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O'h, believe me when I say that I am a profile reader. I know some men don't, I do.They don't put enough in their profiles to start with. Even those refuse to answer. While others may put enough but also refuse to answer. My profile pretty much contains my WHOLE freaken life. And anything it doesnt say, you can pretty much learn here if you post for about a week or so. I have found that at least on POF it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter how good your profile is or how well you write to the person. It's a 95% chance she will not answer.
I answer EVERY email I get, even if its just to say, "No thank you, and good luck in your search". I think its horribly RUDE not to, I found my dream man, Koby, on POF. When I was single, I hunted them down like you've never seen, and refused to give up the search for HIM! I dont believe in giving up on anything! Read my profile, and you will see why! We're not all cold, heartless, snotty, unrealistic, rude, biotches. I wish you all the luck in the world finding whatever you seek, but dont throw in the towel, or lump us all into one category, or your gonna miss her when she does show up. |
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I didn't say they didn't respond at all. That 20 is over a 6 year span. Wait min, Mis-calculated. I joined POF in 2005. That makes it 7 yrs. Not 6. The great majority of women a man writes there will turn their nose up to you. In other words, Over that 7 yr span I would say I've written close to 500 women. Just to get that 20. And only three of those that I can think of impressed me. Also, It seems that most of the people there don't use the forums. In the 7 yrs I've been there I have never seen anyone local to me on the forums. One more quirky thing. I don't know if this is everywhere or what. But like I said in another post. Women seem to want someone right out side there back door. To this day I have never gotten a woman to answer me that lives within 5 to 20 miles from me. It's a d.a.m.n if you do and d.a.m.n if you don't thing seems like. 50/60 miles is to far. 20 miles is to close. If your 5 miles away, You may as well forget it. I know, Sounds weird. But its the truth. It's like some want you at arms distance. But that's to close. If you're not at arms distance,That's to far. It's ike with some there is no middle ground. They can't be pleased either way. On line dating is weird to me. Ah, ok. Yeah, not everyone is going to answer. It will be like that on the internet. And I already responded to your post about the distance thing. I'll add it below as well. Not sure why it's quirky, or just a woman thing, though. I am one of those women who prefer to date someone local. Around here, 60 miles away could mean up to 2 hours depending on traffic and the time of day. And yes, I want to be able to see him during the week at times, rather than just on weekends. Does it always work out that way? No. Why would seeing someone during the week, rather than just on the weekend, come off as smothering? |
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You guys want to keep it down a little, trying to sleep here.
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You guys want to keep it down a little, trying to sleep here. |
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You guys want to keep it down a little, trying to sleep here. Well, maybe keep it to a small roar than. |
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You guys want to keep it down a little, trying to sleep here. Well, maybe keep it to a small roar than. I can offer a comfortable lap. |
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I didn't say they didn't respond at all. That 20 is over a 6 year span. Wait min, Mis-calculated. I joined POF in 2005. That makes it 7 yrs. Not 6. The great majority of women a man writes there will turn their nose up to you. In other words, Over that 7 yr span I would say I've written close to 500 women. Just to get that 20. And only three of those that I can think of impressed me. Also, It seems that most of the people there don't use the forums. In the 7 yrs I've been there I have never seen anyone local to me on the forums. One more quirky thing. I don't know if this is everywhere or what. But like I said in another post. Women seem to want someone right out side there back door. To this day I have never gotten a woman to answer me that lives within 5 to 20 miles from me. It's a d.a.m.n if you do and d.a.m.n if you don't thing seems like. 50/60 miles is to far. 20 miles is to close. If your 5 miles away, You may as well forget it. I know, Sounds weird. But its the truth. It's like some want you at arms distance. But that's to close. If you're not at arms distance,That's to far. It's ike with some there is no middle ground. They can't be pleased either way. On line dating is weird to me. Ah, ok. Yeah, not everyone is going to answer. It will be like that on the internet. And I already responded to your post about the distance