard to hang out with old friends when they stop using. if you are one of these people there is a list of AA meetings on the internet. you will find many sober people at these meetings and most of them organize activities and functions to help the members get to know each other and socialize. good luck to you.

good luck

Holy crap! I'm not thinking I like this new "delete" thing that is going on. Pity?? What the heck.....This guy is just telling it like it goes for so many. Are we not to talk about our lives or ourselves anymore? Unless we talk dirty or pretend like everything is all rosey?
Or talk about absolute crap? Recovery is a serious issue with many of us. Talking about it helps. He merely wants recognition for his hard work and to know that he is trying to be good. And to make people understand that when someone is trying for recovery, that real friends will not act like this.

I say good for you. It is very hard to stay clean with friends that don't care or understand your problem. I had to change my friends and playgrounds in order to get sober and get help. My true friends were there for me. So will yours.

Kat

By the way. I don't know how this thing works. So if I have a vote; I vote keep it up. If someone doesn't want to read it; then leave the page. It's really simple enough.

Kat

stevil: your sobriety forces others to evaluate themselves and that is threatening to some who may have a problem as well. You continue to do the next right thing and take it one day at a time. WooooHooooo for you! I'M PROUD OF YOU!!

keep up the good work and as for your friends they aren't truly your friends if they want to get you to drink. but i think you can do it even though i don't know you but just be strong stay away from temptation. Good luck

they dont respect the fact that youre trying to change or acknowledge the fact you almost died,id say its time for new friends!

at least you recognize your limitations about placing yourself in a destructive position stevil. sounds like you are aware of yourself and headed in the right direction.

<<<<<<<<almost 8 months sober here..

for me, i have no place to be in a bar, will only make me want to drink..so A.A is the place for me and Dennys or some coffee shop

thats wonderful u havent drank, keep it up and dont let anyone tell u different.."one day at a time"!!!

thank youa ll for your support its much apprciated!!!

when you stop drinking it means to stop livivng that life, which means new friends that are in the same boat as you or dont drink...you can do it!!! life is so much more meaningful when its not a blur

ya see with inspiration that you guys have givi9ng me makes me that much stronger.thanks!!!!!!!

yes life is sooooooooo much better..unreal..and im grateful was getting bad for me..i lost EVERYTHING..i have to start over, but without the booze it will get better..i simply just dont want to live my life like that anymore and to top it off i have two great kids that need me..i think of them and it inspires me..

one big happy family, and we do care.

Stevi Congratulations on quitting. Staying quit is going to be hard at first. Some of your friends see you as a threat becuase they think "I drink almost as much as or in some cases more that guy and I don,t have a problem" then it starts to dawn on them and it scares the hell out of them and they are not ready to quit yet so it's easier to encourage you to go back to drinking than face their problem. To stay sober you must find a new set of frieds, you will keep some of the old ones but most of them will keep their distance once they realize you are serious about quitting. Good luck and like one guy told you Check out AA.

Hi sweet. Glad to see you are still hanging in there. Them coffee shops ae a great place for a meeting after a meeting.

I have many years clean now. I had to change so much in my life. It was hard and hurt to lose all those friends that I hung with. Drugs was my thing, mostly. You can do it, both of you. I was as bad as anyone here.

Kat

i personally don't recommend AA...it makes absolutely no sense to go hang around people who have addiction problems when you are trying to kick an addiction. maybe try hanging around HEALTHY folks.

get a new bunch of friends. literally. make certain they are healthy and not co-dependent or with an addictive personality.

it's worth it, you know...