Wow this finding a mate project is a full time job. Is anyone able to do this successfully in less than 12 hours a day? What about falling into that kind of serendipity where you don't have to look and the right person just shows up in your life? What happened to that?

If I go hiking on the Red River and hope to find a nice gal who likes hiking the Red River am I likely to find one, or more likely to get swallowed up in quicksand?

Hard to manage the things you like to do sometimes with the activity of finding someone to enjoy it with.

omg philosopher...You must have the same ideas I have about finding a mate.....12 hours a day? and then lay awake at night and wonder...where is he hiding? Yes, what happened to that thing about...you will find him when you least expect it? I know if it was me on the Red River, I would probably have more chances getting swallowed up by the quicksand..

All joking aside tho, I am usually a positive person, but I see where you are coming from....

I'd vote for the quicksand. But at least you're male. According to the latest statistics, an ugly middle aged woman is more likely to get a fat check from Ed McMahon or a fat belly from noshing on too many pizzas than a hubby, fat or otherwise.

Still, it's not all bad news. See Jokes section for 62 Reasons Why Cucumbers Are Better Than Men...

Awwwww.....now come on....nothing worth having comes easily, does it? To give up is to cease to live and breathe!

2 votes for quicksand...faucets come easily and they're worth having..

I just answered a wtf on another site. The lady's profile says she works two jobs but she ain't my momma. I sent her a reply. I put in that I thought she was prettier than my momma but for her not to tell my momma because it might hurt my momma's feelings. Do you think I should trust her or that she might try to tell my momma?

trust me, she'll tell your momma!..

On the bright side, I'm learning all kinds of things NOT to do --

DON'T look for potential mates on llamalove.com

DON'T argue with the guy in the Religion Forum who knows everything

DON'T admit to having a crush on anybody because SOMEBODY will figure out who it is and embarrass you in front of thousands of people

DON'T waste your time sending e-mails to any girls in Illinois

DON'T ask Mike and VC to use their hypnosis ray to brainwash girls and make them come over to your house (they frown on that, for some reason)

all true, Lex!..

I have no problem finding a mate..........but they always seem to be in a different country!!!

gypsy ...you and stanne have led me to conclude that men in B.C. are legally blind!..

no they aren't blind....they do stare and that is about it!!!

dumb??????????

Relax and they will come to see

i have a female friend, she's engaged to one of my best friends, she doesn't like anyone i take out and says i need to quit trying to find a girlfriend and then one will show up.
is it magic or something like that?
i've half way taken her advise, but in the back of my mind theres still something that says women don't make the first move. so whats the deal from a female perspective???

Im not sure about giving up.....but maybe she thinks you are acting all desperate and going for anyone and everything.

Try going to Hooters first and save the strip joints for the second date.

I can't speak for all women, but i for one Never make the first move...even if I am ever so interested in a guy....I am very shy.....

mE TOO SANDY~!!!! yOU can usually find me running into my house.....or car......or under a bush!!!

don....have you tried making butt pastry????