thing. I'll add it below as well. Not sure why it's quirky, or just a woman thing, though. I am one of those women who prefer to date someone local. Around here, 60 miles away could mean up to 2 hours depending on traffic and the time of day. And yes, I want to be able to see him during the week at times, rather than just on weekends. Does it always work out that way? No. Why would seeing someone during the week, rather than just on the weekend, come off as smothering? OK, Maybe I didn't explain good enough. You are in one of the larger northern cities. Up in your direction it's much easier to find someone closer by. Here, It's not. All cities are spread out from each other. At the least,25 miles between each city. And as much as 125 miles. So that makes it even harder to find someone at your back door. By memory there is only 5 women on POF in my city. On this site, So far I haven't seen any at all. I have looked and seen some from GA here. But they are out away from where I am. 50 to 100 miles. Same on POF. So, If I were to meet one I would have to see her on the weekends. Right now I am working during the week. I look for that to change here before long. I will go back to working weekends and off during the week. The smothering thing, That's just me. Like I said, Maybe it's just the Aries in me. It's very easy for me to feel smothered. I'm 50. I've been alone almost all my life. I was only married for six yrs. I've been alone since I was 16. Stayed alone till I was 32. That's when I got married. I married a nut that drove me crazy for 6 yrs till I couldn't stand it anymore. It's been almost 12 yrs now since my divorce. I come and go as I please and do what I want when I want. I guess I've gotten use to it. So, When I am dating someone she has to be willing to give me a lot of space. If I see her once or twice a week I'm happy with that. At least at the start. Give me lots of room and eventually I'll move closer to you. I'll come around more. Push me to hard, to fast, I'm gone. As far as "quirky" goes. I sure it's a man thing to. But I can't speak about the men because I don't know about them. All I can speak about is my experience with women in general. A lot of them have no middle ground. Just to explain what kind of goofiness I'm talking about, I once had this woman from POF tell me that she wasn't interested because I lived to far. I think it was about 50 miles if I remember right. Then turned right around and told me that she wouldn't date anyone within 25 miles of her home. I had to ask why. She told me that she didn't want anyone to close because the farther away they were the less likely they were to stalk her if it didn't work out. OK, In one sense of the word I could see her reasoning. But in another it was kinda dumb. Any thing from 25 miles in towards her was out. Anything 50 and up was out. So that means everything after 25 miles was OK but 50 was to far. Can't you see the "weird" in this? I mean, If a guy has to be 25 miles out before you even consider him, What's 25 more? This is just one weird I've come across. there has been many more. |
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O'h, believe me when I say that I am a profile reader. I know some men don't, I do.They don't put enough in their profiles to start with. Even those refuse to answer. While others may put enough but also refuse to answer. My profile pretty much contains my WHOLE freaken life. And anything it doesnt say, you can pretty much learn here if you post for about a week or so. I have found that at least on POF it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter how good your profile is or how well you write to the person. It's a 95% chance she will not answer.
I answer EVERY email I get, even if its just to say, "No thank you, and good luck in your search". I think its horribly RUDE not to, I found my dream man, Koby, on POF. When I was single, I hunted them down like you've never seen, and refused to give up the search for HIM! I dont believe in giving up on anything! Read my profile, and you will see why! We're not all cold, heartless, snotty, unrealistic, rude, biotches. I wish you all the luck in the world finding whatever you seek, but dont throw in the towel, or lump us all into one category, or your gonna miss her when she does show up. Well, all I can say is, It's common place on POF to ignore messages. You see, Over their they say they don't own anybody a return message. No one owes any one anything. Sounds counter productive doesn't it? The women their say that the reason they don't answer messages is because so many men get ugly with them when they turn them down. Well, I can understand no one wants to be cussed at or fussed at. But on the other hand I know no one who likes being ignored either. It's like they think two wrongs make a right. With me that excuse just doesn't float. In the time I have been over there I have been cussed out plenty of times because I didn't answer fast enough. I had a woman tell me that she would like to bite my di#@ off and watch me bleed out just because