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Topic: Intimidation
Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48973	Tue 05/29/12 02:35 PM
What i should've asked was....why do men feel intimidated by women who make more money than they do? Because of the double standard that some women use. If a man goes on a dinner date with a woman who makes more money than him, then the man is still expected to pay for the woman's meal. A man is made to believe that he won't be accepted unless he can pay for everything.

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Tue 05/29/12 02:42 PM
Yes, i suppose it was rather stupid of me to pose a question in such an intimidating way. I was trying to avoid having to go in depth on the question, because i find that too may layers tends to detract from the actual question. What i should've asked was....why do men feel intimidated by women who make more money than they do? no, i would rather have a rich woman, that way i don't have to work...

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Tue 05/29/12 02:44 PM
I find that any sort of gender role reversal can leave some members of the opposite sex either slightly intimidated or just uncomfortable with the unknown. The good news is that this will only scare away a person who is not right for you!

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Tue 05/29/12 02:47 PM Edited by Kahurangi on Tue 05/29/12 02:58 PM
Yes, i suppose it was rather stupid of me to pose a question in such an intimidating way. I was trying to avoid having to go in depth on the question, because i find that too may layers tends to detract from the actual question. What i should've asked was....why do men feel intimidated by women who make more money than they do? It doesn't take intelligence to make money. That's a totally different topic. There's a $1.3 million dollar home right by the lake here, in an area where a $100K is an insane asking price on a home. There's nothing around here that would justify someone with that much money to stay here. It seems that money actually makes a lot of people stupid. I beg to differ....a professional woman making in excess of 100k per year who is very humble about it, as opposed to a potential partner who is a tradesman and earns much less and makes a big deal about her making more money than him. Edit because i don't know what a tadesman is

boonedoggy61 Joined Fri 09/09/11 Posts: 10425	Tue 05/29/12 02:54 PM
Yes, i suppose it was rather stupid of me to pose a question in such an intimidating way. I was trying to avoid having to go in depth on the question, because i find that too may layers tends to detract from the actual question. What i should've asked was....why do men feel intimidated by women who make more money than they do? It doesn't take intelligence to make money. That's a totally different topic. There's a $1.3 million dollar home right by the lake here, in an area where a $100K is an insane asking price on a home. There's nothing around here that would justify someone with that much money to stay here. It seems that money actually makes a lot of people stupid. I beg to differ....a professional woman making in excess of 100k per year who is very humble about it, as opposed to a potential partner who is a tadesman and earns much less and makes a big deal about her making more money than him. How much money ya got Kahurangi????? LOL

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21947	Tue 05/29/12 02:55 PM
Not all men are intimidated by women who are smarter or make more money than them. Most however do not care to hang around with women who thinking they are smart and make a lot of money act like A--holes.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Tue 05/29/12 02:56 PM
Not that I'm looking for a sugar mama, but I don't care how much my lady makes. As long as she can love me for me and I love her for her, I think we'll be OK. :) My lady is much more intelligent than me, and I'm OK with that, I think she finds it adorable. :P I do have to watch sometimes, she is very clever and sneaky. lol

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Tue 05/29/12 03:02 PM
Not all men are intimidated by women who are smarter or make more money than them. Most however do not care to hang around with women who thinking they are smart and make a lot of money act like A--holes. Why bring all the men into your statement, when you are clearly referring to yourself? Are you intimidated by the question?

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48973	Tue 05/29/12 03:04 PM
I find that any sort of gender role reversal can leave some members of the opposite sex either slightly intimidated or just uncomfortable with the unknown. The good news is that this will only scare away a person who is not right for you! As I see it, plenty of men have no problem with a role reversal. Women, however, don't always approve. The desire for gender equality tends to go out the window when it comes to socio-economic status. If a woman is a pauper, then she is supposed to be worthy of a man's love anyway. However, if a man is a pauper, then he is not considered worthy of a woman's love. Such thinking may have made sense back when only men were able to earn wealth, but that is not the case now.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Tue 05/29/12 03:06 PM
Yes, i suppose it was rather stupid of me to pose a question in such an intimidating way. I was trying to avoid having to go in depth on the question, because i find that too may layers tends to detract from the actual question. What i should've asked was....why do men feel intimidated by women who make more money than they do? It doesn't take intelligence to make money. That's a totally different topic. There's a $1.3 million dollar home right by the lake here, in an area where a $100K is an insane asking price on a home. There's nothing around here that would justify someone with that much money to stay here. It seems that money actually makes a lot of people stupid. I beg to differ....a professional woman making in excess of 100k per year who is very humble about it, as opposed to a potential partner who is a tadesman and earns much less and makes a big deal about her making more money than him. How much money ya got Kahurangi????? LOL Not enough for you pooch...you'd cost me too much!

