After my divorce, I jumped right into dating. I am told there is a rule for every 5 years of marriage, one year of not dating. That would put me at waiting two more years except I dated so did I screw up the rules?

There's rules on how you should feel and grieve? Is there a rule on how long it takes one personally to properly heal from something like that?

It may take one five years, may take another 10 years, some may even need as little as 5 minutes, and there's those that never will heal.

How long do you feel you need? Just make sure you really are ready to date again.

I was once told, if you can throw off the old hat and put on the new without feeling like you're wearing two hats at the same time, then you're ready to date.

I agree with that.

I dont think there can be 'rules' when it comes to dating after 'divorce'. Divorce is a process to get a piece of paper to SAY you are no longer together. The end of a relationship often comes months or YEARS before either is willing to actually invest time and money into a divorce. I should know, my first husband and I ended in 1993 but never bothered to get the paper until 2004.


So, I think there is probably some truth to how long it takes if you lose someone you really love to move on to someone new

but since most people break up with people they never really loved or they have long since stopped loving ,,,,,that rule is harder to apply to them....

The issue is the emotional stability of the one who is divorced. Is the divorcee craving physical affection so much that the person latches onto the the first person who comes along?

I never heard of those Rules ....don't like Rules anyway.

Hell sometimes even sooner

There are rules for this? Wow. :). I think it's best to try to recover in your own time. All these dating myths across the web aren't gonna apply to all. Just take your time. You will know when you feel ready to date again. I cannot go by these dating articles that i see on these advice sites. Time heals all :)

Hell, I say if your husband dies, and you want to date... wait at least two weeks.

Oh.... er... you were talking about divorce. mmmmmm...

Wait at least two weeks. You should be over it by then.

I don't know about the dating rule but I've been stacking hats all night just to see how many I can get on.

Bummer wish you had told me that.. I didnt know I had to wait that long.

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm im not done with my divorse yet n im in the scene with women all the time then again thats just me