I told her thanks but no thanks. I had a jesus freak tell me that she couldn't date me because I had to work on Sunday. She told me I was going to he!! if I didn't quit my job. When I told her that the bible also said that if you had an OX in the ditch on the sabbath day, Get it out. In other words, If you have to work on Sunday, Work. She laid into me telling me I was the devil incarnate. I've had women send me pictures without me asking of them pleasing themselves with B.O.B. Another one who was skizo sending me nude pics that I didn't ask for. I've seen and heard it all. I still answer messages. It's not right for me to take it out on other women that have done me no wrong. I don't know. Maybe it's my stupidity. I just don't understand ignoring 90 to 95 % of your messages. What's the point of being on a dating site if all you are going to do is look at a picture and a few words in a profile and turn your nose up at most everyone? Never participate in the forums and talk to people. Take time to learn about people. Senseless to me. To me everyone is deeper than what they have in there profile. I don't know. Most people I meet on dating sites seem to lack depth. They want to look at a picture and be turned on. Regardless of who the person really is behind there pretty face. There has to be more. |
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@ josie68 You're a good-looking woman. If a guy doesn't pay you any attention he's dead. (:o) I think the biggest problem with me, I'm in a small town in NW Georgia. There is nothing here really. We are pretty much a spot in the road. One of the main things I've noticed about dating sites, Not since gas got so high. But the whole six years I have been doing this on-line dating thing. Women in general seem to want men right outside their back door. I'm about 60 miles from the biggest city in Ga. Atlanta. The second largest is Macon. It's 125 miles away. Cities that are not as big as the big two, But still considered big are even farther away. Most women I come across don't want a man an hr or more away. It seems that seeing each other on the weekends is not enough for most. They want to be able to see their man during the week to. To me it almost comes off as wanting to be "smothering". Which, I guess it being I'm an Aries, I can't stand that. At least not in the start. Maybe down the road I would be OK with it. After we dated a couple of yrs maybe. I've had many to come on to strong to fast. It runs me off. Gotta get ready. Gotta go to work. I am one of those women who prefer to date someone local. Around here, 60 miles away could mean up to 2 hours depending on traffic and the time of day. And yes, I want to be able to see him during the week at times, rather than just on weekends. Does it always work out that way? No. Why would seeing someone during the week, rather than just on the weekend, come off as smothering? 60 Miles thats only 100ks. The closest town to us that has over 50 people is more than 3 hours away, and to get to a city that is over 20000 people you would have to travel for 2 days. we are at the top of the outback, distance is a part of life. Having husbands away is normal to a lot of us up here. but after visiting over there and seeing how close all your towns are, I can understand why distance seems like a big thing. You have everything at your fingertips. Here if we want to order a piece of furniture it takes up to 12 weeks to get here, if we want a new car thats not sitting on the floor then you wait up to 4 months, waiting is not that big a deal here |
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Here if we want to order a piece of furniture it takes up to 12 weeks to get here, if we want a new car thats not sitting on the floor then you wait up to 4 months, waiting is not that big a deal here Interesting lifestyle. If I need to wait five minutes past my time at my manicurist's spa, I get up and scream expletives at the top of my lungs. I threaten to take my business elsewhere. They usually give me a complimentary bj on the house, to quiet me down. It pays to complain. The squeeky wheel gets the oil. |
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wux
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Here if we want to order a piece of furniture it takes up to 12 weeks to get here, if we want a new car thats not sitting on the floor then you wait up to 4 months, waiting is not that big a deal here I hain't ever been to the Canadian outback. People who live there have 17 words for snow, and 38 for Vodka with Raw Whaleblubber. What have you got, Josie, for the equivalency of this? The Saudis have 13 words for sandstorm, and the Americans have 23 words for political speeches. There are more poeople living in a small suburb in Toronto than in the entire province and island of Newfoundland (half a million) and Newfoundland has ten times the population of those who live on 98 percent of the landmass of Canada, in the Canadian North. The North, by the way, is seventy-four percent water, lakes, rivers, and twenty