so tired of no adult conversation! i want someone to take me out damb it. too much? :frustrated

Possibly. You said you are still married? That can be an issue with some people.

Welcome to the site. Good luck to you.

Welcome best of luck.

So you are saying your not married to an adult???

it is very complicated. we have been married almost 12 years. but recently he has mentioned to me he thinks he is here just for the kids. i just miss being taken out too. he goes out with guy friends and i am not opposed to it. but i havent the oppertunity to make friends or the want. i really want some romance. not sure where we are going from here. just going...

Seriously, most guys aren't going to want to take on that kind of
baggage unless they are just looking to get laid.

"at the end of your life death dosnt pop up with a coupon for living with an idiot" -Christopher titus....best of luck to u :-)

Welcome to Mingle.

not looking for anyone to "take on" any of my "bagage". Really just want to go out with someone local and that is willing to have fun. it doesnt have to be complicated like that. I want to live some while I figure this crap out.

What about your husband? Sounds like there's some things you two need to talk about.

bjental...sounds like a time bomb for anyone who approaches. I understand you are feeling alone however maybe you should consider changing your wording.
You have the power to change your life in any way. Don't wait for the opportunity to come to you.
Best of luck to you though. Welcome!

I can understand that. I imagine it is a difficult and confusing situation to deal with. I hope you find what you seek on here, just be careful to not be taken advantage of. I will also say there are a lot of great people that are always happy to talk and assist with any questions or thoughts you might be feeling.

Good luck.

oohhh bother... i guess i never thought that it would be anything serious like this... like a well known cartoon guy i like to quote "dogh"

Most are not going to want to be some side thing while you figure your marriage out.

Welcome to Mingle2

i respect that. thank you for the advice. at least i am able to make a couple of friends on here.

I have some female married friends. They really help at our meetings. Recovery is such a wonderful thing. It is a bit awkward when the husband answers the phone with some of them. But after the husbands get to know you and see that you aren't trying to make a move on their wives they appreciate you coming to get the wife and taking her to a meeting. We got a great treasurer that way at our local meeting. We even got our secretary to come back that way, too. At the rate things are going with the wives we may even be able to have an Al-anon soon. With another wife I have even been able to give up the chair position. One male member said that he is worried because he says that he thinks the group is turning into a lonely hearts club but I would bet money if he would bring his wife to the meeting that she would disagree with him. Our treasurer said that she prefers the mixed group to an all female group even though she still goes to that one, too. You would be surprised how much more help the wives are at making the sure the church is cleaned up after we leave there. Two wives even agreed to be contact persons between the church and the meeting. If this keeps up I will be able to give up having to be responsible for everything and just sit back being just a regular member. And that doesn't even go into the amount of cookies and baked stuff for the meeting. I think we may even be able to compete with the girl scouts soon.

Sometimes in life you are going to have problems in your life. You think that yiouyr happy and when it comes doown to it you try to be the best that you can. Your children come first focus your efforts to them and try to put any heartache behind you then maybe life will have some meaning to you. Once your children are grown you will be on your own.

Welcome to mingle. I think you'll get some great advice here, plus it will give you a chance to unwind a little. Hope all works out for you and your family.