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21947	Tue 05/29/12 03:14 PM
Not all men are intimidated by women who are smarter or make more money than them. Most however do not care to hang around with women who thinking they are smart and make a lot of money act like A--holes. Why bring all the men into your statement, when you are clearly referring to yourself? Are you intimidated by the question? The intimidation question has been posed a couple a thousand times in these forums, sometimes with the words; strong, outspoken, confident, or something else substituted for the word intelligent. The fact is, if you act like a dick, people are not going to want to date you for very long, unless of course you happen to give great head.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Tue 05/29/12 03:24 PM
Itelligence can never be measured...this we have established. Although some would like to argue the point. And acting like a dick is open to interpretation, which you have obviously interpreted as you saw fit to, and responded in an equally befitting way

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Tue 05/29/12 03:27 PM Edited by Ladylid2012 on Tue 05/29/12 03:28 PM
What i should've asked was....why do men feel intimidated by women who make more money than they do? Because of the double standard that some women use. If a man goes on a dinner date with a woman who makes more money than him, then the man is still expected to pay for the woman's meal. A man is made to believe that he won't be accepted unless he can pay for everything. "expected to pay for a woman's meal"...by who? "made to believe he won't be accepted unless he can pay for everything" Can't make ya believe anything..you accept that as your truth.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Tue 05/29/12 03:34 PM
Smart men are sometimes intimidated by smart women. Dumb men don't know a smart woman when he sees one, so he's just clueless. Most men don't care as long as they think they can get in your pants.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Tue 05/29/12 03:37 PM
Smart men are sometimes intimidated by smart women. Dumb men don't know a smart woman when he sees one, so he's just clueless. Most men don't care as long as they think they can get in your pants. I wouldn't say I'm dumb, but I'm not that smart either. I know a smart woman when I see one though. It does matter to me somewhat. I would much rather be the dumb one in the relationship. I would be worried if I were the smart one. lol

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Tue 05/29/12 03:39 PM
Smart men are sometimes intimidated by smart women. Dumb men don't know a smart woman when he sees one, so he's just clueless. Most men don't care as long as they think they can get in your pants. I wouldn't say I'm dumb, but I'm not that smart either. I know a smart woman when I see one though. It does matter to me somewhat. I would much rather be the dumb one in the relationship. I would be worried if I were the smart one. lol

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Tue 05/29/12 03:41 PM
I know one thing though. If you are a woman and you pretend to be a bubble head (dumb) you will attract a lot of men, but usually the wrong kind of men.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 05/29/12 03:41 PM
I'm curious to know if men are intimidated by smart women. Id bet there are DEFINITELY some men who are and others who arent.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Tue 05/29/12 03:43 PM
It's been my own experience and observation that the smart ones usually tend to be more stable and mature as well.

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Tue 05/29/12 03:47 PM
I find that any sort of gender role reversal can leave some members of the opposite sex either slightly intimidated or just uncomfortable with the unknown. The good news is that this will only scare away a person who is not right for you! As I see it, plenty of men have no problem with a role reversal. Women, however, don't always approve. The desire for gender equality tends to go out the window when it comes to socio-economic status. If a woman is a pauper, then she is supposed to be worthy of a man's love anyway. However, if a man is a pauper, then he is not considered worthy of a woman's love. Such thinking may have made sense back when only men were able to earn wealth, but that is not the case now. There are a lot of people out there who are still very traditional about gender roles. Obviously this is not the case for everyone but the lady asked a question and I was merely putting my 2 cents in. I have personally dated guys who seemed to be stuck in the 50's and needless to say it did NOT work out for me. I live very much in the NOW.