six percent land. Of course the whole thing is ice, mostly, most of the year. Canada, in its natural state, is 99.999 percent snow-covered from mid-January to end of February. It's friggin' cold here, man. Those who live there, in the far norht, they love it. They wouldn't change their location for anything in the world. Probably coz they have to wait fourteen months for the mortgage company to turn them down. Four of the eleven provinces of Canada have over five million residents. The tiny island of Prince Edward Island, which is a province, has 143,000 people, when the university is in session. They are the most richly represented peoples in any province in Canada in the Canadian National Assembly. Of the 322 seats, 22 are for PEI. Yet the jokes are always made on the Newfoundlanders. There is a spot, a town or area, in Newfoundland, where people speak straight Chaucerean English. Oxford scholars go there for their sabbaticals to write their books on the Canterbury Tales. And there is more: Newfoundland has a Placenta Bay, and a settlement called Dildo, and even National Georgraphic maps and atlases show them such as that. |
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OK, Maybe I didn't explain good enough. You are in one of the larger northern cities. Up in your direction it's much easier to find someone closer by. Here, It's not. All cities are spread out from each other. At the least,25 miles between each city. And as much as 125 miles. So that makes it even harder to find someone at your back door. By memory there is only 5 women on POF in my city. On this site, So far I haven't seen any at all. I have looked and seen some from GA here. But they are out away from where I am. 50 to 100 miles. Same on POF. So, If I were to meet one I would have to see her on the weekends. Right now I am working during the week. I look for that to change here before long. I will go back to working weekends and off during the week. The smothering thing, That's just me. Like I said, Maybe it's just the Aries in me. It's very easy for me to feel smothered. I'm 50. I've been alone almost all my life. I was only married for six yrs. I've been alone since I was 16. Stayed alone till I was 32. That's when I got married. I married a nut that drove me crazy for 6 yrs till I couldn't stand it anymore. It's been almost 12 yrs now since my divorce. I come and go as I please and do what I want when I want. I guess I've gotten use to it. So, When I am dating someone she has to be willing to give me a lot of space. If I see her once or twice a week I'm happy with that. At least at the start. Give me lots of room and eventually I'll move closer to you. I'll come around more. Push me to hard, to fast, I'm gone. As far as "quirky" goes. I sure it's a man thing to. But I can't speak about the men because I don't know about them. All I can speak about is my experience with women in general. A lot of them have no middle ground. Just to explain what kind of goofiness I'm talking about, I once had this woman from POF tell me that she wasn't interested because I lived to far. I think it was about 50 miles if I remember right. Then turned right around and told me that she wouldn't date anyone within 25 miles of her home. I had to ask why. She told me that she didn't want anyone to close because the farther away they were the less likely they were to stalk her if it didn't work out. OK, In one sense of the word I could see her reasoning. But in another it was kinda dumb. Any thing from 25 miles in towards her was out. Anything 50 and up was out. So that means everything after 25 miles was OK but 50 was to far. Can't you see the "weird" in this? I mean, If a guy has to be 25 miles out before you even consider him, What's 25 more? This is just one weird I've come across. there has been many more. No, I got what you were saying. Though, just because you're willing to go a farther distance when dating someone, it does not mean everyone else in your area will feel the same. It all comes down to preference. I don't follow astrology much, so telling me you're an Aries means nothing. But, it sounds like it has more to do with you being very set in your ways. Perhaps you need to learn to relax a little and just let things happen as they happen. Being so set in your ways may scare people off. I mean, you said earlier in the thread that maybe after two years of a relationship you could see someone during the week. You don't think that's a bit odd? Wanting some space is one thing. Never wanting to see someone during the week while dating is another. But hey, if it works for you, awesome. I don't know what traffic is like there, but here 25 miles could turn into an hour depending on the time of day and traffic. So, I can absolutely see why someone may want to stick closer to home. I don't see how that's weird at all, actually. |
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Hummm I'm another that prefers those that live within the same area as I do.. I have tried the LDR it sucks I'm sorry I get tired of all the distance stuff....
I want someone that lives within the same area so we can actually meet during the week if we choose too and can get to know each other on a one on one... I'm not willing to relocate...I promise ya if I do they will have to be one hell of a man to make me go that distance.. |
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Hummm I'm another that prefers those that live within the same area as I do.. I have tried the LDR it sucks I'm sorry I get tired of all the distance stuff.... I want someone who lives within the same area so we can actually meet during the week if we choose too and can get to know each other on a one on one... I'm not willing to relocate...I promise ya if I do they will have to be one hell of a man to make me go that distance.. That's pretty much my point. No one wants to give a little. Which seems to me makes on-line dating pointless. I guess what I am trying to say is, No one so far is really local to me. At the very least I have to travel 25 miles. By the time I get off from work in the evenings I don't have time to travel 25 miles during the week. By the time I get home and do what I need to do it's pretty much time to go to bed so I can get up at 5am. So the only thing left for me at this point is weekends. Right now I am off on weekends. Since there is no one close around me all that is left is to travel to her. So there is the reason I'm alone. (Partly) You're right. Maybe I am sorta set in my ways. Being alone almost all your life will do that to you. Another thing that will do it to you is never meeting women who are willing to bend a little. Most I meet want everything their way. Including how they see me. It's like they don't understand that for the most part, At least in my part of the world, You're not always going to find that good man you say you want right outside your back door. He isn't always going to be "johnny - on - the - spot just because you want him there three or more times a week. Sometimes it just doesn't work that way. Some men you have to take them which ever way you can get them. That's where having real feeling for him comes in. I have never met a woman who has that real feeling. Maybe that's my problem too? By the way, I work security. I do travel some. It depends on "who" or "what" needs guarding. That doesn't help my dating situation much either. Right now I am more on "what" than I am "who". |
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My favorites are the ones where they say "I read your profile and I really loved it! Where are you and what do you do?" Uh, that's IN my profile. If you had actually read it, you wouldn't be asking. Lately I'm getting a lot of one-word messages: "Hi" or "hello," with nothing else. Nothing much to work with. I would agree, of course, unless they have enormous gazoongas. I like to work those. |
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That's pretty much my point. No one wants to give a little. Which seems to me makes on-line dating pointless. I guess what I am trying to say is, No one so far is really local to me. At the very least I have to travel 25 miles. By the time I get off from work in the evenings I don't have time to travel 25 miles during the week. By the time I get home and do what I need to do it's pretty much time to go to bed so I can get up at 5am. So the only thing left for me at this point is weekends. Right now I am off on weekends. Since there is no one close around me all that is left is to travel to her. So there is the reason I'm alone. (Partly) You're right. Maybe I am sorta set in my ways. Being alone almost all your life will do that to you. Another thing that will do it to you is never meeting women who are willing to bend a little. Most I meet want everything their way. Including how they see me. It's like they don't understand that for the most part, At least in my part of the world, You're not always going to find that good man you say you want right outside your back door. He isn't always going to be "johnny - on - the - spot just because you want him there three or more times a week. Sometimes it just doesn't work that way. Some men you have to take them which ever way you can get them. That's where having real feeling for him comes in. I have never met a woman who has that real feeling. Maybe that's my problem too? By the way, I work security. I do travel some. It depends on "who" or "what" needs guarding. That doesn't help my dating situation much either. Right now I am more on "what" than I am "who". In the beginning of your post, you just explained why people want to date locally, rather than having to drive a ways to see people. Online is just another way to meet people. It isn't pointless, as it gives you a way to meet people you may not meet otherwise. As stated, I prefer to date locally. Does that mean I would never give someone another chance? Of course not. But, that does not mean I'm going to go out with just anyone who lives farther away. |
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Here if we want to order a piece of furniture it takes up to 12 weeks to get here, if we want a new car thats not sitting on the floor then you wait up to 4 months, waiting is not that big a deal here I hain't ever been to the Canadian outback. People who live there have 17 words for snow, and 38 for Vodka with Raw Whaleblubber. What have you got, Josie, for the equivalency of this? The Saudis have 13 words for sandstorm, and the Americans have 23 words for political speeches. There are more poeople living in a small suburb in Toronto than in the entire province and island of Newfoundland (half a million) and Newfoundland has ten times the population of those who live on 98 percent of the landmass of Canada, in the Canadian North. The North, by the way, is seventy-four percent water, lakes, rivers, and twenty six percent land. Of course the whole thing is ice, mostly, most of the year. Canada, in its natural state, is 99.999 percent snow-covered from mid-January to end of February. It's friggin' cold here, man. Those who live there, in the far norht, they love it. They wouldn't change their location for anything in the world. Probably coz they have to wait fourteen months for the mortgage company to turn them down. Four of the eleven provinces of Canada have over five million residents. The tiny island of Prince Edward Island, which is a province, has 143,000 people, when the university is in session. They are the most richly represented peoples in any province in Canada in the Canadian National Assembly. Of the 322 seats, 22 are for PEI. Yet the jokes are always made on the Newfoundlanders. There is a spot, a town or area, in Newfoundland, where people speak straight Chaucerean English. Oxford scholars go there for their sabbaticals to write their books on the Canterbury Tales. And there is more: Newfoundland has a Placenta Bay, and a settlement called Dildo, and even National Georgraphic maps and atlases show them such as that. Wux, The Northern territory is the land of the Laid Back. NT(Northern Territory) stands for Not Today Not tomorrow, Not Tuesday Not Thursday Probably Not the Next Truck. So if you are impatient, here is probably not a good place to be. Our coldest months average 29C around 88 F our warmer ones 35C around 98F so all year is nice and warm. We have two seasons the wet and the dry, Through the dry we normally have no rain for 4 tp 6 months and through the wet it pretty much rains every afternoon, it can be sunnty one sec then it drops We have 211 000 people in 1,352,176 square km We are who we are and dont really give a rats behind if people don't like our manners, our clothes or our country, basically it's ours so they can deal with it, we hurry for no one, thats just a way of life. If we want to stop and chat for an hour we do. We seem to have more holidays than the rest of the country and even on our work days it's realy still relaxed and holiday like anyway. You can drive for hours and not hit a town. We laugh at everything and everyone, life is a joke. It's how we cope, the more we like you the more we will hassel you. We probably have more snakes and spiders that can kill you then most of the world, but really we don't notice as they are just part of life, and if they dont get you then a croc might. As for our speach, most of our words are shortened so that we can say what you do in about a quarter of the time, half the Americans and Canadians can;t understand us but thats cool, we know what we are saying. So wux, thats the Northern Territory in a nut shell |
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That's pretty much my point. No one wants to give a little. Which seems to me makes on-line dating pointless. I guess what I am trying to say is, No one so far is really local to me. At the very least I have to travel 25 miles. By the time I get off from work in the evenings I don't have time to travel 25 miles during the week. By the time I get home and do what I need to do it's pretty much time to go to bed so I can get up at 5am. So the only thing left for me at this point is weekends. Right now I am off on weekends. Since their is no one close around me all that is left is to travel to her. So there is the reason I'm alone. (Partly) You're right. Maybe I am sorta set in my ways. Being alone almost all your life will do that to you. Another thing that will do it to you is never meeting women who are willing to bend a little. Most I meet want everything their way. Including how they see me. It's like they don't understand that for the most part, At least in my part of the world, You're not always going to find that good man you say you want right outside your back door. He isn't always going to be "johnny - on - the - spot just because you want him there three or more times a week. Sometimes it just doesn't work that way. Some men you have to take them which ever way you can get them. That's where having real feeling for him comes in. I have never met a woman who has that real feeling. Maybe that's my problem too? By the way, I work security. I do travel some. It depends on "who" or "what" needs guarding. That doesn't help my dating situation much either. Right now I am more on "what" than I am "who". In the beginning of your post, you just explained why people want to date locally, rather than having to drive a ways to see people. Online is just another way to meet people. It isn't pointless, as it gives you a way to meet people you may not meet otherwise. As stated, I prefer to date locally. Does that mean I would never give someone another chance? Of course not. But, that does not mean I'm going to go out with just anyone who lives farther away. I'm only talking about what I've seen so far after 6 yrs of doing this. Some of the things that have made online dating hard. Not just for me. For a lot of people. If I was to tell you everything I've seen so far after 6 yrs, You would most likely ask me why I'm still doing this. Sometimes I do feel like it's pointless. Maybe it's just the place I've been. If you go to POF and stay there for a while you might see why I'm the way I am. Anyway, Yes, There is a part of me that feels like this is pointless. But on the other hand I tell myself that somewhere along the way maybe my patience will pay off. Maybe you are the type that will bend a little. If you are you are the first one I have met. Maybe if you met a man who you really liked you would bend a little to see him. Me personally, I've never had that to happen. I've had women to tell me right to my face that they didn't want to see me anymore because I couldn't be there every time they wanted me to be. That just told me they didn't think as much of me as they let on they did. They were not for real. They were just going through the motions. That's why I'm here. I'm trying to find out if it's different @ other places. Will women in general answer better here? Will I meet better quality people? I'm here to find out. Maybe I will be a little less sour later on. On another note. I will say one thing that I like here so far. POF forums is pretty much a fuss box. You can't hardly get on the forums and speak your mind, Join the conversation, Without someone wanting to fuss. I'm sorta plain-spoken. But I mean no harm. People here seem so far like they will at least try to talk to one another in a respectful way without low rating someone because they don't think about things or see things like they do. I like a good debate. But I don't like to fuss. Over there they will not just tell you you're wrong about something, And then explain there take about why they think you're wrong. They gotta call you an idiot or dumb a$$ first. I don't go for that. So far I like these forums. |
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That's pretty much my point. No one wants to give a little. Which seems to me makes on-line dating pointless. I guess what I am trying to say is, No one so far is really local to me. At the very least I have to travel 25 miles. By the time I get off from work in the evenings I don't have time to travel 25 miles during the week. By the time I get home and do what I need to do it's pretty much time to go to bed so I can get up at 5am. So the only thing left for me at this point is weekends. Right now I am off on weekends. Since their is no one close around me all that is left is to travel to her. So there is the reason I'm alone. (Partly) You're right. Maybe I am sorta set in my ways. Being alone almost all your life will do that to you. Another thing that will do it to you is never meeting women who are willing to bend a little. Most I meet want everything their way. Including how they see me. It's like they don't understand that for the most part, At least in my part of the world, You're not always going to find that good man you say you want right outside your back door. He isn't always going to be "johnny - on - the - spot just because you want him there three or more times a week. Sometimes it just doesn't work that way. Some men you have to take them which ever way you can get them. That's where having real feeling for him comes in. I have never met a woman who has that real feeling. Maybe that's my problem too? By the way, I work security. I do travel some. It depends on "who" or "what" needs guarding. That doesn't help my dating situation much either. Right now I am more on "what" than I am "who". In the beginning of your post, you just explained why people want to date locally, rather than having to drive a ways to see people. Online is just another way to meet people. It isn't pointless, as it gives you a way to meet people you may not meet otherwise. As stated, I prefer to date locally. Does that mean I would never give someone another chance? Of course not. But, that does not mean I'm going to go out with just anyone who lives farther away. I'm only talking about what I've seen so far after 6 yrs of doing this. Some of the things that have made online dating hard. Not just for me. For a lot of people. If I was to tell you everything I've seen so far after 6 yrs, You would most likely ask me why I'm still doing this. Sometimes I do feel like it's pointless. Maybe it's just the place I've been. If you go to POF and stay there for a while you might see why I'm the way I am. Anyway, Yes, There is a part of me that feels like this is pointless. But on the other hand I tell myself that somewhere along the way maybe my patience will pay off. Maybe you are the type that will bend a little. If you are you are the first one I have met. Maybe if you met a man who you really liked you would bend a little to see him. Me personally, I've never had that to happen. I've had women to tell me right to my face that they didn't want to see me anymore because I couldn't be there every time they wanted me to be. That just told me they didn't think as much of me as they let on they did. They were not for real. They were just going through the motions. That's why I'm here. I'm trying to find out if it's different @ other places. Will women in general answer better here? Will I meet better quality people? I'm here to find out. Maybe I will be a little less sour later on. On another note. I will say one thing that I like here so far. POF forums is pretty much a fuss box. You can't hardly get on the forums and speak your mind, Join the conversation, Without someone wanting to fuss. I'm sorta plain-spoken. But I mean no harm. People here seem so far like they will at least try to talk to one another in a respectful way without low rating someone because they don't think about things or see things like they do. I like a good debate. But I don't like to fuss. Over there they will not just tell you you're wrong about something, And then explain there take about why they think you're wrong. They gotta call you an idiot or dumb a$$ first. I don't go for that. So far I like these forums. Maybe try meeting women in different ways? Online dating, in my opinion, should just be one way to meet people, not the only way. Get involved in activities/groups around where you are and try to meet people that way. |
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That's pretty much my point. No one wants to give a little. Which seems to me makes on-line dating pointless. I guess what I am trying to say is, No one so far is really local to me. At the very least I have to travel 25 miles. By the time I get off from work in the evenings I don't have time to travel 25 miles during the week. By the time I get home and do what I need to do it's pretty much time to go to bed so I can get up at 5am. So the only thing left for me at this point is weekends. Right now I am off on weekends. Since there is no one close around me all that is left is to travel to her. So their is the reason I'm alone. (Partly) You're right. Maybe I am sorta set in my ways. Being alone almost all your life will do that to you. Another thing that will do it to you is never meeting women who are willing to bend a little. Most I meet want everything their way. Including how they see me. It's like they don't understand that for the most part, At least in my part of the world, You're not always going to find that good man you say you want right outside your back door. He isn't always going to be "johnny - on - the - spot just because you want him there three or more times a week. Sometimes it just doesn't work that way. Some men you have to take them which ever way you can get them. That's where having real feeling for him comes in. I have never met a woman who has that real feeling. Maybe that's my problem too? By the way, I work security. I do travel some. It depends on "who" or "what" needs guarding. That doesn't help my dating situation much either. Right now I am more on "what" than I am "who". In the beginning of your post, you just explained why people want to date locally, rather than having to drive a ways to see people. Online is just another way to meet people. It isn't pointless, as it gives you a way to meet people you may not meet otherwise. As stated, I prefer to date locally. Does that mean I would never give someone another chance? Of course not. But, that does not mean I'm going to go out with just anyone who lives farther away. I'm only talking about what I've seen so far after 6 yrs of doing this. Some of the things that have made online dating hard. Not just for me. For a lot of people. If I was to tell you everything I've seen so far after 6 yrs, You would most likely ask me why I'm still doing this. Sometimes I do feel like it's pointless. Maybe it's just the place I've been. If you go to POF and stay there for a while you might see why I'm the way I am. Anyway, Yes, There is a part of me that feels like this is pointless. But on the other hand I tell myself that somewhere along the way maybe my patience will pay off. Maybe you are the type that will bend a little. If you are you are the first one I have met. Maybe if you met a man who you really liked you would bend a little to see him. Me personally, I've never had that to happen. I've had women to tell me right to my face that they didn't want to see me anymore because I couldn't be there every time they wanted me to be. That just told me they didn't think as much of me as they let on they did. They were not for real. They were just going through the motions. That's why I'm here. I'm trying to find out if it's different @ other places. Will women in general answer better here? Will I meet better quality people? I'm here to find out. Maybe I will be a little less sour later on. On another note. I will say one thing that I like here so far. POF forums is pretty much a fuss box. You can't hardly get on the forums and speak your mind, Join the conversation, Without someone wanting to fuss. I'm sorta plain-spoken. But I mean no harm. People here seem so far like they will at least try to talk to one another in a respectful way without low rating someone because they don't think about things or see things like they do. I like a good debate. But I don't like to fuss. Over there they will not just tell you you're wrong about something, And then explain there take about why they think you're wrong. They gotta call you an idiot or dumb a$$ first. I don't go for that. So far I like these forums. Maybe try meeting women in different ways? Online dating, in my opinion, should just be one way to meet people, not the only way. Get involved in activities/groups around where you are and try to meet people that way.
I know. I've told others the exact same thing. I guess that's why after 6 yrs I haven't gotten so frustrated and quit all together. If you rely on just this to meet people, You're well on your way to throwing both hands in the air and run screaming to the hills.. |
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